My father passed away this past Tuesday. He had lived in an assisted living place for about 5 yrs. My daughter, son in law and granddaughter had been up to see him and had returned home and a few days later she called me and said they called her and said that he'd taken a bad turn for the worst and he was getting morphine q15min. I called them and they said they weren't sure he'd make it through the night. I went up on the bus and got there the next day (coouldn't afford to fly & couldn't find an airport close enough to the home). I was able to spend almost a wk with him, and had to go home. I told him I'd be back as soon as I could. He seemed to understand. I got a call from my daughter a few hrs after I got holme.
She said they'd just called and said he passed away at 6AM that morning. They will be having a service there in MD then will ship his body to Phila. PA where we will go to the service and bury him. He was very sick last wk. but knew me. We were able to spend some quality time together which I will never forget. I have been in nursing since 1978 (LPN) until now (RN). I have seen people die over several days to about 1 or 2 wks. I'm sorry he was so sick. He didn't want me to come up to see him alone because of the traveling. He was ok with my going with my family. I wasn't able to go this last time they went. This time he had nothing to say about it. When I got there, I found out that he wasn't getting the morphine that often, just had the fast acting one available that often and was getting the q8hr on order and prn as needed.
Thanks for listening to me vent. I know that he is with the Lord now, and is happy, that's what's most important.
Baby, I am so sad and so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine the pain you are enduring. I am just so glad you got to spend a whole week with him before his departure to Heaven - the place of eternal bliss, where there is no more suffering...only love.
Jo Dirt
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It's always hard on us, but I think it is wonderful when a dying person is comfortable with what is happening to them.