My husband died Nov 8th

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Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o

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((((linda)))) I am teary reading this. I am truly sorry for your loss. We are here for you!

So sorry to hear your sad news. Stay strong.

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So sorry to hear about your loss...take care of yourself....

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

{{{{{Linda}}}}}

so sorry, you are in my thoughts.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Linda, take care of yourself.

My thoughts are with you.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Linda, take care of yourself.

My thoughts are with you.

((((((((LINDA)))))))))

My deepest thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I pray that you all have a blessed holiday season. Take care.

Linda,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is especially difficult so near the holidays. I'll bet those last 5 years were the happiest of Brian's life, how wonderful that you could be together after so many years. My thoughts are with you. Take Care.

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Linda, you and your family have my deepest sympathies. I;m sorry to hear of your loss.

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Linda, My thoughts and prayers are with you. How blessed your husband was to die in the arms of the one he loves, knowing that he is surrounded with with your eternal love. Such a touching story. May you find peace in comfort.

I'm writing this on Christmas, Linda. I hope you can feel all of the thoughts and prayers that are with you now. (((linda))) Jeannie

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