Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o
linda, i'm truly sorry to hear about your husband. i too was touched by your post...may god give you peace, strength, & comfort throughout your time of grief. i will keep you in my prayers too. do keep coming here (allnurses.com) no matter what the time...there will be one of us here to listen.
Thank you for taking the time and effort to share your loss with us. I remember your posts in the past and have been wondering how you were doing. ((((((((Linda))))))))))
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. I am happy that you were blessed to have the five yrs that you did with him. May God get you through this difficult time.
((((((((((Linda))))))))) May God richly bless you and bring you strength and peace . I know you will always cherish the precious moments you had with your husband. I send to you my deepest condolences.
So sorry for your loss. What a difficult Christmas this will be for you. I only hope that friends and family are close and you'll be with people you love and who love you.
I don't know if it's appropriate, but your post reminded me of the words to the song "To where you are" The words were written by Linda Thompson, and seem very much like you and your husband.
Who can say for certain? Maybe you're still here.
I feel you all around me -- your memory's so clear
Deep in the stillness, I can hear you speak,
You're still my inspiration.
Can it be that you are my forever love,
and you are watching over me from up above?
Fly me up to where you are, beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight, to see you smile
If only for a while, to know you're there
A breath away's not far to where you are.
Are you gently sleeping here inside my dream?
And isn't faith believing all power can't be seen?
As my heart holds you, just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me, every day
Because you are my forever love,
watching me from up above.
And I believe that angels breathe,
and that love will live on and never leave.
Fly me up to where you are, beyond the distant star
I am so deeply saddened for you...May you find strength through your family and friends..please know you are in my thoughts and prayers....May God smile down upon you, and take good care of you today and always...
My condolences to you and your family. Come here and talk to us about things anytime you want. My brother's young wife died of colon cancer 1 year ago. We know what you are going through.
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linda, i'm truly sorry to hear about your husband. i too was touched by your post...may god give you peace, strength, & comfort throughout your time of grief. i will keep you in my prayers too. do keep coming here (allnurses.com) no matter what the time...there will be one of us here to listen.
sincerely,
moe.