Not hired...because of post intervie thank you note..yes, really

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Interviewed 2 weeks ago for a position that would work well for me given where I am at physically, emotionally and financially in life right now.....interview went fairly well though it was short. Also strange I knew one of the panel nurses having worked w/him a few years back..what was strange is he told the other interviewers I was mistaken that he and I had worked together in the past (when he introduced himself I said "we've met, we worked together for 3 yrs at ***** clinic. He said nothing...I thought..ok...) Anyway..was told I would hear something either way by the 7th. The 7th came and went no word. I planned to call this week to check on the status. Still thinking it was strange this former coworker acted as though he had never met me - we worked everyday almost together at this clinic. Neither of us have changed to any major degree. So, I have never sent a "thank you" note for an interview - ever. After reading many posts on here it seems this is now the norm so I did -the day after the interview. Fast forward to this a.m. I receive an email from one of the nurses in the interview (the panel had 5 people on it) - she states I will not be offered the position as they felt I was "too anxious" for the position because I mentioned knowing someone on the panel who tells them he did not work where I knew him from but he DID but mostly because I sent a thank you note to the hiring director on the panel and they all thought it was "too aggressive." ALL the note said was I appreciated his time as well as the others and looked forward to hearing from him one a decision was made. THAT WAS IT.

All I can think of is the former coworker has an issue w/me - though I can't imagine what because we worked together well, never had a problem..but after this I will never send another thank you note for an interview again. Though it may have worked for some of you, for me, it most definitely did not.:crying2:

next time, should you see an interviewer your recognize, acknowledge him/her privately.

tough lesson to learn, but this will prevent any misunderstandings/embarrassment or whatever his problem was.

i agree, you probably wouldn't want to work at a place like this.

but definitely continue with thank you notes...always.

leslie

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Interviewed 2 weeks ago for a position that would work well for me given where I am at physically, emotionally and financially in life right now.....interview went fairly well though it was short. Also strange I knew one of the panel nurses having worked w/him a few years back..what was strange is he told the other interviewers I was mistaken that he and I had worked together in the past (when he introduced himself I said "we've met, we worked together for 3 yrs at ***** clinic. He said nothing...I thought..ok...) Anyway..was told I would hear something either way by the 7th. The 7th came and went no word. I planned to call this week to check on the status. Still thinking it was strange this former coworker acted as though he had never met me - we worked everyday almost together at this clinic. Neither of us have changed to any major degree. So, I have never sent a "thank you" note for an interview - ever. After reading many posts on here it seems this is now the norm so I did -the day after the interview. Fast forward to this a.m. I receive an email from one of the nurses in the interview (the panel had 5 people on it) - she states I will not be offered the position as they felt I was "too anxious" for the position because I mentioned knowing someone on the panel who tells them he did not work where I knew him from but he DID but mostly because I sent a thank you note to the hiring director on the panel and they all thought it was "too aggressive." ALL the note said was I appreciated his time as well as the others and looked forward to hearing from him one a decision was made. THAT WAS IT.

All I can think of is the former coworker has an issue w/me - though I can't imagine what because we worked together well, never had a problem..but after this I will never send another thank you note for an interview again. Though it may have worked for some of you, for me, it most definitely did not.:crying2:

I don't think it was the thank you note. I think it was the weird dude.

Personally, I think you should thank your lucky stars you didn't get hired. That place sounds like it has "issues." I would still send thank you notes.

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I agree with some of the others. Maybe with that last job he was at, he got fired adn was trying to cover something. I would send a quick reply back and just state something along the line of " im sorry thats how my thank you note was interpreted, but I was merely trying to be courteous, Regards. ". People are idiots, I continue to learn that more and more every day.

I certainly wouldn't do that. It's best at this point to let it lie.

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

They sound insane in too many ways. It's true that you learn from every interview even if you aren't hired, but this one should probably be placed in a file marked "other" and forgotten about, except that it was nice they decided to elaborate on the reasons they didn't hire you. That would be useful feedback in a normal place and it isn't done nearly often enough.

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Holy crap! Lol!

I find it really strange he denied knowing you. Did he get fired from that place? I'm guessing he left that place of work off his resume and maybe is trying to cover for it? He was probably like "She's crazy I don't know her. I have bad vibes about this crazy person who claims to know me, don't hire her!" I'm being light-hearted with this, but really, I wonder if it wasn't so much the thank you note and more of that person acting weird that cost you the job.

That's what I think too. The guy's reaction is probably what gave off the "the OP's anxious" vibe, and not the thank you note.

Though in future panel interviews, perhaps you should not mention that you know/worked with anyone on an interview panel unless they acknowledge the prior relationship first. Or let them acknowledge that you worked together to the panel in private. That way no one comes off looking or feeling odd.

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Specializes in Certified Med/Surg tele, and other stuff.

I know...

Send a thank you note thanking them for taking you to task about about sending thank you notes.:lol2:

In the meantime, go find some former employee picture with the Freak and put that in the thank you card.

Okay..okay not the best idea, but dang, it would be fun!

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I would do it - no hesitation! You don't ever want to work there anyway, right?

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I would not respond or react in anyway to them.

You never know when you might see them again at another place and they end up as your boss or on another hiring panel. EEK!

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except that it was nice they decided to elaborate on the reasons they didn't hire you.

That's the part that stuck out to me as well. Normally you'd get nothing more than, "There were many qualified candidates for this position and unfortunately..."

What a weird and awkward situation.

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Holy crap! Lol!

I find it really strange he denied knowing you. Did he get fired from that place? I'm guessing he left that place of work off his resume and maybe is trying to cover for it? He was probably like "She's crazy I don't know her. I have bad vibes about this crazy person who claims to know me, don't hire her!" I'm being light-hearted with this, but really, I wonder if it wasn't so much the thank you note and more of that person acting weird that cost you the job.

This. Agree completely. I bet my right pinkie this guy has some reason to need to "hide" this job from his resume/employer. I'm sorry it went this way for you. And I agree it is really weird.

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I would not respond or react in anyway to them.

You never know when you might see them again at another place and they end up as your boss or on another hiring panel. EEK!

I have actually just ran into a nurse that I worked with 13 years ago in another city. It happens.

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That's so bizarre! Who knows.... maybe his girlfriend was also on the panel and is crazy jealous lol. You just never know.... I would just let it roll off my back... it's their issue, not your's. I think you dodged a bullet!

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