Relationships with Doctors

G in Scrubs · Feb 16, 2011

Haha, thanks for support and warnings. I looove the humor.

"Don't poop where ya eat" eh? I guess it's good I'm changing jobs next month.

I definitely feel that high school cafeteria scene is enacted in work. Us nurses eat at wacko times on the unit or in the break room while the residents eat in the cafeteria or hide out in their room.

Sorry, I think I overdramatized being yelled at by doctors. I haven't experienced that yet; it just seems my friends from other hospitals had to put up with issues such as those. But now I know what to do! Thank you!

My hospital seems similar to Klone's; the nurses have to give the first year interns a little push and guidance. There's the first name basis with the residents and sometimes some shared jokes, but it seems for the most part we stick to our own cliques. And yes, the residents seem to have no life besides the hospital.

LOL! Learned something new--"babydoc" and "emotional delay disorder". I don't find that offensive since it's not true; what's true though is guys are emotionally behind girls. And my crush has none of those thankfully. He's definitely good eye candy on a bad shift, and very polite to the nurses. He knows my name and does tease me a bit, but without any sexual innuendo. Since I mentioned I'm leaving he told me I'm one of his fav nurses and I'm not allowed to leave.

Based on all that's said, I think it's best for me to take my crush out of the workplace. I prefer to remain professional. I just can't control it if I blush! And I think it's too late to kill the crush now.. I'll let him know I like him when I change jobs next month and see what happens. >.

SAHMStudent · Feb 16, 2011

No romantic relationships with anyone you work with ever!!! I say "don't get your honey where you get your money"....MD's, PA's, other RN's, PCTs, PT's, OT's, LPNs, Lab techs, xray....the list goes on and on. It almost never ends well, and yes, everyone knows an exception to this rule. Be very careful you don't delude yourself it will be you.

klone, MSN, RN · Feb 16, 2011

And yes, the residents seem to have no life besides the hospital.

That's true. I would NEVER want to be a physician. The 80 hour weeks would be brutal. I am amazed that so many people seem to survive their internship year.

And yes, some of our residents are quite yummy. Sadly, I'm nearly old enough to be many of the residents' mother. At least, much older sister.

allamericangirlrn · Feb 16, 2011

I married my doctor husband when i was a nursing student and he was a premed. Yes, we were babies 22-23 y/o.

Very long and difficult road. We survived and alot of our friends did ,too. Almost called it quits several times ,but

you have to hang in there like any other marriage. There are different challenges in different parts of their career,

so I can't say it gets easier, just different. It can be done- been married 30 years.

orangepink, NP · Feb 16, 2011

I'd like to add further.

My father is a retired surgeon and yes, he was always busy then but that didn't mean he was less of a father to me. He is an excellent father and I will say that to my last breath. He wasn't there to all the recitals and PTA meetings but he gave it his best. I really didn't mind that so much but I will always remember and be grateful that he was there for all my school Christmas parties and whenever I had a problem (any), he is always a phone call away. Meanwhile, those fathers who have time on their hands can't even show up for their kids' birthday party.

Yes, being surgeon meant that he was used to getting things done his way even when he's at home and yes, there is always the occasional flare-up of a temper. The older I got and now that I'm a nurse, I realize that stress was indeed a major factor.

Although the medical profession is certainly challenging and demanding, you should get to know the man behind the scrubs. Or should I say, scalpel. Bwahahaha

That being said, I hope other single nurses, don't harbor illusions of a fairy-tale romance with every doctor. Just be professional and if he is as smart at work, then hopefully, he is smart in life, too then he will appreciate any hardworking woman in his life.

Horseshoe, BSN, RN · Feb 16, 2011

Based on all that's said, I think it's best for me to take my crush out of the workplace. I prefer to remain professional. I just can't control it if I blush! And I think it's too late to kill the crush now.. I'll let him know I like him when I change jobs next month and see what happens. >.
Sounds like a good plan.
Speaking of blushing, I'll never forget one young nurse I used to work with. A new and devastatingly handsome intern came onto our unit and spoke to this nurse about his patient. Her entire face and neck went completely crimson. I was fascinated by her obvious visceral reaction to him-it was actually quite cute. They ended up dating for a while, then he broke her heart into about a million pieces. Then he got HIS heart broken by a nurse in the ER, so it all comes around, lol.
Good luck. You are smart to wait until you leave to attempt a personal relationship with young doc.

canesdukegirl, BSN, RN · Feb 16, 2011

I will contribute this: if a doc yells at me for something stupid, I yell back. If they yell at me for a mistake that I made, I apologize and then tell them that pointing out an error can be done without having to raise their voice.

I have seen many residents pursue nurses. Most of the nurses don't give them the time of day. Those that do are warned that they will be the flavor of the week...aaaannnnd they become last week's flavor in a hurry. I did see one nurse marry a resident and they are really happy together. This is rare. I hardly ever see a nurse pursue a resident, though. Maybe it happens and I just don't see it. *shrug