I counsel peple re this situation all the time in psych. It's a big problem with families today.
One of you will have to try and perhaps work dayshift. If ur hubby can't change his schedule, you will probably have to.
Once the other baby comes along, you will have less time to decide what to do. Better to see if you can get a day position perhaps before the baby is born. Can you talk to ur current boss at all? Do u have any holiday time owing to you, where u can take time off to find a position that suits you and ur family? Can u afford 2 take a year off 2 spend time with ur children?
Also, this is what gets to me, people constantly complain on here re not having money, but we all can do without less money & material goods but nobody wants to. Nobody wants to sacrifie anything to get where they are going to.
When I was studying, and sometimes only getting one shift a weekend during a 6 week unpaid clinical, I made do with only what I needed. If I couldn't afford steak - or any type of meat - I bought other stuff on special in the evening from the supermarket, trawled the markets, made cheap but nutritious meals. I did without for many things. I went to opportunity (opp) shops & got shoes, clothes, handbags, blankets, sheets, etc - I still do. I did not go anywhere unless I had to, I walked or caught buses to save money. I actually got fitter and was probably healthier. I had no holidays at all for about 4 years when studying.
You can still save money & have good, quality family time. You can borrow DVDs & toys from the library for ur kids for example. I have always said that sitting in front of TVs or DVDs all day & night destroys families - because nobody listens or talks about their problems. People don't talk anymore to each other - we are all too busy & stressed 2 listen to other people, & that is the problem with the world 2day. I know one family who did not have the TV on for their kids for 6 months - they got rid of it, and went on walks/exercising instead & did family things together. When they said to their kids we are getting a new TV soon, the kids were disinterested and didn't care!
If u take the other job, will you have to work all the shifts they want you to? Do u not have any family at all to help you out?
If you get the new job, ask if they have a daycare program where you can drop ur kids off then pick them up after work.
I'm afraid probably one of you will have 2 stay @ home 4 a while with ur kids & economise. It won't be forever, but you can do it if you really want to. Also you could look for a non-nursing job with better hours to suit u & ur family.
Let us know what happens anyway.