Not hired...because of post intervie thank you note..yes, really

[Gratefulprn]

Interviewed 2 weeks ago for a position that would work well for me given where I am at physically, emotionally and financially in life right now.....interview went fairly well though it was short. Also strange I knew one of the panel nurses having worked w/him a few years back..what was strange is he told the other interviewers I was mistaken that he and I had worked together in the past (when he introduced himself I said "we've met, we worked together for 3 yrs at ***** clinic. He said nothing...I thought..ok...) Anyway..was told I would hear something either way by the 7th. The 7th came and went no word. I planned to call this week to check on the status. Still thinking it was strange this former coworker acted as though he had never met me - we worked everyday almost together at this clinic. Neither of us have changed to any major degree. So, I have never sent a "thank you" note for an interview - ever. After reading many posts on here it seems this is now the norm so I did -the day after the interview. Fast forward to this a.m. I receive an email from one of the nurses in the interview (the panel had 5 people on it) - she states I will not be offered the position as they felt I was "too anxious" for the position because I mentioned knowing someone on the panel who tells them he did not work where I knew him from but he DID but mostly because I sent a thank you note to the hiring director on the panel and they all thought it was "too aggressive." ALL the note said was I appreciated his time as well as the others and looked forward to hearing from him one a decision was made. THAT WAS IT.

All I can think of is the former coworker has an issue w/me - though I can't imagine what because we worked together well, never had a problem..but after this I will never send another thank you note for an interview again. Though it may have worked for some of you, for me, it most definitely did not.

[klone, MSN, RN]

***. That is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. I'm sorry.

[Altra, BSN, RN]

One person's "anxious" or desperate is another person's aggressive go-getter.

This just confirms what is often said ...

Particularly for entry-level positions, some number of equally qualified candidates will be interviewed. One will be chosen for the position, the others will not. The reason one was successful and the others were not is much more likely to be a matter of personal style, not substantive qualifications. Try not to sweat it too much.

[Lauren the RN]

Holy crap! Lol!

I find it really strange he denied knowing you. Did he get fired from that place? I'm guessing he left that place of work off his resume and maybe is trying to cover for it? He was probably like "She's crazy I don't know her. I have bad vibes about this crazy person who claims to know me, don't hire her!" I'm being light-hearted with this, but really, I wonder if it wasn't so much the thank you note and more of that person acting weird that cost you the job.

[mamiekay]

Perhaps the person you knew on the panel has reasons for not wanting the others to know where he worked previously??? You never know. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.

[SHGR, MSN, RN, CNS]

So sorry to hear that. Sounds like maybe HE has something to hide. It is my understanding as well that thank-you notes are practically expected after an interview- and, quite honestly, who isn't anxious to get a job nowadays?

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

Sounds like a good thing in the long run. This place sounds weird. I can't imagine how uncomfortable it would be to be working with someone that claims they never met you. That could lead to trouble down the road.

[netglow, ASN, RN]

Yea, I bet either this guy you worked with didn't want you working there because he has re-invented himself :) and you'd be all, "Hey John, why are you acting so weird, and where did that english accent come from?" or, he actually gave no positive/negative endorsement. He didn't have to say anything, and that would be enough.

Very unprofessional however of the person who wrote you the note. Sounds like they hire children for management. You wouldn't want to be working there. Blessing.

[Creamsoda, ASN, RN]

I agree with some of the others. Maybe with that last job he was at, he got fired adn was trying to cover something. I would send a quick reply back and just state something along the line of " im sorry thats how my thank you note was interpreted, but I was merely trying to be courteous, Regards. ". People are idiots, I continue to learn that more and more every day.

[AJPV]

Just for kicks you should find some evidence showing that he worked at the clinic with you (maybe a newletter article with a group photo or something) and send copies to him and all the people on the interview panel. Just send them copies with your 2 names highlighted - no further explanation. Oh to be a fly on the wall when that hits the fan!

[Biffbradford]

I've given up trying to figure out the hiring process. It makes no sense at all.

[caliotter3]

I would not let the weird behavior of one person hold you up from sending thank you notes in the future if you desire to do so. The excuse that you were too aggressive, is just that, an excuse. I would not give it another thought. Good luck.