Sorry Emergent, sarcasm is my default setting. I'll make an attempt to contribute something productive to the conversation. Here goes: personally, I don't feel any obligation or desire to share the decisions regarding my professional life with anyone, whether they feel entitled to that information or not. If my coworkers/work friends become upset, feeling that me not sharing that information with them is me being secretive and/or wondering why I would try to "hide" it because they'll find out anyway, I would be confused by that perspective (and legit would probably say something sarcastic to them in response, unproductive or not).
