RN coworker discouraged me

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My nurse co worker made a comment that kinda irked me. Wondering what I should do with this situation. I am going back to school for an LPN-BSN. I am halfway through the program. Anyways I'm explaining to her in a work conversation, a friendly one, that I am no longer eligible for the COVID vaccine because my 4 year old son and my 35 year old brother both got dx with viral triggered autoimmune type 1 diabetes. She hits me with the "You really shouldn't be a nurse because you are a hypochondriac." She has also called me "crazy" in the past. she is not joking she is "constructively criticizing" me. Should I ignore her, get my BSN and become her boss until she retires? 

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20 hours ago, Nunya said:

If anyone is going to be a dictator here in the US I think it should be a nurse!

A dictatorship is so...tacky.

Now a good old-fashioned monarchy, that sounds good...

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On 12/15/2020 at 7:53 AM, LPNwithBIGdreams said:

My nurse co worker made a comment that kinda irked me. Wondering what I should do with this situation. I am going back to school for an LPN-BSN. I am halfway through the program. Anyways I'm explaining to her in a work conversation, a friendly one, that I am no longer eligible for the COVID vaccine because my 4 year old son and my 35 year old brother both got dx with viral triggered autoimmune type 1 diabetes. She hits me with the "You really shouldn't be a nurse because you are a hypochondriac." She has also called me "crazy" in the past. she is not joking she is "constructively criticizing" me. Should I ignore her, get my BSN and become her boss until she retires? 

Contrarian retort here: what if she is right on the hypochondriac part? Those people do exist ?

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1 hour ago, cynical-RN said:

Contrarian retort here: what if she is right on the hypochondriac part? Those people do exist ?

But wouldn't a hypochondriac be a great nurse? Think about their attention to infection control!

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22 minutes ago, JBMmom said:

But wouldn't a hypochondriac be a great nurse? Think about their attention to infection control!

Perhaps a hypochondriac who's compulsive about infection control could be a great nurse, granted I don't know what "great nurse" entails. I see that phrase used loosely around here. Nonetheless, if a hypochondriac is also obsessed about expressing their delusions, I can see how that can be obnoxious to coworkers, who might perhaps be dismissive, as OP learned. 

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5 hours ago, Jedrnurse said:

A dictatorship is so...tacky.

Now a good old-fashioned monarchy, that sounds good...

I just want to be elected KING of the UNIVERSE!

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Calling someone a hypochondriac and crazy does not fall under "constructive criticism." I'd be tempted to reply back with the actual definition of "constructive criticism," which definitely does not include labeling someone with a disorder or calling names. If she got defensive after that, replay back that you are "constructively criticizing" her. (That is very passive-aggressive of me; I would likely not do that, but it would be really tempting ?)

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The Diabetes response is intriguing? It also sounds like you have a great plan to increase your knowledge. One of those should be to own people like that! It can be very entertaining.

You have to decide if you need the distraction from work, studies and generally living to even bother with people like that. I suggest a good TV series like The Alienist, it will distract you in a very constructive way. 

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Ignore her. I agree w/the advice to keep your personal life to yourself around her. Her comments were inappropriate but you don't want to invite more like them. Take care and good luck getting that BSN.

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On 12/15/2020 at 5:53 AM, LPNwithBIGdreams said:

My nurse co worker made a comment that kinda irked me. Wondering what I should do with this situation. I am going back to school for an LPN-BSN. I am halfway through the program. Anyways I'm explaining to her in a work conversation, a friendly one, that I am no longer eligible for the COVID vaccine because my 4 year old son and my 35 year old brother both got dx with viral triggered autoimmune type 1 diabetes. She hits me with the "You really shouldn't be a nurse because you are a hypochondriac." She has also called me "crazy" in the past. she is not joking she is "constructively criticizing" me. Should I ignore her, get my BSN and become her boss until she retires? 

There is a BSN for LVN? 

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There is if they go back to college:)  There are many people on AN with LPN, ADN and BSN behind their name.  I gotta admit though that I never understood that - just putting your highest degree in should be sufficient..or they are proud that they worked a long time for that BSN.

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2 minutes ago, subee said:

There is if they go back to college:)  There are many people on AN with LPN, ADN and BSN behind their name.  I gotta admit though that I never understood that - just putting your highest degree in should be sufficient..or they are proud that they worked a long time for that BSN.

Like De La Hoya saying he’s from East LA.  Love it.  

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On 12/15/2020 at 8:53 AM, LPNwithBIGdreams said:

...Anyways I'm explaining to her in a work conversation, a friendly one, that I am no longer eligible for the COVID vaccine because my 4 year old son and my 35 year old brother both got dx with viral triggered autoimmune type 1 diabetes. 

I am curious about the thought pattern behind you being ineligible for vaccination for Covid-19, because of the way mRNA vaccines work. 

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CDC 

"mRNA vaccines are a new type of vaccine to protect against infectious diseases. To trigger an immune response, many vaccines put a weakened or inactivated germ into our bodies.

Not mRNA vaccines. Instead, they teach our cells how to make a protein—or even just a piece of a protein—that triggers an immune response inside our bodies. That immune response, which produces antibodies, is what protects us from getting infected if the real virus enters our bodies."

https://www.CDC.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/different-vaccines/mrna.html 

You contracting a Covid-19 infection could increase your risk theoretically, but as of now there isn't much supporting data to link Covid-19 to viral triggered autoimmune type 1 diabetes. 

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