Should I stay or go?

Jedrnurse, BSN, RN · Oct 5, 2020

Why would you believe your boss this time? What's changed?

The new job sounds great. (Mind you, you'll never know for sure until you're working there, but the benefits sound worth the pay cut.)

ruby_jane, BSN, RN · Oct 5, 2020

41 minutes ago, evamomo said:

My boss is also mean, condescending and two faced. I have tried to resign once before, but was persuaded to stay. She gave me false promises and never followed through on her word.

You've given me two reasons that I would run, not walk, to the other job.

meanmaryjean, DNP, RN · Oct 5, 2020

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

beekee · Oct 5, 2020

Change is scary...but also can be good and necessary. It sounds like this move is long overdue.

amoLucia · Oct 5, 2020

16 minutes ago, meanmaryjean said:

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

I'd LOVE to needlepoint this for a wall hanging!!

OP - take the new job!

yaRNthrower, BSN, RN · Oct 5, 2020

Don't think twice and run like the wind.

Sour Lemon · Oct 5, 2020

2 hours ago, evamomo said:

Hello everyone. I am asking advice on my current situation. I am a nurse care coordinator at a primary care physician's office and have been there for 2 years now. The volume is higher than any other office in the medical group. My boss is also mean, condescending and two faced. I have tried to resign once before, but was persuaded to stay. She gave me false promises and never followed through on her word. Now, I have another job offer that I accepted. It would be for another doctor's office. Not that high of a volume. It's a well known company with lots of growth. The benefits are great, there is tuition reimbursement, more vacation days and I would be wearing scrubs. I would be taking a pay cut, but it would definitely pan out in the end. I even negotiated my hours. There isn't any remote work and I may be furloughed if a second wave hits.

My current boss asked me to stay. She said she would try to reorganize the workflow of care coordination. So I made a pro and cons list twice and I am leaning towards the new job. I was just wondering if anyone could give me any feedback? Or has anyone ever been in the same situation?

I'll go against the grain here and say...

Now's not a great time to be the newest staff member, especially if there's already talk of furlough. What good are the hours, benefits, and vacation time if you're not actually working? And how long do these things take to kick in, anyway? Furloughs can end a few different ways, and some of those ways are not good.

How big of a pay cut are you looking at for these "maybe if you don't get laid off" pros?

On the flip side ...after quitting, then staying, then quitting, then staying (if that's what you choose), I would expect less respect and less consideration from the current employer, not more. I would also expect to be replaced without a second thought if my employer came across a better option. You're sort of damned if you do and damned if you don't at this point. I think I'd just flip a coin.

NotFlo · Oct 10, 2020

I work in primary care. What does the care coordinator do in your clinic (just curious). Are the responsibilities the same in the other clinic?

I hate changing jobs, which is why I have had 3 jobs in my entire nursing career. However, there comes a time when it's time to go. I'm reaching that point with my job now.

Been there,done that, ASN, RN · Oct 10, 2020

You have a very good offer, that you have already accepted.

Are you afraid of changing? Change is always hard, everytime I did it.. it turned out for the better.

" My boss is also mean, condescending and two faced. " Everytime I changed it was for these reasons. We don't leave the job, we leave the manager.

Best wishes.

DaniannaRN, ASN, BSN · Oct 10, 2020

I would take the new job, without a doubt. If your current job valued you, they would have done these things already instead of waiting until you found something else. I'm at a job now where my manager does not value me whatsoever, so I speak from experience.

Imho, if you already told them that you have a new job then decide to stay, it won't go well. They will now question your loyalty to the company (not fair but they may do so) and you may be the first to go if they have to downsize. Your boss may also throw it up in your face all the time how she did all these great things for you so now you don't need that raise or promotion.

Starting a new job is scary (how do you know if they are better or worse) but you don't want to spend your time in a bad work environment. Work is a business relationship, not a place for the little guy/girl to be abused and mistreated by the management.

Long Term Care Columnist / Guide · Oct 11, 2020

Your boss isn't going to change. Why should she, when you and your co-workers allow her to treat you badly? (Please understand that I'm not slamming you personally, just that bad managers have no motivation to stop being mean and nasty because their subordinates don't stand up to them.) If I were you I would run, not walk, to the new job and never look back. I don't advise burning your bridges, because you never know if the job will work out and you might need your old employer again, plus that manager may get fired or move on to another job herself. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide to do. Viva