My daughter just finished her first year of nursing school, called us up extremely upset that she hates it and wants to quit. I'm basically ok with it but my husband is freaking out.
Some background; I'm a nurse and our daughter, since graduating college, has been a teacher, a paralegal, and a Physical therapy aide (which she LOVED) She has always worked, we helped her out with her BA and with nursing school.
so now she hates it, school, her externship, everything, and wants to go back to being a PT aide , with some administrative duties, for $20 an hour Maybe since I'm a nurse I understand, and feel she should do what she loves.My husband feels she is making a big mistake and will be left making a marginal living.
We have always been close, there's lots of love, but emotions are running high.
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
Child, you WILL be finishing nursing school!
How do you see that working, from a practical standpoint - you really think you have that much control over the life of an adult child who doesn't live with you?
Interesting that people think they could actually force their adult child to do something they don't want to do.
has been a teacher, a paralegal, and a physical therapy aide
it seems like she is very indecisive and has difficulty sticking with one thing. each of those professions, along with nursing, are complete different things. all you can do, is encourage her to continue nursing school, let her know the pros outweigh the cons. if she truly does not like it, then that is solely up to her
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
Sometimes the jobs we "hate" helps support the lifestyle or hobby we love,....just saying:)
Unless your hobby is sailing in regattas, I think it's possible to find a job you don't hate that will still pay your bills and allow you happiness and fulfillment in your non-work hours.
How do you see that working, from a practical standpoint - you really think you have that much control over the life of an adult child who doesn't live with you?
Interesting that people think they could actually force their adult child to do something they don't want to do.
Unless your hobby is sailing in regattas, I think it's possible to find a job you don't hate that will still pay your bills and allow you happiness and fulfillment in your non-work hours.
Fair enough, but don't forget tastes run different.
has been a teacher, a paralegal, and a physical therapy aide
it seems like she is very indecisive and has difficulty sticking with one thing. each of those professions, along with nursing, are complete different things. all you can do, is encourage her to continue nursing school, let her know the pros outweigh the cons. if she truly does not like it, then that is solely up to her
i wouldn't pay for any more of her schooling. she is an adult...if she wants to jump from career to career, she should do it on her own dime, not mom and dad's.
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I wouldn't pay for any more of her schooling. She is an adult...if she wants to jump from career to career, she should do it on her own dime, not mom and dad's.
I certainly do agree with that. I didn't catch that the OP had said they were funding all of her schooling.
Our motto is, we will pay for A degree, as much as we can. If you want to hop from one field of study to another, then it's on you.
I'd bargain with her, just one more year. Have the degree and then do what her heart desires- the PT aide. As parents, it's great to say let your kids do what they want, but sometimes when it comes to actually doing that- it'sa hard ball to swallow.
Have another cushion to fall back on, and the money already spent- Child, you WILL be finishing nursing school!
I wouldn't pay for any more of her schooling. She is an adult...if she wants to jump from career to career, she should do it on her own dime, not mom and dad's.
I have met Nurses whom hate what they do. They are miserable, angry, and just plain unhappy-but they are stuck. Living and working with this much stress is not good for your mind/body/spirit.
IMHO it is always best to do what we love, or at least what we like most of the time
Unless your hobby is sailing in regattas, I think it's possible to find a job you don't hate that will still pay your bills and allow you happiness and fulfillment in your non-work hours.
Funnyyou should say that..... We live a a sailboat and nursing allows us to take off for cruising to other countries, areas for months at a time.
I have met Nurses whom hate what they do. They are miserable, angry, and just plain unhappy-but they are stuck. Living and working with this much stress is not good for your mind/body/spirit.
IMHO it is always best to do what we love, or at least what we like most of the time
Maybe since I'm a nurse I understand, and feel she should do what she loves.My husband feels she is making a big mistake and will be left making a marginal living.
klone, MSN, RN
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How do you see that working, from a practical standpoint - you really think you have that much control over the life of an adult child who doesn't live with you?
Interesting that people think they could actually force their adult child to do something they don't want to do.