My daughter is quitting nursing school!

[iwanna]

Let her do what she wants, and let her pay for it. Time to let her make her own decisions. If they are bad one's then she will learn from them. Once, they are adults, we need to let them go. And, this means -Financially!!

[kids]

I don't see any point in continuing to spend money on an education she has no intention of using. She's a grown up, if she quits now and has regrets a couple years down the road she can go back and finish school on her own dime.

[4_Sq]

I stayin with the opinion of GonRidin on this one.

You can travel the world with a nursing career, and I have. The PT aide is not recognized in Canada, I don't know about other places.

I've been there & done that with some regrets, and now I don't want to see your daughter sell her self short when I don't think after 1st year you can say anyone has given it a good old College try.

By the way.. I am earning $80,000 + as a full time RN in Canada, so I don't think you can compare the 2 jobs from a monetary perspective.

I just hate to see someone with potential take the easy way out.:grn:twocents:X2000

[OldNurseEducator]

I stayin with the opinion of GonRidin on this one.

You can travel the world with a nursing career, and I have. The PT aide is not recognized in Canada, I don't know about other places.

I've been there & done that with some regrets, and now I don't want to see your daughter sell her self short when I don't think after 1st year you can say anyone has given it a good old College try.

By the way.. I am earning $80,000 + as a full time RN in Canada, so I don't think you can compare the 2 jobs from a monetary perspective.

I just hate to see someone with potential take the easy way out.:grn:twocents:X2000

You make $80,000 in Canada because the price of living there is very different from many parts of the U.S. Your home prices are ASTRONOMICAL compared to most areas in the U.S. That's like comparing California to Ohio or apples to oranges! I would never force ANYONE to study for a job they really don't like just because of monetary gains.

[linearthinker, DNP, RN]

I think it is lunacy to try to force an adult to do something she does not want to do. Further, said adult should be supporting herself independently.

I'd let her know you support her choices 100%, but are not supporting her financially, no matter what she decides. This continued dependency is not doing her any favors. It's time to grow up.

[xtxrn, ASN, RN]

Pale, Onaclearday, mllnjll, thanks for your thoughts, and I agree. But going for a degree in physical therapy would be very pricey, I can't afford to fund any more education and my daughter can't right now also (still paying off student loans from her non nursing BA) so that is off the plate for now.

But hey, she loves that pt aide job, she can live on it, so I say ok for now. My husband is very upset though, he feels she just has to suffer thru one more year and then she will have more options. Personally I don't think we can "make " her go back. She's a big girl now. My husband worries so

Uh, yeah.... it's nice of you to want to help her financially, but maybe if she has to take the loan out herself, she will buckle down and decide on something....JMHO. You are not bound to support her career hopping forever

[pumpkinseeds]

Gosh. I told my daughter I wouldn't pay for school if she majored in nursing, as I love her too much to have her suffer like I have.

Seriously, all the pragmatic reasons for being a nurse have expired. I went into it because I knew it would be guaranteed employment with flexible hours. I was smart enough to know I would be underpaid and overworked. Well, how things have changed. The pay is slightly better - when I graduated I made $12/hr in 1991, which translates to less than 19/hr today - but everything else is worse. Back when I was a baby nurse I felt respected, by my patients and by administration. Not anymore. Now 12 hour shifts are mandatory at most facilities - not conducive to raising kids, especially if they are small and you're a single parent. Back when I graduated we had our pick of jobs - now GNs are putting in apps by the dozen while they work at Walmart a year after graduation.

If her heart isn't in it, then she's doing the right thing. She does have some marketable skills and good job history. Money's not everything.

[honeykrown, MSN, NP]

Everyone is saying obey her wishes, but then sometimes i see that others voice of reasoning can be taken into consideration.

For me i tell her to stay and finish school (not just because its nursing). She did quit from the PT aide job right (Why did she quit, what makes her think going back would resolve itself, maybe nursing made her realize that she liked PT but then it would be for a short while before shes bored again and wants to do something else)

Also paying for her school to me is not ridiculous, (i come from a family where tuition is paid till the kid is married) but then she has made numerous career changes that drains you and your husband on some good times.

As others have said, i would tell her to finish this, get the license as backup adn then shes free as a bird to do whatever she wants to do. Even if its to be an archeologist but not to expect anything from you financially (unless you want to)

[anotherone, BSN, RN]

My daughter just finished her first year of nursing school, called us up extremely upset that she hates it and wants to quit. I'm basically ok with it but my husband is freaking out.

Some background; I'm a nurse and our daughter, since graduating college, has been a teacher, a paralegal, and a Physical therapy aide (which she LOVED) She has always worked, we helped her out with her BA and with nursing school.

so now she hates it, school, her externship, everything, and wants to go back to being a PT aide , with some administrative duties, for $20 an hour Maybe since I'm a nurse I understand, and feel she should do what she loves.My husband feels she is making a big mistake and will be left making a marginal living.

We have always been close, there's lots of love, but emotions are running high.

Any advice, for me in the middle?

It is her life. I only make a FEW dollars more than she does as a nurse!!!!!!!!!!! MARGINAL LIVING? ha! What do new grad nurses make in her area?

[xtxrn, ASN, RN]

Everyone is saying obey her wishes, but then sometimes i see that others voice of reasoning can be taken into consideration.

For me i tell her to stay and finish school (not just because its nursing). She did quit from the PT aide job right (Why did she quit, what makes her think going back would resolve itself, maybe nursing made her realize that she liked PT but then it would be for a short while before shes bored again and wants to do something else)

Also paying for her school to me is not ridiculous, (i come from a family where tuition is paid till the kid is married) but then she has made numerous career changes that drains you and your husband on some good times.

As others have said, i would tell her to finish this, get the license as backup adn then shes free as a bird to do whatever she wants to do. Even if its to be an archeologist but not to expect anything from you financially (unless you want to)

Well, that is definitely not the norm in this economy! Maybe your family could adopt a few more people wanting a free education

[honeykrown, MSN, NP]

Well, that is definitely not the norm in this economy! Maybe your family could adopt a few more people wanting a free education

My culture is totally different. I come from a place where its not the norm for the females to leave the house till they are married also. Although this is gradually changing, it's still going to be a while till it completely changes. The downside of this is if you come from a poor family then you forfeit school or wait till you are married and your husband and pay (but then...)

[xtxrn, ASN, RN]

My culture is totally different. I come from a place where its not the norm for the females to leave the house till they are married also. Although this is gradually changing, it's still going to be a while till it completely changes. The downside of this is if you come from a poor family then you forfeit school or wait till you are married and your husband and pay (but then...)

I'm almost 48... I would have gone absolutely nuts if I still lived at home