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Have you guys experienced any jealousy or changes in your friends because you're now a nurse?

I'm in the pre nursing phase, and now 2 of my close friends (who dropped out first year of college) are going back because of me. I'm not sure weather to feel flattered or insulted.

Specializes in Acute Care.
However, my life has not worked out that way, and as a poverty level minority with major time commitments to family, my life has not been so easy.

I am sorry if you're going through some rough times. That's unfortunate. That's also life. If you want to become a nurse, great... best of luck. Work hard, stay focused, get through. I was an at home dad to 3 kids ages 3 and under, waited tables to make ends meat, and completed nursing school on nights and weekends. We all have struggles. Get it done.

In addition... If you've got family and time problems... your jealous friends should be the least of your worries.

I have to be honest. I read all your other posts. You come across as very young and naive... but your posts also make it sound like you graduated with a Bachelors degree like 7 or 8 years ago... which at the very least would make you 29 or 30. I don't really know what your deal is... but honestly... get it together. Instead of posting tons of crazy threads online, start studying and get it done.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

No, have never experienced friends being jealous of me being a nurse.

I had a friend or two who may have been jealous about how much money I have saved, and that I was able to purchase a home relatively young. Those people fade out anyway. Friendships in general are mostly temporary. I've got less than a handful of friends I see as lifelong- they are the kind you pick back up right where you left off, even years later. Other people are friends in the moment, because we share a common denominator for a period of time (high school, college, work, ect...)

I encouraged some of my friends to get into nursing when I did. We were CNA's together, all with nursing as the goal. I printed out information for them in my program, told them about deadlines and everything they would need, I walked them through the entire process. They actually didn't follow through, because of different reasons, but it was something I was glad to do for them. I didn't mind that I was the one who has done the research and steps first... Friends help each other. People help each other. I would never resent that.

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You have a point. You asked a question and most of what you got was people trying to offer you a different perspective while some, like myself, that wanted clarification.

I'll be the first to apologize and answer--no, I can't say I have ever experienced a person I called a 'friend' acting jealous about what I've accomplished. If it did happen, it was long ago in middle school and I have since learned that not everyone can be labeled friend.

Hope that helps.

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Nobody is being angry and bitter toward you because we don't agree with your ridiculous "ASSUMPTIONS." Some of us just call it like we see it.

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Specializes in Urgent Care, Oncology.
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I am sorry if you're going through some rough times. That's unfortunate. That's also life. If you want to become a nurse, great... best of luck. Work hard, stay focused, get through. I was an at home dad to 3 kids ages 3 and under, waited tables to make ends meat, and completed nursing school on nights and weekends. We all have struggles. Get it done.

In addition... If you've got family and time problems... your jealous friends should be the least of your worries.

I have to be honest. I read all your other posts. You come across as very young and naive... but your posts also make it sound like you graduated with a Bachelors degree like 7 or 8 years ago... which at the very least would make you 29 or 30. I don't really know what your deal is... but honestly... get it together. Instead of posting tons of crazy threads online, start studying and get it done.

I love everything about this. Reminds me of an episode on Rick and Morty where Morty kept telling his sister in a very colorful way to get it together.

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Specializes in Hospice.
Moderators can you close this thread so I can ask the question again? My thread is being hijacked.

No, people putting forth their opinions regarding a question you asked on a public forum does not constitute thread hijacking. Even if those opinions aren't what you wanted to hear.

So, to answer your question; Yes, I have experienced jealousy and changes in friends. It wasn't because I went into Nursing, however. I was 12, and it was in middle school. Frankly, I don't even remember the circumstances, as it was over 45 years ago.

My point is, you have a lot of maturing to do. You say you already have a Bachelors' degree, which would assume some level of maturity, yet your responses have a definite "Don't tell me what I don't want to hear" shrillness to them.

This is really a non-issue. Your friends saw you align yourself toward Nursing (and you are not close to actually being in a Nursing program) and saw an opportunity for themselves. People do that all the time. No one is stealing your thunder.

If you don't see a reason to continue the friendship, cut them loose. It happens, as Dogen has already explained. But don't delude yourself into believing that you were the sole reason they chose to pursue the same educational path as you.

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No, people putting forth their opinions regarding a question you asked on a public forum does not constitute thread hijacking. Even if those opinions aren't what you wanted to hear.

So, to answer your question; Yes, I have experienced jealousy and changes in friends. It wasn't because I went into Nursing, however. I was 12, and it was in middle school. Frankly, I don't even remember the circumstances, as it was over 45 years ago.

My point is, you have a lot of maturing to do. You say you already have a Bachelors' degree, which would assume some level of maturity, yet your responses have a definite "Don't tell me what I don't want to hear" shrillness to them.

This is really a non-issue. Your friends saw you align yourself toward Nursing (and you are not close to actually being in a Nursing program) and saw an opportunity for themselves. People do that all the time. No one is stealing your thunder.

If you don't see a reason to continue the friendship, cut them loose. It happens, as Dogen has already explained. But don't delude yourself into believing that you were the sole reason they chose to pursue the same educational path as you.

Again, you are leading with assumptions.

One of them TOLD ME DIRECTLY, I am the reason they are doing this. Would you walk up to a stranger in public and give them a step by step of how to take your job?

YOU are the ones who are delusional.

I'm learning some basic life lesson later in life because I've been trusting and willing to help anyone.

I just don't understand the hate I'm getting in asking a question, so I will ask again.

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What is wrong with asking about other people's experiences?

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Specializes in Acute Care.

After reading your responses in this thread, as well as the other threads you have started... I have come to the conclusion you are not for real. It can't be possible. Thank you for the entertainment though... it's been a fun afternoon.

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Specializes in Critical care.

I left a career I hated to go back to school for nursing. One of my former coworkers who became a good friend decided to quit and go back to school a couple of years later. I've also spoken to friends and classmates from my first degree who were unhappy and thinking of going back to school (some for nursing and some for something else). I've always been happy to share my knowledge and experiences with them. I was very happy I was able to have a positive impact in their lives and seeing them do well now is very rewarding to me.

If you don't feel the same way and think they are riding on your coattails then drop them and find new friends. I've done that before, but honestly it was when I was in high school. I tried to help everybody when I was in nursing school and there were times I felt taken advantage of, but I knew in the end everything I was doing would benefit me. I'm not sure if people have been jealous of me, but if they have been I haven't noticed since they aren't close enough to me to matter- anyone who is a true friend is happy for my successes (as I am truly happy for theirs).

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Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.

well damn that's truly the time of 5 reading pages I can never get back. OP, I am going to ASSume your legit and give you the best piece advice I have ever been given and still use every day. Mind your own biscuits, who cares what people may or may not be doing, for what reason they may be doing it, just mind your own. You put forth the effort in this journey, do your thing, and stop focusing on others. What other's choose to do with their life path has nothing to do with you. This post is paranoid.

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