one side love problem between student nurse and doctor

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Mar 25, 2015

This really brings up a serious issue. During nursing school, I had a friend who was attracted to the med-surg nursing instructor/lecturer (Mr. XYZ). She was in his med-surg 1 clinical rotation by chance. However, she was assigned to a different clinical instructor for med-surg 2 and all hell broke loose. She went to the program director and complained that her clinical site was too far just so she can be reassigned to Mr. XYZ's clinical rotation. After a whole lot of back and forth, she was finally reassigned. She went through so many hoops just to be with this instructor and I really felt bad for her.

Wow! Now THAT'S creepy!

Green_Grass · Mar 25, 2015

Attachment is a term used in Singapore and refers to a clinical rotation. I think it is also used in the context of a qualified nurse training for a higher level position, e.g. to become a nurse with a speciality in renal diseases.

TexMex22 · Mar 25, 2015

And really, OP, shouldn't YOUR focus and HIS focus be on your studies & clinicals, respectively, and your patients, not on each other and your hormones?! YIKES! Sounds more like a bad soap opera than professional behavior to me. :facepalm:

SunriseDay · Mar 25, 2015

This really brings up a serious issue. During nursing school, I had a friend who was attracted to the med-surg nursing instructor/lecturer (Mr. XYZ). She was in his med-surg 1 clinical rotation by chance. However, she was assigned to a different clinical instructor for med-surg 2 and all hell broke loose. She went to the program director and complained that her clinical site was too far just so she can be reassigned to Mr. XYZ's clinical rotation. After a whole lot of back and forth, she was finally reassigned. She went through so many hoops just to be with this instructor and I really felt bad for her.

Haha, sounds like something a college student would do who thought their instructor was hot :cheeky:

On RateMyProfessors.com, there's specifically a "hot chilli pepper" option to say their instructor is hot.. some people will be more likely to attend a hot professor's class :x3:

Haha, not creepy at all..

strawberryluv, BSN, RN · Mar 25, 2015

I can't believe you just referred a medical student as a doctor in your title. I was so prepared to

see what's up because that seems to be really a strange pair to have occurred, if it happened.

Nonetheless, it doesn't seem like he's interested. Just focus on your studies. When you're a real nurse, you will

have plenty contact with actual "doctors."

KelRN215, BSN, RN · Mar 26, 2015

This is what you do now: nothing. You messaged him, he hasn't responded. He's not interested. Move on. And I also got the creepy/stalker vibe reading this...

psu_213, BSN, RN · Mar 26, 2015

Attachment is a term used in Singapore and refers to a clinical rotation. I think it is also used in the context of a qualified nurse training for a higher level position, e.g. to become a nurse with a speciality in renal diseases.

As a sidebar--I was wondering how GrnTea can like her own post. Then I realized "Green_Grass" posted this. That was a look alike/sound alike error just waiting to happen!

Now back to the regularly scheduled discussion.

NurseSpeedy, ADN, LPN, RN · Mar 26, 2015

You messaged him via social media and got no response. Your friend tried to help but it actually made him angry (probably because he tried to be nice by just not responding to the FB post and hoping that you'd get the underlying message, but unfortunately it didn't work because now your friend is trying to get him to pay attention to you). He's not interested. It's time to move on. There are many other opportunities to meet someone else. By the nature of this post you sound very young, and in this case the behavior would be viewed as more age related and not too stalkerish (and if your not young then you really need to stop now because stalking is illegal in most places. Being someone who has actually had this happen to me I can honestly say that it became very creepy and scarey not just annoying). It's not wise to view someone you don't really know as a source of career motivation. If you really want to be a nurse for the right reasons, focus your energies on your studies. In the future if you find an interest in a doctor or med student, it would be wise to engage in this behavior with one who does not work at the same place of employment. If the relationship does not end gracefully, the doctor usually has the upper hand and your work environment could turn sour real fast. I've seen it happen where I have worked and it's not pretty.

George O'Malley · Mar 26, 2015

If you haven't had your friend request accepted, the message you sent is going to the "other inbox" which most people don't know exist or ever check.

If you like Nursing enough most days, keep at it! Also, I know that Grey's Anatomy is a show but I can only imagine that crap "relationships" and drama that happens on that show is indicative of what real life would be like....stay focused on the medicine, TRY to keep him as a friend and keep your career progressing :)

Best of luck to you!

mae0218 · Mar 26, 2015

This is really creepy. I wouldn't like knowing that my nurse was a nurse only because of something like this.

dcwang · Mar 26, 2015

Sorry, OP, but you sound really desperate, needy, and creepy. He's not that into you. Let the guy chase you. Many doctors in my family, and my advice is, don't date a medical student. he has wayyy too many years to go, and unless there's a plan for marriage in 2, 3 years. you're better off maybe finding a fellow or resident, ideally a young attending.

SunriseDay · Mar 26, 2015

LOL.. I wouldn't say finding a person on fb and msging them is stalkerish... Otherwise.. I guess I've done it a TON of times! But yeah, as George said, it could be going to the "other" box bc if you aren't friends on facebook, then it goes to that box. Sometimes if you pay $1, it will go to the inbox, but only if it's your first msg to them.

There's also a "check mark" below the msg you send to say if they ever read your message.

I'd say some people are really easier to "friend" on fb than others... people from HS or you've met from school or clubs is very easy, but some groups can be hard :/ Like one time I thought of doing pre-med, and I tried "friending" the leadership board before applying to a position... they didn't accept. Sometimes pre-meds, medical students, and others in "high-paying jobs" are very.. erm.. closed-off? Same for some Harvard undergrads I "thought" I had befriended at a scholarship summit, but turns out, er.. no. They "friended" each other on facebook (even though just met also), but not me and denied my requests... sometimes people are exclusive? It tends to get more that way with increases in income and such it seems.

Don't take it personally.. granted, I do have a med school friend, but I think he liked me, and also I knew him BEFORE he applied to med school and was unsure.. also he goes to the caribbean, not that it makes much of a diff. But we're just friends right now and likely it will stay that way, idk.

It's best, in the book, to become friends with a person first to be safe. You're trying to become his friend, but it seems like he might not even want that. He could be snobby.. it's a possibility. Some people are also just.. stand-offish. But there are plenty of other guys out there.. and also in the medical field at all levels if you think they're hot. Good luck :)

Also, if you do end up dating a medical guy, you're going to get a lot of jealous women.. who can be catty, imo. Just a warning.. There are actually a bunch of people out there who think "ring before spring".. there's actually a motto like that for a school I know of...