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As many of you already know, my ex has readily replaced me with another woman and had a baby with her.  Unfortunately, I waited too long to reach out to him after we broke up, so he is no longer an option.  It's frustrating hearing him talk with their new baby as he is clearly a good father.  Regardless, these are the unfortunate circumstances.

Therefore, I was looking at possibly joining Match.com or some other website as an option to see if someone else might be of interest.  

What I am wondering is if there are any professional issues with joining any of these websites? For example, would employers view me as less than desirable for having a profile? Could this hinder my chances of landing another job? 

Anyone have experience with these websites or have been impacted professionally, as a nurse, due to using one? 

Specializes in Rehab/Nurse Manager.
On 4/5/2021 at 3:09 AM, HiddencatBSN said:

Yes, dating as a nurse is definitely unprofessional. Plus it signals to the employer that you’ll be quitting soon because we all know it’s inappropriate for married women to remain in the workforce.

Wasn’t talking about dating in general. Was more so thinking of the professional implications that could result from using an online dating site

23 hours ago, CalicoKitty said:

I don't think looking for a relationship is where to go. Look for some fun. Expect nothing, and if you get lucky, enjoy. Try a movie or dinner or just his place or yours. Go out and see what your best fit is. And if you find someone that you actually 'like' run with it. Otherwise, just get some practice for the your next catch. ?

Few expectations might be best.  At this point, I might just need people I enjoy being with over a serious relationship 

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Specializes in Rehab/Nurse Manager.
3 hours ago, LovingLife123 said:

Oh SilverBells.  I think match.com would be absolutely perfect for you.  You could meet the right partner that would support your Pepsi and peanut butter cup habit, and could also contribute to that luxury home you need. 
 

Seeing as how you really need two incomes to achieve your goals.  

LOL. Thanks for the laugh ? 

Specializes in Rehab/Nurse Manager.
1 hour ago, Tweety said:

It's 2020 and online dating is a fact of life.  It's not like you're going to put it on your resume, so don't worry about it.

I met my best friend on Match.com but no relationship.  

I would just make you over your ex and don't bring that baggage with you on dates.  If you need more time take it.

I envy people that "as soon as I quit looking he/she appeared".  That hasn't worked for me and I quit looking years ago.  LOL

I feel like the “I quit looking” mentality never really works for me either. I think it’s because I never actually quit looking? In other words, I expect something when I least expect it.  Kind of hard to explain really.  
 

But yeah,I agree with not bringing any baggage into any relationship.  No new match wants to hear about any ex relationships

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

You can’t look to others to make you happy, it comes from within. The minute you stop looking is the minute someone fantastic will come into your life. Take this time for you! 

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Specializes in Occupational Health.
1 hour ago, vintagegal said:

You can’t look to others to make you happy, it comes from within. The minute you stop looking is the minute someone fantastic will come into your life. Take this time for you! 

Well not that fantastic...I'm already spoken for....just sayin'?

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Specializes in Perioperative / RN Circulator.

I don’t think any employer cares that you have a profile on a dating site. 

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Specializes in Peds ED.
15 hours ago, SilverBells said:

Wasn’t talking about dating in general. Was more so thinking of the professional implications that could result from using an online dating site

 

Why on earth would it matter that you're on a dating website? Seriously. What professional implications are you envisioning? Someone sees that you're on a dating site and....they know that you're on a dating site? Honestly I'd worry way more about the shenanigans you get up to here.

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I have never used a dating site so it would be impossible to comment, however using logic, the reason is, I don't think anyone is likely to put anything bad about themselves in their profiles. 

Pre Covid, I found women everywhere. From supermarkets to libraries, clubs, bars, gym, everywhere. I had to observe if they showed consideration before I asked for a phone number. Post Covid, I don't know. Just the old black book. 

Pre Covid, I would never go out on a date, not even a drink until we have had a few phone conversations. I want to know what you read, watch, politics, hobbies, etc before any dates. I want to limit any bad experiences and even after all that, you still might not click on a date. 

I honestly don't know how you can find out about someone from a profile unless you are relying solely upon looks? I thought like SilverBells, I might get some pointers from the posters here. 

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Specializes in Peds ED.
1 hour ago, Curious1997 said:

I have never used a dating site so it would be impossible to comment, however using logic, the reason is, I don't think anyone is likely to put anything bad about themselves in their profiles. 

Pre Covid, I found women everywhere. From supermarkets to libraries, clubs, bars, gym, everywhere. I had to observe if they showed consideration before I asked for a phone number. Post Covid, I don't know. Just the old black book. 

Pre Covid, I would never go out on a date, not even a drink until we have had a few phone conversations. I want to know what you read, watch, politics, hobbies, etc before any dates. I want to limit any bad experiences and even after all that, you still might not click on a date. 

I honestly don't know how you can find out about someone from a profile unless you are relying solely upon looks? I thought like SilverBells, I might get some pointers from the posters here. 

You can talk to people you match with before meeting for an in person date. Matching isn’t a binding contract to go out with someone.

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Specializes in Community Health, Med/Surg, ICU Stepdown.

The only nurse to get covid on our covid unit didn't get it at work, she got it sleeping with random guys (her words, not mine!) on the dating app Plenty Of Fish. She told everyone about it, the whole hospital knew. And she didn't get fired. So I don't think being on dating sites will be any problem, and it's not your employers' business

Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagels are what my single female friends tend to use because they are free and let women message men first. If you're on one where any man can message you, you will be bombarded with thousands of dick pics... even if you put women looking for women ?

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I wish more people would post about how they plan to, post covid, negotiate the dating scene. I see this situation extending into next year. Masks etc. 

You older more experienced folks have a duty to advise us younger people how to proceed ???. What did you folks do during the cold War and Vietnam etc ??????? Don't be selfish! Tell us! 

Specializes in Community Health, Med/Surg, ICU Stepdown.

@Curious1997, I met my partner online, and one tip I have for you is to quickly transition from online messaging/texting to in person meet up or at least phone call. People can seem totally different when there is not verbal communication involved, and you may be disappointed if you invest a lot of time and energy texting and then don't click in real life.

One experience I found common was people would be equally curious about me as I was about them on text, maybe because it's weird to send a bunch of texts about yourself in a row, but in person talk nonstop about themselves and not show any interest in me. People love to talk about themselves, and being a good listener is a quality people like, but it's also important to find someone who actually cares about you and what you have going on = ) Check out the show Catfish for examples of online romances gone wrong!

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