I am a new nurse in a residency program. I love my facility and would want to continue with them. But I got a message from my family informing me that my mom is sick and has requested for my presence during this period. She lives in another country. So that would mean me leaving the country to go be with her. Now I have been in this residency program for just about a month and I know they have spent so much money in my training up to this point. But then my mom needs me. This is a sad situation and I don't really know what to do? I know they may not be willing to keep the position for me because I am just a new nurse and secondly because I don't even know how long I will be out for. What do I do? Should I just put in my 2 weeks resignation? (I fear they will most likely ask me to stop without waiting for the 2 weeks since I only work with a preceptor). Please advice me.
No if about it. Op WILL find herself without a job if she leaves.
If that is true, then the person or persons deciding to terminate her are really not good people. Terminating employment because someones mom is severely ill enough to warrant a visit? They deserve to be blasted publicly on the net.
If that is true, then the person or persons deciding to terminate her are really not good people. Terminating employment because someones mom is severely ill enough to warrant a visit? They deserve to be blasted publicly on the net.
Would it stink and certainly be crappy if the OP were to be let go? Yes, absolutely and no question about it. However a hospital is a business, and they are going to look out for the hospital and not the individual employee. Besides, the person who may (or may not) let the OP go might no have a choice in the matter (they might find themselves in hot water if they don't follow orders/policy). As for publicly blasting names, that would be a great way to end up on a blacklist for do not hire. The nursing community is very small and word will get around and just make things worse for the OP.
More than likely, others are correct and you may not find much sympathy about your situation. This would be most likely if there is a definite time period (say 1-2 weeks). They may have some way to work around your needs, but most likely things won't work out that way.
I was lucky as a new grad, I'd been off orientation for a very short time when I had to have emergency surgery. I had surgery, was out a month and then came back to work. I used what little PTO I had and the rest was an "excused unpaid leave of absence". My nurse manager was surprised I came back - fine with it, but she assumed I'd find something else while I was off work (long story).
I'm just saying, it could work out well. Or it might not.
Whatever you choose (and I'd choose family) just keep it classy and professional. Healthcare is a small world.
If that is true, then the person or persons deciding to terminate her are really not good people. Terminating employment because someones mom is severely ill enough to warrant a visit? They deserve to be blasted publicly on the net.
I believe the issue is attendance, not that the mom is sick.
Management doesn't deserve to be publicly blasted for doing their job.
Your outrage is disproportionate to the situation.
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If that is true, then the person or persons deciding to terminate her are really not good people. Terminating employment because someones mom is severely ill enough to warrant a visit? They deserve to be blasted publicly on the net.
I'd like to see you do that & then try to get a job ever again.
If you leave the residency, is there financial obligations that you have to satisfy?
Are you here working on a visa or some other program? In other words, once you leave the country, will you have the ability to return easily?
You may have to think about being at home for some time. When the time comes, THEN you can think about coming back to the US, or to stay at home and work there.
Sounds as if your cultural norm is that you need to go home to your family. It would be difficult for you to stay in America and have your family upset with you. You only have one mother.
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I am sorry for your predicament. I would go to my mom if she is dangerously ill. The advice to blast employers on the internet is awful. NEVER EVER burn your bridges this way. The nursing world is smaller than you think and people talk. You would really ruin your chances at employment taking such an ill-advised step.
Do what you need to do. Then if you are without a job, look for another. But NEVER EVER bad-mouth a prior employer. It will come back to haunt you.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
First, since your mom is in another country, she may be in another culture as well and may or may not understand the consequences to your career of leaving so early in your first job. I think the first thing I would do would be to discuss the situation with Mom and perhaps any family members that live close enough to her to help. It could be that you finishing your orientation and getting a good start to your career may benefit her more in the end than you trashing your career by going off to help her now. Figure out what you want, and then talk to your mom and your family. Maybe while she WANTS your presence, she doesn't really NEED it.
Second, discuss the situation with your manager and see if you can work something out in terms of saving your job. Perhaps you can go for a short time now and then come back and finish your orientation? Perhaps you can take a two week break at the end of your orientation? PErhaps your boss has been in your shoes in the past and understands and is willing to work with you. That will only be the case if you've been a stellar employee up to this point. If you have attendance problems or attitude problems, she surely won't want to work with you.
Whatever you do, discuss the situation with your family and with your boss before putting in your notice. I know that other people have said "family comes first." Surely that's true in the case of your children, but I'm not so sure parents always come first. I realize that's cultural, but it is something worth thinking about.
I would not resign right off the bat. Instead, just tell them what you told us. Your mom is out of the country, she's very sick and needs your help, and that are sorry for having to take such an unexpected absence.
If they terminate your employment for that reason, there may be some very sick individuals working there. If that is the case, I would publish their names for all to see.
Things like this would get you blacklisted from nursing. It's a small world. DO NOT take this advice
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