Jealous Friends...

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Have you guys experienced any jealousy or changes in your friends because you're now a nurse?

I'm in the pre nursing phase, and now 2 of my close friends (who dropped out first year of college) are going back because of me. I'm not sure weather to feel flattered or insulted.

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
And I often refer to RN and ADN as the same thing so I may not have said it right, but I do know what I'm talking about.

An RN and an ADN are two very different things. One is a degree; degrees generally are very difficult to revoke. An RN, on the other hand, holds a license and can have it revoked by the BON.

It is possible for one to graduate from a nursing program, whether diploma, ADN, BSN, etc., and yet not be an RN. That is where the distinction is and why terminology matters.

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An RN and an ADN are two very different things. One is a degree; degrees generally are very difficult to revoke. An RN, on the other hand, holds a license and can have it revoked by the BON.

It is possible for one to graduate from a nursing program, whether diploma, ADN, BSN, etc., and yet not be an RN. That is where the distinction is and why terminology matters.

We do get paid the same.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

When I was little (maybe 5?) I remember getting a sky dancer doll for Christmas. Does anyone remember those? Best thing ever! I loved it and showed it off to my best friend. Whose mom promptly went out and got her one because my friend threw a fit for it. I was peeved and threw a fit in response because she now has the exact same doll that I did! Not fair!! I mean, I had the doll (I had what I wanted), I guess I just didn't want her to have the doll too. She only got it because I had it. She would also dress like me, talk like me, and copycat me in general. Kids don't make sense. She is still one of my few lifelong best friends though :)

Seems familiar.

Anyway, OP, you are fixated on your friends intentions and thoughts/feelings of "jealousy", but do you think they give a flip what you think? Probably not. The way you talk makes it seem like you use the word "friends" extremely loosely.

Drop these people from your life and move on. In life you will NEVER to be able to control or change another persons actions or thoughts as easily as you can change your own. Don't like them riding your coat tails? Drop them. Problem solved. Do you want people in your life that you think are taking advantage of you?

You are responsible for your own actions, reactions, and feelings. Focus on yourself. You already have what you want. You can feel proud and accomplished that you have done the research and work to get where you are now. You will apply to nursing school, these friends will be far behind you catching up on prerequisites. You are on the track to your end goal- becoming a nurse. You need to focus on that and not on petty drama because that will distract and derail you from that ultimate goal.

When I was little my mom told me, "You already have the damn sky dancer doll! You were happy with that before, nothing has changed now except she has one too. You still have the doll you wanted!"

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Oh, to be the fly on the wall in this kids prerequisite classes...

I have to actually stop reading your threads and posts. I simply cannot conceptualize the amount of self-loathing and self-importance you have. Take 1,000x the daily recommended dose of the vitamin Humility, then call us in the morning.

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Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

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Unless you are Florence nightingale, this argument is invalid.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

Posting on forums, threads, message boards and et al...........

1) Not everyone is going to hear what you say the way you want it heard.

2) Someone is going to be offended, opposed or misunderstand/misinterpret your thoughts.

3) Someone will find angles into the topic you never would have entertained.

4) Someone is going to yank your chain.

5) Once you start a thread/topic- it is not yours anymore.

6) Pick your battles.

7) It's the internet.

You gets what you gets.

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Posting on forums, threads, message boards and et al...........

1) Not everyone is going to hear what you say the way you want it heard.

2) Someone is going to be offended, opposed or misunderstand/misinterpret your thoughts.

3) Someone will find angles into the topic you never would have entertained.

4) Someone is going to yank your chain.

5) Once you start a thread/topic- it is not yours anymore.

6) Pick your battles.

7) It's the internet.

You gets what you gets.

Rusa61 I agree 100% with this post, but we must talk about your overuse of ellipses.

3.

Thank you...

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I saw this thread yesterday and totally forgot to comment. I haven't experienced any forms of jealousy from my friends, because I was too busy being an inspiration to them. I am a single mother of three children and worked while also going to school. Being a nurse was my dream growing up so I was able to fulfill that with all the obstacles that stood in my way. You may get offended by some of us, but your comments did come off childish. I don't know anyone that wouldn't be happy for their friends for wanting to get an education and be something. Be a friend by being happy for them. If the friendship isn't genuine then I don't know what else to say.

P.S. there are some women at my job who are jealous of me, because I look cuter in scrubs :)

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Rusa61 I agree 100% with this post, but we must talk about your overuse of ellipses.

3.

Thank you...

Really? Really? Really?

Wow, you are a laugh a minute.

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Really? Really? Really?

Wow, you are a laugh a minute.

Glad I improved your night.

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Really? Really? Really?

Wow, you are a laugh a minute.

You can unruffle your feathers-proper ellipsis count has been a running joke for awhile.

It's nothing personal. Just that Wikipedia has set the proper number at 3. Anything more is just...gauche. [emoji41][emoji56]

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Glad I improved your night.

Your initial comment to me came across ******.

It seemed like an attempt to be shaming in a funny dress up.

Maybe you and a group having a running joke about the topic but those not in the know may not find the humor.

If you find fun in that, well, have at it.

You just proved my list.

Peace out.

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