Need shoulders to cry on, classmate killed in MVA

[L&D_2b]

I'm sure you all know that I have been posting my experiences about starting LPN school on this site. However, today was just an awful day and I really could use some shoulders to cry on.

It turns out, yesterday after we left school, my fellow classmate was killed in a car accident on her way home. Although we only met back in November, she and I really had a great friendship going. I guess you could say we were "lab" partners since we sat together during class everyday.

I didn't hear about her accident until I got to school this morning. I had to leave class at noon because I just couldn't handle sitting in class anymore with "my friend" not next to me.

To be honest, I'm considering not going back to school next week. I'm so afraid to drive that I had to have my husband come and get me at school and bring me home. Although I just started this program, I feel like I can't do it without my friend who just died. To top it off, she was only 31 (like me) and had three children and a husband at home.

I'm sorry if this post is rambling or has misspellings. I'm really in a terrible state of mind right now.

--Marci

[Sabby_NC]

Marci I am truly sorry to read of this horrid accident.

My love and prayers go up for her family and friends.

Please honor her memory by finishing this course FOR her.

Don't let this fear get in your way of your moving forward and if it does please seek out some help for this.

Life is mapped out for us, we have no control over what happens but it is how we deal with it that is important.

Give it time my dear *hugs*

[mrsraisinkain]

I am so sorry for your sorrow. You are in my thoughts. I do want to reiterate what every other poster on this thread has said. You have GOT to continue on with your life, your education. We've read your thread, filling us in on every day of LPN school, we know how excited you are. Rather than succumbing to your grief and quitting school, you should honor her life and keep going.

[*Scrubs*]

I am truly sorry to hear of your friends passing. Please wait on giving up on school! You sound like you will be a fine nurse! Hang in there!:redpinkhe

[jean333]

I am so sorry....I watched my big sister go through grief when she lost her best friend in a MVA. Please don't give up though...Ask yourself would your friend want you to give it up??? Do it for yourself and do it for her. Its going to be bittersweet no doubt but please don't quit. When you lose someone important to you its like a set of chimes that has lost a piece. It still makes a sound but its a very different sound. It takes a long time to get use to that sound. Grief is a journey and its different for every person. Find someone to talk too. Pour your fears and hurt out but don't walk away from a profession that you will find so rewarding. Don't give up.

Jean

[peridotgirl]

Hey Marci, Im sorry about your loss. It sounds that your friend was a very special friend. This tragic accident goes to show us that we don't know what tomorrow brings and that we must live life to the fullest. I think that you SHOULD go back to school and don't quit becuase i think if your friend was here she would be very disapponted in you if she knew that you quit NS becuase of her. As for your driving, I would let your husband drive u as long as it takes for you to get closure, however, I wouldn't postpone driving too long. I know that you will get thru this. Find the comfort of family and friends. And not only get a license for yourself, but do it for her. I wish you the best of luck and my prayers to go to you, her friend and her family. God Bless. :icon_hug:

[Liddle Noodnik]

I'm sure you all know that I have been posting my experiences about starting LPN school on this site. However, today was just an awful day and I really could use some shoulders to cry on.

It turns out, yesterday after we left school, my fellow classmate was killed in a car accident on her way home. Although we only met back in November, she and I really had a great friendship going. I guess you could say we were "lab" partners since we sat together during class everyday.

I didn't hear about her accident until I got to school this morning. I had to leave class at noon because I just couldn't handle sitting in class anymore with "my friend" not next to me.

To be honest, I'm considering not going back to school next week. I'm so afraid to drive that I had to have my husband come and get me at school and bring me home. Although I just started this program, I feel like I can't do it without my friend who just died. To top it off, she was only 31 (like me) and had three children and a husband at home.

I'm sorry if this post is rambling or has misspellings. I'm really in a terrible state of mind right now.

--Marci

Marci, don't knock yourself for feeling this way right now. Yes get back to school but you can't just shrug and act like it never happened. Grieve - then get back to work. She would want you to.

God bless - take care!

[Lovely_RN, MSN]

I am so very sorry to hear about your classmates death Marci.

That is really tragic and I can't imagine how I would feel if I was in your shoes.

I don't want to minimize that you are going through but I think that you should continue with the program.

[madisent]

Marci, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your classmate/friend. I know she would have not wanted for you to give up on your dreams of being a nurse. So please continue on for you and in her memory.

God Bless,

Tammy

[MzMouse]

I am so sorry about your classmate. Take a little time and grieve, but I do hope you continue with the program. (((big hug)))

[donsterRN, ASN, BSN]

I'm so sorry for the sudden loss of your friend. And please know that what you're feeling is normal; please give yourself permission to grieve for your friend.

And please do not leave school. Do your best to get through the program for you and your friend.

I'm keeping you both close in prayer. Gentle hugs to you, Marci.

Don

[The Bell Jar]

I am so sorry for your loss.But the other posters are right,your friend would want you to keep on truckin' and become an awesome nurse.

[niali]

Hello Marci,

I am so sorry to hear of your friends passing.But DO NOT quit ! Your friend will be with you in spirit ! Think of her as your guardian angel,and

you will be okay.Hugs and lots of love :redpinkhe