I think frequently doctors go along with what the family wants because they know eveyone is lawsuit happy anymore and they figure if they don't and something happens they'll be taken to the cleaners in court. Let's face it, all doctors and nurses are human, we make mistakes and in any other business making mistakes isn't as critical as when you're in the medical profession. They figure if they give the "know it all" family member what they want, there's less chance of a lawsuit. I hate it when family members tell me how to do my job and act like they know more than I do just because they are a member of the medical profession. Yes, perhaps they are higher educated, but in many cases, finding the proper DX is a matter of elimination of what isn't wrong with the person. I think anyone that feels the need to tell you right up front that they are a nurse, doctor or whatever, is trying to make you feel uncomfortable and trying to make certain that you "jump through hoops" to do everything perfect for their family member and many times they feel that they will be placed on a higher priority level if you know you're dealing with a healthcare worker. I have always felt a person should receive care based on their needs and who has a more important need, such as, before I will move someone's table two inches to the left, I will take someone to the toilet. Or before I would toilet someone I would pick a resident up from the floor. I'm not going to let someone lay on the floor because a nurse wants her table moved 2 inches, priority rules in my opinion. What a person does for a living should not give them priority in the care they receive, the needs of the patient should be the determining factor. I prefer people not know I'm a nurse, I just want them to do their job and provide me the care I need or my loved one needs. What I do for a living should not rate me special care. Now there are times when a person states they are a nurse and have made certain observations that maybe a nonprofessional person would not have made but you can still pass on the information without announcing a title. In LTC we do get to know family members and it is much easier to find out their professions since we have more frequent contact with the family members. But if you work in a hospital and someone says, "My name is------and I'm a nurse and this is what is wrong with me, and this is what I want," that to me would be very annoying. Many times tests that are very expensive are ordered because a family member demanded it and it has nothing to do with what the actual DX is and the MD may have never even considered ordering it, but did simply because it was demanded by someone. I can understand how doctors would feel very threatened and concerned not to do what someone demands, that's why the cost of insurances are so high, everyone wants a lawsuit that will set them up for life.