Relationships with Doctors

Da_Milk_of_Amnesia, MSN · Feb 15, 2011

Word to the wise, dont poop where ya eat...ya dig?

vegas2009 · Feb 15, 2011

Lol

cb_rn · Feb 15, 2011

With one exception every resident-nurse relationship I ever witnessed ended not in romantic fireworks but in a massive, eyebrow singe-ing explosion. And the nurse ALWAYS took the brunt of it.

Your mileage may vary.

ebear, BSN, RN · Feb 15, 2011

DON'T !! :no:

Dalzac, LPN, LVN, RN · Feb 15, 2011

I have seen nurses with the short end of the stick on this one. For the most part Interns and residents that are single are too focused on the careers. I knew a nurse that wanted to marry a doctor, any doctor. Long story short she ended up sleeping with many of them. Her reputation was destroyed and they all talked about her and none of them would ever take her seriously. If she had a crashing patient someone else would have to call the Doc, because she also had the reputaion of calling them just to get them to come down and see the patient, so she could flirt with them. I was called repeatedly to see if her patients were really sick. So remember just like someone said "Don't poop where ya eat" It really is a bad thing to date a doctor

RNperdiem, RN · Feb 15, 2011

Do you remember high school where different groups sat at different tables in the cafeteria?

Well in many or most places, doctors and nurses don't sit at the same table. It is rare where I have worked to see doctors and nurses socializing together outside of work or even at work.

JustinAllen · Feb 15, 2011

Wonder if thats the same with male nurses and female doctors.

PMFB-RN, RN · Feb 15, 2011

I work in a teaching hospital and it seems for the most part nurses can talk to doctors without being yelled at on a medical-surgical floor.

*** What! Nobody had any business yelling at anyone else in a work environment. If the nurses where you work are tolerating this behavior from physicians it needs to stop. Start by calmly asking the doctor to stop yelling at you. Write up each incident listing as many witnesses as possible. Make sure you use the words "hostile work environment" when you write it up.

I know plenty of residents who consider female nurses their sexual playthings to be used as is convenient for them. Please don't feed into that.

netglow, ASN, RN · Feb 15, 2011

Consider this. Take the doctor or babydoc outside of the workplace and you can often end up with a boring maladjusted person. Once you figure this out and dump them they will feel slighted and because docs and babydocs are behind most people in emotional maturity years due to being perpetual college kids, they will react immaturely. This becomes similar to a big pre-teen facebook trashing, as emotionally that is where they are. This scenario is only if you actually get that far. Many docs never really dated much due to demands of school. They are just trying to get laid maybe for the 2nd or 3rd time... LOL! (that was mean!!!, HA, I know it, but hey)

I do not know any doctor + nurse marriages of late. The only marriages I know of this kind are of the over 60 crowd. babydocs marry babydocs, and that is best for them.

Horseshoe, BSN, RN · Feb 15, 2011

I work in a teaching hospital and it seems for the most part nurses can talk to doctors without being yelled at on a medical-surgical floor. Surgery Service are still the grumpy ones. I'm wondering how this goes for other hospitals. Especially, since I'm developing on a ballooning crush on one of the residents. It seems to me that nurses and doctors keep to their own cliches and have tasks that create different perspectives.

I think you mean cliques, right? I agree for the most part not to date a surgeon if you are an OR nurse (please say he's not married). If he is not someone you have to work with, then I don't really see the problem.

As for doctors "yelling" at nurses, that seems like a whole other topic. You do not have to put up with being yelled at-I would make that very clear. Tell any doctor who "yells" at you that you don't appreciate it and that you find it "completely unprofessional." If it happens again, start writing him up. Bullies like easy targets, not ones that make it a hassle to treat them like dirt.

allnurses Guide · Feb 15, 2011

I work in a teaching hospital and it seems for the most part nurses can talk to doctors without being yelled at on a medical-surgical floor. Surgery Service are still the grumpy ones. I'm wondering how this goes for other hospitals. Especially, since I'm developing on a ballooning crush on one of the residents. It seems to me that nurses and doctors keep to their own cliches and have tasks that create different perspectives.

So what you want to know is: you have a ballooning crush and you want to know if you should approach him and strike up a conversation and/or bring your meal tray over to his table - ? You're wondering if everyone will look at you like you're the three-eyed fish on the Simpsons for violating the unwritten caste system? Well . . . having worked at 2 teaching hospitals I observed the same dynamics -

I would never myself say "don't poop where you eat" but just know these environments are the most hyper-active Gossip Mills in the world. It is astonishing how quickly the slightest thing gets amplified such that if you are seen exchanging pleasantries with the guy, by the time any word gets back to you've been meeting Dr Resident for a hot party for two in room 608 daily for 3 weeks, which is a real shame considering he dumped his really sweet high school sweetheart everybody just loves, for you! omg! :)

I have heard versions of that insanity over and over and ....etc. Also, the life of a resident is insane. They really don't have the time or energy to devote to a girlfriend.

Having mentioned the pitfalls above, if he seems interested in you, why not be polite and friendly? Truthfully, there are nurses married to doctors and some post here. Just keep any contact really discreet and away from the workplace. Good luck!