My husband died Nov 8th

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Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o

(((linda)))

so sorry for your loss...yet so "glad" ( for lack of a better word at this moment) that you had the wonderful time together that you did, and that you were able to care for him as you did. got goosebumples and teary eyed reading your post. if one has to pass so young, that is how it should be....loved, comfortable, at home, and in the arms of your beloved.

Linda, I am so sorry. Peace be with you. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Linda. You sound like such a strong woman, and I'm sure Brent was so comforted by your presence with him.

You're in my thoughts.

Heather

((((( Linda )))))))

My heart and thoughts go out to you.

Specializes in midwifery, ophthalmics, general practice.

there is nothing that I can add that hasnt already been said- I am so sorry

Karen

Linda, I too am so very sorry. (((((Hugs))))) May you find peace and know that you made his life richer and allowed him to pass peacefully knowing he was very loved.

may you have some peace of mind, love and good memories this holiday season.....

he is still with you in your heart and thoughts....

my best thoughts to you

Specializes in Geriatrics, LTC.

I'm so sorry for you...take care....you are in our thoughts and prayers.

(((((Linda))))))

He was very lucky to go with you by his side.

Specializes in Critical Care.

Linda,

I am so sorry for your loss.

My sincere condolences to you and your family. Very courageous to tell us your story.

Specializes in Trauma and Pediatrics.

((((Linda)))) I am so sorry for your loss.....

Brenda

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