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RN tried to talk me out of Nursing school...

So I went to my GP's private clinic today to get blood work, a PPD round, and antibody titers done for nursing school which I'll be starting this coming Fall. Upon meeting with his nurse, I told her I needed all of this done for nursing school. She blankly stared at me for a good three seconds and then asked: "Why in the world are you going to nursing school?". I wasn't sure what she meant by that, so I asked her to clarify. She said "Well, you're a young guy with flawless English skills. What the heck are you getting yourself in to?" (This Nurse is a Russian immigrant, whose English skills are not perfect. I'm Russian too, but came here at a very young age unlike her. I guess a lot of Nurses in New York City are immigrants that lack great language skills so they choose nursing as a "last resort" profession apparently?). She went on to explain to me how nobody is hiring right now, and that hospitals are closing. She assumed I was going for an Associates degree, but the program I'm entering is for the BSN. I told her this, and then she questioned why I didn't go for PA or PT instead. I told her Nursing is what I truly wanted to do, and she smirked and said "Okay, you don't understand the situation yet. You'll see."

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Not that I was discouraged by this, but I found it interesting how bitter some people can be against their own profession. Especially a nurse, who knows that there is a dire need for people to enter the profession, especially as many baby-boomer nurses are going to retire in the coming years.

Have you ever had people try to discourage you when you told them you were going into nursing? And do you regret not taking their advice?

I think I know what I'm getting myself into (hopefully), and I'm mentally prepared. I just hope that at some point in the future I won't end up hating my job like she does...

Lovely_RN, MSN

Has 11 years experience.

I think it was very rude of her to offer you unsolicited advice. That said...she does have a point. Being a nurse is interesting and meaningful work but it definitely isn't glamorous and it is hard to get a job right now even with a BSN. This is just my opinion but PA and PT is more on par with an NP than a floor nurse.

sauconyrunner

Has 11 years experience. Specializes in Emergency.

I think the most shocking thing here is that your GP actually employs a Registered Nurse in the office.

Stephalump

Has 2 years experience. Specializes in Forensic Psych.

It seems to me that she was just trying to alert you to the negative realities of the profession. Your use of the term "dire need" implies that you may, in fact, need a dose of that.

I think in any profession there will be people who will welcome you on the bandwagon with starry-eyed ideals, and there will be people who feel the need to make sure you know how often the bandwagon breaks down on the side of the road. I don't think most on either side are trying to be hurtful, but they both can be if not kept in check. Just do your research, set your goals accordingly, and move forward :)

Lovely_RN,

I agree. She also tried to scare me with the NCLEX, claiming she failed it three times, and knew somebody who was in the top third of his class in a good program who failed it six times then gave up...

Scarlette Wings

Has 27 years experience. Specializes in M/S, ICU, ICP.

Perhaps that person chose nursing as a last resort but many people choose it as a first choice, or like me, after my son died I saw it as a way to pay people back for the handful of wonderful nurses that made my path through childhood cancer more tolerable. I never do well with pediatrics or deathly ill children, but find I am a natural with adults and ICU and end of life care with the elderly or terminal.

Please do not let anyone else's negativity destroy your vision for your life. :)

sauconyrunner

Has 11 years experience. Specializes in Emergency.

Lovely_RN,

I agree. She also tried to scare me with the NCLEX, claiming she failed it three times, and knew somebody who was in the top third of his class in a good program who failed it six times then gave up...

Well that just says she and that guy went to a program that did not prepare them for the NCLEX. It's really not that crazy of an exam.

There is Nothing wrong with being a Nurse. I enjoy my work. I do think that it is a difficult time to enter the profession, dire need or not, it seems no one is hiring.

roser13, ASN, RN

Has 17 years experience. Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

I think the most shocking thing here is that your GP actually employs a Registered Nurse in the office.
She may or may not have been a nurse. She may or may not have been an RN. She might have been an LPN with a grudge against RN's who command a higher rate of pay.She may have been a Medical Assistant who has come to believe that she can can do anything and everything that a licensed nurse can do and doesn't understand why anyone would pay money to go to school to obtain a licensed position.

She may or may not have been a nurse. She may or may not have been an RN. She might have been an LPN with a grudge against RN's who command a higher rate of pay.She may have been a Medical Assistant who has come to believe that she can can do anything and everything that a licensed nurse can do and doesn't understand why anyone would pay money to go to school to obtain a licensed position.

You mean everyone who wears scrubs and a scope around her/his neck isn't always a nurse?

KimberlyRN89, BSN, RN

Specializes in Med-Surg/urology.

You mean everyone who wears scrubs and a scope around her/his neck isn't always a nurse?

:lol2::lol2:

Katie82, RN

Has 38 years experience. Specializes in Med Surg, Tele, PH, CM.

