My father died last Tuesday


My father passed away this past Tuesday. He had lived in an assisted living place for about 5 yrs. My daughter, son in law and granddaughter had been up to see him and had returned home and a few days later she called me and said they called her and said that he'd taken a bad turn for the worst and he was getting morphine q15min. I called them and they said they weren't sure he'd make it through the night. I went up on the bus and got there the next day (coouldn't afford to fly & couldn't find an airport close enough to the home). I was able to spend almost a wk with him, and had to go home. I told him I'd be back as soon as I could. He seemed to understand. I got a call from my daughter a few hrs after I got holme.

She said they'd just called and said he passed away at 6AM that morning. They will be having a service there in MD then will ship his body to Phila. PA where we will go to the service and bury him. He was very sick last wk. but knew me. We were able to spend some quality time together which I will never forget. I have been in nursing since 1978 (LPN) until now (RN). I have seen people die over several days to about 1 or 2 wks. I'm sorry he was so sick. He didn't want me to come up to see him alone because of the traveling. He was ok with my going with my family. I wasn't able to go this last time they went. This time he had nothing to say about it. When I got there, I found out that he wasn't getting the morphine that often, just had the fast acting one available that often and was getting the q8hr on order and prn as needed. :cry:

Thanks for listening to me vent. I know that he is with the Lord now, and is happy, that's what's most important. ;)

leslie :-D

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i'm so sorry, ohio.

and i'm glad you got to spend time with him at the end.

it enabled him to truly die in peace.

gentle hugs...


TheCommuter, BSN, RN

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Here's a hug. (((((HUG))))) :icon_hug:

I'm so sorry for your profound loss. May your father rest in heavenly peace.


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very sorry about your loss of your father

He and you are fortunate that you were able to spend some time together before he passed on.

locolorenzo22, BSN, RN

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Peace in mind, peace in heaven,

see him in your mind's eye.

Never forget the memories of time,

and sadness for your loss from us to you.

rest and reflect, our sadness for your loss....peace.


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(((((Hugs!)))))) I pray that you will be comforted. I am glad you were able to spend time with your dad before he passed.

Specializes in Assisted Living Nurse Manager.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

May Gods peace be with you!

HM2VikingRN, RN

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My sympathy. My dad died 8 years ago. I lost a cousin last june. I think almost every day about things that I would like to tell both of them...


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So sorry to hear about your dad, it is such a shock when one's parent dies, even if we have been a nurse for many years.:heartbeat


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So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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My deepest sympathy goes out to you.It is sooo hard to lose a parent.I lost my mother this time last year.Your mind will wonder at times.These will be your memories to hold on to.That is what they were made for,they will get you through it.If you ever need an ear,I am here!All my prayers to you!

pagandeva2000, LPN

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

I am sorry for your loss.

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