Quote from Beldar_the_Cenobite
I've seen some scars and had a look on my face like "what the hell is wrong with you?"
I blame parents. Parents are who kids, from the chute on up to 18, spend the most time with. No other adult. What time they spend in classroom is nowhere near as long as how they spend it with their personal families at home. Teachers won't provide you with breakfast and a warm meal at night and a bed. The parents do. That means that the amount of time they grow and learn how to behave is dependent on how the parent behaves and acts. If the parent likes to be informal and not resourceful, the kid will probably have an expectation that their parent will take care of them until they grow up and can feel good about leaving the house without a worry in the world about how they'll pay their rent. This is not always true. Eventually, the parent will grow tired of the kid thinking that the kid has no direction, but because the parent lacks resourceful information that provides useful for the kid, the parent struggles. Parents who are informal/formal and resourceful will raise kids probably the most effective way to live.
My daughter was a cutter. Let me tell you something, it sucks to see your kid hurting so badly, that she feels cutting herself is her only option to feel better. "Obviously spoiled" is not a term that I would use to describe my child, or others that I have encountered who cut.
I am not a teen mother, had her when I was 28 years old in case you were wondering. She always had a warm meal and a bed at home. I am not going to bore you with my life and her life story, but suffice it to say, this type of behavior can happen to anyone, from any walk of life.
I find your response to this type of behavior from students under our care as school nurses very judgmental, and kind of confusing. I don't understand what you mean by a "resourceful" and "informal" parent.
Our job as school nurses is to meet the student where they are emotionally and physically, and be a calm, non-judgmental resource for these students. I don't assume anything about a student who comes to me with cutting behaviors. I physically assess the cuts and treat them, I assess suicidal ideation, and I refer to guidance. Often times guidance will bring these students to me for treatment.