one side love problem between student nurse and doctor

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Hey I am a student nurse, I fell for a medical student over a year. I found his fb and took the first step to message him. But then one of my friend who wanted to try helping me made him angry. And I don't know what to do now? Feel free to comment and give advice .

Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

You're not 14 anymore. Be a big girl and finish nursing school because that's what YOU want FOR you. I'm three posts in and shaking my head very sadly and slowly for you, OP :barf02:

I am concentrating cause of him. He is my motivation.
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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Haha, sounds like something a college student would do who thought their instructor was hot :cheeky:

On RateMyProfessors.com, there's specifically a "hot chilli pepper" option to say their instructor is hot.. some people will be more likely to attend a hot professor's class :x3:

Haha, not creepy at all..

It's one thing to check out RateMyProfessor.com & see if you can take any hot professors. It's another to jump through hoops, make up lies & generally just make it hell for everyone just to take a hot clinical instructor in nursing school.

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it's also illegal for an instructor to have a relationship with the professor while teaching. i have heard of many former professor and student relationships, and the student benefitted career wise. now, whether or not it is justified is a whole other issue.

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All this FB lingo has me feeling like an old bat because I don't have one! I've just never understood the point of it and prefer to only be found by people that I want to be able to find me from the past (or present). I guess it goes back to that creepy stalker incident...

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Hi,

I am afraid this might be ouchie. Well use him! Use him for your motivation, but do not worry about feelings. There might be exception but those things usually do not end up in relationships. Sad. I would probably tell you = You might make a step and see where it goes, when it will be your last day. And make sure no one knows! That your gf made him angry... how? That can tell you something about him. Anyway just heads up, he will finish school, apply for residency... and he might end up who knows where. Also there might be lot of other girls interested, and as I know med students, residents, doctors they usually think of themselves very high unreasonably high, some expects or think they are entitled to almost anything. So use him as the motivation, and do not let it hurt you and keep eyes open, you might start liking someone else :) Anyway good luck!

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

Really? Illegal? Can you post the statute in state laws that prohibit this? Is it a misdemeanor or full-fledged felony?

It's unethical as all get out, but I think you're reaching to say it's against the law [:yawn:

QUOTE=charming_kitty;8417537]it's also illegal for an instructor to have a relationship with the professor while teaching. i have heard of many former professor and student relationships, and the student benefitted career wise. now, whether or not it is justified is a whole other issue.

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@BuckyBadger... sorry to clarify... should have edited. it's at least against school rules from what I know. my friend is a TA and told me that his contract prohibits him from having a relationship with a student. It also states so in one of the policies for a major academic hospital I've read, a professor cannot have a relationship with a student.

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TA's and instructors, as well as full-tenured professors, were not to have relationships with students way back in my day, like 45 years ago. But that didn't mean it didn't happen.

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yes, some resulted in marriages, and faster career advancement.

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TA's and instructors, as well as full-tenured professors, were not to have relationships with students way back in my day, like 45 years ago. But that didn't mean it didn't happen.

I remember a few (or maybe it was more than a few) years back when all the high school teachers were being arrested for having relationships with their minor students a college professor was arrested for having a relationship with his/her legal adult student. I don't know what the end result of it was, as I was too busy to follow the story. I don't agree with it being a crime between two consenting adults, but as an instructor there should be ethical boundaries that need to be upheld.

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Specializes in Family Practice, Mental Health.

On a side note, about your side love: Your description of the problem leads me to believe that even You know that this is probably not the brightest idea that you've had in your life.

Are you really expecting strangers on the internet to help you shape your future based off of five sentences?

The only advice I will give you, is if you have to chase it - it's probably not really worth it.

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Specializes in burn ICU, SICU, ER, Trauma Rapid Response.

In my job I work very closely with many med students, interns, and residents. I actually share an office with a bunch of them. Since I am a man of "one of the guys" I overhear their discussions and often take part. I long ago stopped being suprised at how many of the male students and residents are VERY aware that their status as physicians, or soon to be physicians, makes them very attractive to a large number of women. Nearly all of them take advantage of this and play the field, often stringing along several women at once. I can't even tell you how many broken hearts I have seen this lead to among nurses, but its a LOT.

I make it a point to caution my female nursing students about getting involved romanticaly with physicians. Some take heed, some don't.

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