Not hired...because of post intervie thank you note..yes, really

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Interviewed 2 weeks ago for a position that would work well for me given where I am at physically, emotionally and financially in life right now.....interview went fairly well though it was short. Also strange I knew one of the panel nurses having worked w/him a few years back..what was strange is he told the other interviewers I was mistaken that he and I had worked together in the past (when he introduced himself I said "we've met, we worked together for 3 yrs at ***** clinic. He said nothing...I thought..ok...) Anyway..was told I would hear something either way by the 7th. The 7th came and went no word. I planned to call this week to check on the status. Still thinking it was strange this former coworker acted as though he had never met me - we worked everyday almost together at this clinic. Neither of us have changed to any major degree. So, I have never sent a "thank you" note for an interview - ever. After reading many posts on here it seems this is now the norm so I did -the day after the interview. Fast forward to this a.m. I receive an email from one of the nurses in the interview (the panel had 5 people on it) - she states I will not be offered the position as they felt I was "too anxious" for the position because I mentioned knowing someone on the panel who tells them he did not work where I knew him from but he DID but mostly because I sent a thank you note to the hiring director on the panel and they all thought it was "too aggressive." ALL the note said was I appreciated his time as well as the others and looked forward to hearing from him one a decision was made. THAT WAS IT.

All I can think of is the former coworker has an issue w/me - though I can't imagine what because we worked together well, never had a problem..but after this I will never send another thank you note for an interview again. Though it may have worked for some of you, for me, it most definitely did not.:crying2:

Specializes in ICU/CCU, Med Surg.

"Too aggressive"? That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

I agree that this has more to do with your weirdo former coworker rather than the thank you note.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

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Specializes in Leadership, Psych, HomeCare, Amb. Care.

I find it really strange he denied knowing you. Did he get fired from that place? I'm guessing he left that place of work off his resume and maybe is trying to cover for it? He was probably like "She's crazy I don't know her. I have bad vibes about this crazy person who claims to know me, don't hire her!"

I'm being light-hearted with this, but really, I wonder if it wasn't so much the thank you note and more of that person acting weird that cost you the job.

Those are also my thoughts. I suspect this former worker poisoned the well.

hang in there.

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Specializes in PICU, ICU, Hospice, Mgmt, DON.

Believe me, I have been in on the hiring process many times. It was NOT the thank you note. It was the former worker and whatever game he was playing. The note, which is considered professional and proper etiquette, was not the reason.

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Specializes in Home Health.

"Too aggressive" it almost sounds like something else is going on here that they are not making you aware of. Sending "thank you" cards is still pretty much standard practice for post interview.

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Specializes in Gerontology, Med surg, Home Health.

"Too aggressive" is calling the director of nursing 4 times a day for five days to "check on the status of my application" after having been told after the first three calls, the applications were under review.

Sending a thank you not is not only the polite thing to do, it is expected these days. You probably are better off not working with that bunch.

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Specializes in ED/ICU/TELEMETRY/LTC.
Holy crap! Lol!

I find it really strange he denied knowing you. Did he get fired from that place? I'm guessing he left that place of work off his resume and maybe is trying to cover for it? He was probably like "She's crazy I don't know her. I have bad vibes about this crazy person who claims to know me, don't hire her!" I'm being light-hearted with this, but really, I wonder if it wasn't so much the thank you note and more of that person acting weird that cost you the job.

Yep, he ditched you because of something on HIS resume. You can bet the words on the "sorry" letter came right out of his mouth.

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Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.
"Hey John, why are you acting so weird, and where did that english accent come from?".

LOL...

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Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

Edited because I misunderstood something in the OP.

It wasn't the thank-you note. Don't omit that in the future because of some wierd dynamics going on with the guy you worked with before.

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Specializes in LTC, Med-Surge, Ortho.
Interviewed 2 weeks ago for a position that would work well for me given where I am at physically, emotionally and financially in life right now.....interview went fairly well though it was short. Also strange I knew one of the panel nurses having worked w/him a few years back..what was strange is he told the other interviewers I was mistaken that he and I had worked together in the past (when he introduced himself I said "we've met, we worked together for 3 yrs at ***** clinic. He said nothing...I thought..ok...) Anyway..was told I would hear something either way by the 7th. The 7th came and went no word. I planned to call this week to check on the status. Still thinking it was strange this former coworker acted as though he had never met me - we worked everyday almost together at this clinic. Neither of us have changed to any major degree. So, I have never sent a "thank you" note for an interview - ever. After reading many posts on here it seems this is now the norm so I did -the day after the interview. Fast forward to this a.m. I receive an email from one of the nurses in the interview (the panel had 5 people on it) - she states I will not be offered the position as they felt I was "too anxious" for the position because I mentioned knowing someone on the panel who tells them he did not work where I knew him from but he DID but mostly because I sent a thank you note to the hiring director on the panel and they all thought it was "too aggressive." ALL the note said was I appreciated his time as well as the others and looked forward to hearing from him one a decision was made. THAT WAS IT.

All I can think of is the former coworker has an issue w/me - though I can't imagine what because we worked together well, never had a problem..but after this I will never send another thank you note for an interview again. Though it may have worked for some of you, for me, it most definitely did not.:crying2:

I really don't believe that the thank you letter had anything to do with you not getting the job. This job was definitely not for you and count it a blessing that you did not get that job, look at who you would have been working for:uhoh3: It is their loss not yours, remind yourself who you are and what you have accomplished and move on. I wish you the best.:heartbeat

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Specializes in ICU.
Believe me, I have been in on the hiring process many times. It was NOT the thank you note. It was the former worker and whatever game he was playing. The note, which is considered professional and proper etiquette, was not the reason.

I completely agree. I don't think it had anything to do with the thank you note. The former coworker has something fishy going on.

I've gotten thank you notes. I always appreciated them. Unfortunately the people who sent them were really just not qualified at the time. If they were, I would have taken it into consideration.

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Specializes in ICU, Telemetry.

Seems like prior coworker is a freak and for whatever reason didn't want you around. I'd be willing to bet he left the place you'd both worked off his resume, and he forgot the world is a small place.

Back when I was in computers, I had to fire someone because they lied to me. I was lunching with a friend who was working at another company and we saw employee X at another table in the diner. They mentioned they'd worked with employee X at Company Y. Now, it was pretty impressive to have worked at Company Y, and I'd have remembered that. Reviewed his application -- no Company Y. Called company Y, got dates of employment, and a no rehire due to lying on application. I called our HR department, told them what I'd stumbled across, and they came and terminated the employee after they double checked what I'd told them.

If someone checks up on him, Freak may be in a lot of trouble....

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Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

Goodness. Whatever happened to thanking people for their good manners?

Mate, if that was me, I'd be calling this person - or whoever was the head of the interview - and telling them how nasty and rude I think they are. And I would tell that person in particular what you said on here - unless you really, really want to work there.

Sorry, I would not want to work for someone like that.

How rude of them!

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