one side love problem between student nurse and doctor

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Hey I am a student nurse, I fell for a medical student over a year. I found his fb and took the first step to message him. But then one of my friend who wanted to try helping me made him angry. And I don't know what to do now? Feel free to comment and give advice .

This OP has to be a joke. I just can't believe any normal person would post something like this on a professional nursing website. Seriously....if she is for real, I hope her 'beloved' reports her stalking behavior.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
First and only appropriate comment I've seen. Some really rude comments here. It is only human to get a big crush, and this can happen at any stage in your life and on any place, whether professional or non professional. I have met many nurses whom have fallen for a Dr in training school and have very well ended up together. It is not delusional to fall for someone, even if it's a doctor, or sounds like it's straight out of a movie. You nurses are so quick to judge.

This is what makes me hate nursing, and regret choosing it as a career everyday.

And her grammar might not be the best cause perhaps she might be from another country?

But what Elou has said is very clear and very true and not to mention 'polite'.

Gives me hope that there's still some nice nurses out there.

She has a friend go talk to the med student & uses him as her motivation. She should be focusing on nursing school & not the opposite sex. Yes it's natural to get a crush but it's how you handle it that says a lot about your character.

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I feel like this is harassment. If someone expresses they are not interested (by not replying to a message, ignoring advancements, etc) they have the right to be left alone. By having someone else contact them to pressure them is going way too far. I would take a step back and respect him and his wishes and leave him alone. If a guy isn't into you, he's just not, you don't need a reason, you don't need to find a way to force him into liking you. Just move on.

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You nurses are so quick to judge.

This is what makes me hate nursing, and regret choosing it as a career everyday.

FWIW, Lina1, OP came here and posted about a personal situation seeking the opinions of strangers on this board. In effect, asking us to judge the situation - whether it be to agree or disagree with her feelings and handling of them.

And, bonus, I have great news for you: you are not a nurse yet, so it is not too late to change course and choose a career that you don't hate and regret.

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FWIW, Lina1, OP came here and posted about a personal situation seeking the opinions of strangers on this board. In effect, asking us to judge the situation - whether it be to agree or disagree with her feelings and handling of them.

And, bonus, I have great news for you: you are not a nurse yet, so it is not too late to change course and choose a career that you don't hate and regret.

Well said. Plus I'm sure that other professions have individuals who are just a quick to judge.

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Obviously, if he hasn't responded, he's not interested. Millenial kids these days seem to have a different definition of what constitutes stalking (Internet searching a crush a lot, reading through their social media profiles, etc.), especially if their social skills are still developing. Also, this age group communicates mainly through social media and texting, so not surprising the OP would think this an appropriate avenue.

Independent of that, I see no reason why coworkers can't date in the workplace, especially if they are mature, responsible adults and the facility allows it (I met several guys over the years through work, and it caused no issues in the workplace). No reason why a nurse shouldn't date a doctor or any other healthcare worker, as long as that person is not in their chain of command. If things were that serious, I might asked to get moved to a different unit or shift to avoid potential professional conflict.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Obviously, if he hasn't responded, he's not interested. Millenial kids these days seem to have a different definition of what constitutes stalking (Internet searching a crush a lot, reading through their social media profiles, etc.), especially if their social skills are still developing. Also, this age group communicates mainly through social media and texting, so not surprising the OP would think this an appropriate avenue.

Independent of that, I see no reason why coworkers can't date in the workplace, especially if they are mature, responsible adults and the facility allows it (I met several guys over the years through work, and it caused no issues in the workplace). No reason why a nurse shouldn't date a doctor or any other healthcare worker, as long as that person is not in their chain of command. If things were that serious, I might asked to get moved to a different unit or shift to avoid potential professional conflict.

It's not the messaging, it's when it crossed over into the real world. After he showed he wasn't interested, didn't respond. The friend went up, in person to try to push, whatever that thing is, along. That's too far.

I have no problems with co-workers dating each other. I met my husband at the last place I worked. But the two people have to be interested in each other, the guy clearly wasn't interested in her.

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You nurses are so quick to judge.

This is what makes me hate nursing, and regret choosing it as a career everyday.

And her grammar might not be the best cause perhaps she might be from another country?

But what Elou has said is very clear and very true and not to mention 'polite'.

Gives me hope that there's still some nice nurses out there.

You nurses?? What are you then? :***:

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YOu won't become an effective nurse if that is your sole reason

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TLDR past the first 3 posts.

but anyways, ha-ha.

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I can't believe this was even posted. I feel like I'm watching some sappy teen girl movie. OP, get on with your life for crying out loud!

mc3:cat:

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I can't believe this was even posted. I feel like I'm watching some sappy teen girl movie. OP, get on with your life for crying out loud!

mc3:cat:

THIS. What kind of crap post is this? Sounds like I'm in middle school again (and to be clear, I AM a millennial.)

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