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My coworkers dont like me because I bragged

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I am just beyond angry with myself. I don't know why I did this. I'm a new grad who got days at a level 1 trauma center within about 9 months. I first complained about being on evening shift and then bragged about getting days - maybe brag isn't the word, but I probably talked about it too much.

I can tell my coworkers don't like me because of this. That is quite understandable, believe me I know. I think I did it because I was consumed with stress about finding childcare for evenings and I maybe didn't even realize I was talking about it as much as I was, although that's no excuse. I am just mortified with myself. I need help with knowing how to move forward at work. What should I do?

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I can't understand why they would be upset about this unless you somehow cut to the front of the line. Either way I would just not say any more about this and it should blow over.

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Bring in some snacks and try to apologize or explain yourself to the people who heard you. Humility goes hand in hand with professionalism. No sense in trying to diffuse a bomb after it went off. Try thinking about how what you say might effect others before you speak in the future and you'll probably end up with less enemies and frienemies.

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I agree, give it time. You sound like you'll do great, you show lots of self awareness with this post. It took me a lot more time to learn these lessons.

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I am just beyond angry with myself. I don't know why I did this. I'm a new grad who got days at a level 1 trauma center within about 9 months. I first complained about being on evening shift and then bragged about getting days - maybe brag isn't the word, but I probably talked about it too much.

I can tell my coworkers don't like me because of this. That is quite understandable, believe me I know. I think I did it because I was consumed with stress about finding childcare for evenings and I maybe didn't even realize I was talking about it as much as I was, although that's no excuse. I am just mortified with myself. I need help with knowing how to move forward at work. What should I do?

Their opinion(s) of you will continue to morph. Just learn from it and wait for it to blow over. I don't recommend apologizing or explaining. That's called "trying way too hard" when it involves such a minor issue.

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Their opinion(s) of you will continue to morph. Just learn from it and wait for it to blow over. I don't recommend apologizing or explaining. That's called "trying way too hard" when it involves such a minor issue.

I agree -- better to just not bring it up, keep your head down, work hard, be a good coworkers going forward, and things will improve over time.

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Never complain, never explain. Just be nice and helpful to everyone from now on. New gossip will come along soon enough, and I say this as someone who loves gossip.

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Why didn't they apply for it? It's dumb to get mad at someone for getting days, when the solution is so simple. Apply! But do be humble...

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I may have missed something here, but...

Which coworkers are annoyed with you--the ones also working days? Or those you worked alongside on nights?

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I also do not understand why this non issue is even an issue, but that's besides the point. I just wouldn't say anything else about it, including apologizing, diffusing etc. That will just bring more attention to the non issue, making in an issue unnecessarily. Congrats on getting a day spot, I understand the childcare struggle, especially for nights.

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Pretend it never happened. I can, however, relate to being stressed out and going into verbal overdrive. I learned in time that pretty much nobody remembers that stuff I was going on and on about, anyway.

Congrats on the job and on landing the day shift!

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Just don't talk about it anymore. Go to work, do you job, talk about other things. It is hard when we later realize that we may have spoken too much or Bragged too much. We all have said things that we later regret. It will be someone elses turn soon. When the next gosspi about someone else comes up, think before you participate in it. Do you want the other person to feel like you? When the next new topic comes around change the subject or just move on to your next task at work.

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