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Have you guys experienced any jealousy or changes in your friends because you're now a nurse?

I'm in the pre nursing phase, and now 2 of my close friends (who dropped out first year of college) are going back because of me. I'm not sure weather to feel flattered or insulted.

Specializes in Hospice.
Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

YOU are the ones who are delusional.

I'm learning some basic life lesson later in life because I've been trusting and willing to help anyone.

I just don't understand the hate I'm getting in asking a question, so I will ask again.

Ok, one life rule I've learned-I don't argue with children.

It's a free country. You don't have to accept anything that anyone has said. You don't even have to like it.

So what if someone told you "You're the reason I'm doing this"? You aren't going to be in competition with them for the Last Nursing Job Ever. Assuming you both make it into Nursing school.

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Specializes in critical care.
Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this.

That is normally something to be taken as a compliment. I honest to god have no idea why this is bothering you. After I started school, with two preschoolers and a husband barely making ends meet, I had a couple of mom friends tell me they decided to go back to school because they saw I could, and did, and they realized they could do it, too. I congratulated them, offered them support, cheered their victories, and was a shoulder for them in their failures.

Have you thought in any of this that it might be YOUR thinking that is off on this? Your response to their life choices is oddly inappropriate.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
Ok, one life rule I've learned-I don't argue with children.

It's a free country. You don't have to accept anything that anyone has said. You don't even have to like it.

So what if someone told you "You're the reason I'm doing this"? You aren't going to be in competition with them for the Last Nursing Job Ever. Assuming you both make it into Nursing school.

According to OP's previous post, the OP took seven years to graduate with an abysmal 2.6 gpa (in psychology, I think), took seven years off and then took another couple of years to do prerequisites. That would make him/her at least 33/34...making this thread quite sad.

OP, you aren't even nursing school yet and haven't even been accepted, let alone pass the NCLEX and land a nursing job...what reason do your friends have to be jealous of you? There are thousands of nursing students/pre-nursing students out there and millions of actual nurses alone. Being a nurse isn't all that impressive.

Now if you got into CRNA or med school...

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Specializes in Cardicac Neuro Telemetry.
Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

YOU are the ones who are delusional.

I'm learning some basic life lesson later in life because I've been trusting and willing to help anyone.

I just don't understand the hate I'm getting in asking a question, so I will ask again.

Why are you mad that someone wants you pursue nursing after being inspired by you? How does that equate to taking your job? You aren't even in nursing school yet so surely this job you speak of doesn't exist as you aren't an RN yet.. By the way, no one is being bitter or nasty to you for giving honest feedback. Disagreeing with you does not equal being mean. Based on what you've said a few posts prior, it sounds like you have bigger fish to fry than to worry about a friend of yours wanting to pursue nursing because of you and then subsequently take your job.

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Specializes in public health, women's health, reproductive health.
Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

Huh?

Are you afraid your friend is going to take job opportunities away from you or somehow be more successful as a nurse than you? I'm trying to understand.

And hey, deciding to become a nurse does not mean that your friend is not allowed to become one, too. It's not like in the rules of childhood when you call shotgun and no one but you gets to sit in the front seat.

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Specializes in ER, Med-surg.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

YOU are the ones who are delusional.

I'm learning some basic life lesson later in life because I've been trusting and willing to help anyone.

I just don't understand the hate I'm getting in asking a question, so I will ask again.

Huh? How does a friend being inspired to embark on a very long and challenging course of study because you decided to do it in any way equal "telling a stranger in public step by step how to take your job"?

Every nursing program in America has many, many times more qualified applicants than seats. Whether your friends make it in to nursing school or not, they are not "taking your job." Those seats will be filled by someone.

If you and your friends all wind up succeeding in nursing school, that would, to most people, be a positive thing- your friends would be doing well for themselves and you would have a built-in support and professional network as you begin your new career, and the satisfaction of knowing you provided the spark that helped guide your circle of friends to a new career path. Your friends making it in nursing school- which is something they would have to do on their own merits, not something it's possible to do simply by "following" you- is not something that would harm you in any way. If anything, it could be a benefit to you in the future. At any rate, *someone* someone will be in those nursing school seats, whether it's your friends or not. And that doesn't hurt you. Life is not a zero sum game.

In answer to your initial question, no, nobody has ever expressed jealousy of my nursing career, least of all the friends who saw how rough school was. It's a good career, but it's not something so glamorous or well-paid that it inspires envy in anyone who isn't actually interested in nursing for its own sake.

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One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

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I would be happy my friend chose a great career path and that I can help them with my knowledge of how to go about being a nurse. Ie-do this program, not that program, this is how you network, lets practice skills together Etc. Friends can mentor friends in their careers.

You may be competing for jobs with this person and you may get jealous if your friend gets a job before. And vice versa. But, to me, having a friend know what I'm going through and who actually understands the stresses of nursing school and working as a nurse is always beneficial. In fact, I do not have many non-nursing friends anymore bc they dont understand the types of

Stressors I go through at work (and I have no knowledge of how the business world works) and we grew apart.

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Petty. *drops the mic*

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I feel insulted that you are copying my career path! How dare you! I thought of it seven years ago OP!

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Just wondering if anyone experienced jealousy from their friends for taking the steps in becoming/or being a nurse?

I understand some of you have been walking on roses and don't understand what this question means, but for most of us, have you experienced jelousy

1. Naysayers

2. Copy Cats

3. People that try to waste your time etc.

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I'm sorry you guys don't think I'm real, some of us have unique life situations.

Then stop posting on my "not real" question, and post on one that you think is.

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And please tell me, if you are so kind, as to why my questions are not belivalbe

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