Regrets after regrets!

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Here we go.

So I got a job offer as community nurse full time last week. The job required me to have a valid driving license and a car.

I got my driving license on November 2018 and haven't driven a car since I got my license. I was so excited when I got the offer and began to search cars to buy for my job. I told my mom about it hoping she would be excited too but guess what? She was like don't take it. She told me it is not worth taking it when I don't even have experience in driving and all of a sudden I am rushing to buy a car and drive. I understood where she was coming from and I do not want to worry her, so I rejected the offer. Now, I regret it so much! I wish I took the position and gave it a try.

What should I do? Should I re-apply to the same company? Will HR just throw my application away because I did not take previous position? I feel embarrassed because what if they ask me why I did not take the position first time if I am a successful candidate again?

Thank you for reading.

4 minutes ago, EllaBella1 said:

They also said that they haven't started to drive because they live downtown and commute by public transportation.

I'm not saying that they shouldn't get a car and start driving. Just that it's not the big deal that some make it out to be in certain parts of the country. That's all.

Ummmm, yeah. That's why my first statement right out of the gate was "If the OP doesn't drive because he lives in an area where there really is no need to...that's one thing."

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19 minutes ago, Horseshoe said:

Ummmm, yeah. That's why my first statement right out of the gate was "If the OP doesn't drive because he lives in an area where there really is no need to...that's one thing."

Horseshoe...this is just for fun...how do you know Toaster is a "he?"

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2 minutes ago, OldDude said:

Horseshoe...this is just for fun...how do you know Toaster is a "he?"

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I don't. I just used the typical default designation as I was taught in school in the sexist seventies. :D

It doesn't matter, though. My advice would be the same.

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Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.

My Sweet Petunia is a home health PT...she frequently sees patients who have their 30/40/50 year old kids still living at home...whaaaaaa?

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Before you try to accept this job again, remember that it’s not just the cost of buying the car. You will need to park it somewhere. And car insurance. And gas, oil changes, repairs and maintenance. I’m not saying don’t do it, but go in with your eyes open as to the true costs.

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Specializes in Surgical Specialty Clinic - Ambulatory Care.

Get a good second hand car and start driving. Take the job, it is going to be stressful, not the job and the driving, but you need experience to get more job offers so take this job and do it for a year, then look for something else.

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3 hours ago, Horseshoe said:

I don't. I just used the typical default designation as I was taught in school in the sexist seventies. :D

It doesn't matter, though. My advice would be the same.

A true sexist would assume a nurse to be female

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OP, you can still be close with your parents and be independent. It’s not one or the other.

You are a nurse. You will have people’s lives and well being in your hands. That takes some independence and ability to make decisions on your own. You might want to start doing that in your personal life. I only say this because you are 26 and allowing your mother to make your decisions on jobs. Nursing is all about making decisions.

I don’t even really see you still living at home as the problem. I personally would not have done it. I was on my own at 18. It’s the fact that you are allowing your mom dictate your driving and employment.

You are 26. It’s time to grow up and face this big adult world. It’s not horrible being an adult. You might actually enjoy the freedom that comes with it.

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My two cents.

Try working with driving instructors to become familiar with your car. Study up on maps. Practice driving back and forth from different parts of the community. Give yourself more time than usual to get from one location to another.

Good luck with your job!

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Some things that struck me when I read the first post:

1. Perhaps a cultural issue as to living with your parents?

2. Maybe OP lives in big city with transportation readily available?

3. How long have they had their nursing license? Is this to be a first job? Did they work in nursing school?

For most Americans nowadays, its not that unusual for adult children to live at home later than in earlier generations. I too left at 19 for the USN and never looked back. However, that is not the norm today

As to my interactions with my adult sons: one is 33 and the other is 38. I text them maybe monthly but sometimes not even that often. I wait for them to come to me. They absolutely know I'll support them and be there but they have their own lives. One of my sons has tattoos and I never ever comment negative - just admire it and go on. My relationship with both of them and their families is great - they are adults and I treat them as adults but they know I'll be there whenever too.

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On 4/4/2019 at 8:39 AM, Toaster said:

I agree, it is past time for me to start driving. The only reason I have not driven a car yet is because I live in downtown and my current job is 30 minutes away from public transit. The car insurance is soooo expensive.

Try to practice driving more so you have more options.

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3 hours ago, Med_RN said:

Try to practice driving more so you have more options.

Purchasing a car is a big thing. Try to practice more in an used car, so you can be good at traveling to patients' home or something that required to do as a community health nurse.

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