I actually tried to talk my son out of nursing, but this was 20 years ago. I was not trying to discourage him from becoming a nurse as much as from the treatment I knew he would receive in nursing school. There was a time when men were not particularly welcomed by nursing programs, as was the case in my own. We had 2 male student in my program and the discrimination was blatent. Things have changed. My son is not only a good nurse, but he is involved in an organization that works to encourage men to enter the profession. My guess would be that the "nurse" you encountered was trained in her home country and unable to transfer credentials, I have seen this happen often. I have heard that the test for foreign-trained nurses is horrendous, and a lot of nurses fail it. Causes a lot of resentment. Either that, or she made a poor career choice and needs to go work at WalMart. Very inappropriate and unprofessional.

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She's right that NYC is a tough job market for nurses and a few hospitals there have closed in the past decade. You may have to look into working/moving to the surrounding areas after graduation. Long Island (given that it's isolated and the housing is expensive) is an easier job market. Upstate NY is also an easier job market.

Been there,done that, ASN, RN

Has 33 years experience.

[h=1]Nostrovia to her![/h]

You are way too young to remember the original Twilight Zone series.

My favorite episode involved an older version of the main character trying to warn the present day ..young version of herself about the disasters that will occur.

Think hard and think long,,,why would someone feel the need to say this to you?

I personally, after 30 years ,will dissuade anyone about entering the nursing field.

TheCommuter, BSN, RN

Has 14 years experience. Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

. . .there is a dire need for people to enter the profession.

You previously mentioned you're located in NYC. In case you haven't heard, NYC is one of the large metro areas that definitely has NO dire need for nurses at the present time. In fact, some graduates of local nursing programs have been unemployed since 2008, 2009, 2010, and 2011. The class of 2012 is not faring much better unless they know someone on the inside who can pull some strings.

The local job market is extraordinarily tight due to several hospital closures combined with multiple nursing schools that pump masses of newly graduated nurses into the employment pipeline when the demand for them is way down. To be blunt, the local job market cannot absorb everyone who wants to work as a nurse right now.

This is one of the reasons why I keep my mouth shut in regards to nursing. Not always, but sometimes. I am aware that nurses are unhappy or hate their jobs. I'm also aware that nurses are happy and love their jobs. I don't claim to know it all. And yet, each time I open my mouth and say those 6 words, "I am going to nursing school". People FREAK out. I listen to what they have to say, but it doesn't mean I have to take it.

BlueDevil,DNP, DNP, RN

Has 25 years experience. Specializes in FNP, ONP.

I think she was trying to do you a favor. I would strongly discourage anyone that has enough intelligence and competency to do anything else from going into nursing. The career has been going down the toilet for years. It is not something for people with better prospects IMO. I will not allow any of my kids to go into nursing (if they want me to pay for it that is). Medical school only, or preferably, something non-medical all together.

So while I do understand where she was coming from (except for the NCLEX part, that's nonsense. My cat could pass it in three attempts, lol) I do wish you the best of luck.

I certainly would have made a different career choice, and if asked, I will explain why to anyone who wants to know. You opened the door for her to voice her opinion based on her experience, and that is what she did.

BlueDevil,DNP, DNP, RN

Has 25 years experience. Specializes in FNP, ONP.

This is one of the reasons why I keep my mouth shut in regards to nursing. Not always' date=' but sometimes. I am aware that nurses are unhappy or hate their jobs. I'm also aware that nurses are happy and love their jobs. I don't claim to know it all. And yet, each time I open my mouth and say those 6 words, "I am going to nursing school". People FREAK out. I listen to what they have to say, but it doesn't mean I have to take it.[/quote']

I have several patients that tell me they are going to nursing school (and they always say it with some expectation that I'll be impressed by that, lol). I don't ever discourage them, I just say "good luck." AFAIK, none of my kids is interested in a medical career. If they or anyone I cared about were, I'd use my dying breath to discourage it. I suspect the OPs friend feels a kinship to him due to their shared backgrounds and it trying to help him avoid a mistake. It's not as though those of us that try to warn people about nursing are selfishly trying to keep all the great perks and pay to ourselves! :rotfl:

OP, you are very lucky she cared enough to tell you.

Take heed, listen when a nurse tells you what's up about nursing - it's gonna sound totally bat**** crazy. This is why lots of us keep our mouths shut. Almost everyone would like to warn you out of it, but they just feel you will think they are totally nuts. You'll see as you continue on, lots of strange looks and awkward silence or, "Oh really? that's great. Nursing is a great profession" LOL... these comments are your tip-off.

gonzo1, ASN, RN

Has 15 years experience. Specializes in CEN, ED, ICU, PSYCH, PP.

I have been in nursing for almost a decade now. And I have to say "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times". Am very glad I did it as a second career. So rewarding and educational. But there have been a lot of tears too. Mean doctors, mean families/patients. But the very saddest is the mean nurses who bully their peers.

That said I am glad I did it. It has changed me, and my life for the better. And there are jobs out there, but you will have to seek them out and probably have to move to some God for saken place. I would do it again.

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