It just isn't fair

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Hi hope i don't offend anyone but i'm just a little fustrated.I'm tired of people who don't don't give a damn about nursing but just doing it for the money getting accepted to nursing schools and those of us who are answering our calling and want to be nurses more than anything else always getting put on the back burner(so to speak).I know a lot of people who just did it for the money and quit in a few years time.They could have quit from the start and give us there seat.At least it would have been worth it.Anyone else feels my pain?Sorry if i offend anyone just getting my anger out.

Specializes in LTC/Behavioral/ Hospice.
What is more American than the free market (not considering the pros or cons...though I tend to not trust the "self correcting mechanism" it suggest)? So, likewise, what could be more American than filling a position for income in response to supply and demand?

I became a nurse for income and job security alone. Sure, I like helping people. But who can argue with me that my loyalty to my wife and kids will drive me to be a better nurse than I would be just for simply loving the job? The same dedication that would cause me to die for them pushes me to excel.

May the best man or woman prevail, regardless of the motivation. Don't get me wrong. I've had my share of disappointment and I sincerely feel for you. But to suggest I am not as a good a candidate simply because I reject the notion of a "higher calling" or that of a capricious interest in the profession simply isn't fair.

I like the way you put it. I love people and healthcare and could have chosen any number of ways to involve myself in both interests. I chose nursing because it is well paying, there are plenty of jobs, and lots of areas to work in. It's an exciting field to me, but I don't feel "called" to it. IMO, I'm going to be an excellent nurse! :)

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Specializes in Cardiac/Tele/Step-down.

I hope we are on a understanding now that I agree with you about hardships and other consideration because we all have them. I just look at all sides and saw where she was coming from about not getting in only because of her GPA not being high enough (3.5)

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Specializes in LTC/Behavioral/ Hospice.
I hope we are on a understanding now that I agree with you about hardships and other consideration because we all have them. I just look at all sides and saw where she was coming from about not getting in only because of her GPA not being high enough (3.5)

Thank you for understanding. A 3.5 GPA is nothing to sneeze at and it must be painful to feel that she was passed over. I wish the OP the best as she pursues her nursing education. Hopefully, she will find the perfect program asap! :)

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Nurse Educator..

***same here...wonder' if they really want it or its just a requirement to go abroad and earn bucks of money...how sad:o...nursing is a calling, a vocation not just to earn dollars, its a profession not a course to pursue and drop after having a car or got an immigrant visa..

:madface:..tsk..tsk...

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Specializes in Med-Surg.
One of the first things you will hopefully learn in nursing school is to lose the judgementalism.

Exactly.

Bottom line is many of those who start nursing school are going to drop out or flunk out. Sometimes it's life circusmstances, sometimes it's just too tough, sometimes it's because they decide after getting in the program it's just not for them.

I understand the frustration of those on the waiting lists looking at those dropping out thinking "I could have had their spot, I would have made it and now their spot is wasted and would have been better spent on me".

It's so easy to look at someone's outsides and judge yourself more superior or worthy than they are and that is not fair.

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i really suggest that these people who are choosing nursing as a second career option or students who don't even know what nurses do ,butwho are choosing nursing should leave the seats for people who truly love nursing and who know what their duty entails!!!

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i'm so infuriated by this statement that all i'm going to say so that i don't get banned is:

please lose that attitude quickly, and well before you get into nursing school.

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JMHO

I must say I see this arguement time and time again...

The "I took 4 classes at a time" vs. "I took 1 class at a time"

Those "who went for the money vs. Its my calling"

The "they failed out" vs. "I could have had their seat"

When really...its just about not getting accepted into the Nursing program!

Which of course just stinks!!!!!

Here is a program that has limited seats, and thousands of applying. Don't get me wrong...I felt the same way you did. I was placed on the waiting list, and was angry!!! There I was, an A student with experience, blah, blah, blah, and didn't get in; as I saw, what I believed to be less "worthy" getting in. The funny thing is, once I was in...those "less worthy" become my best friends, and I never once thought about the admissions process again.

It's normal to feel the way you do, students kill themselves to get in, and when they don't. It's better to blame the system, or to find a reason, any reason, to make yourself feel better. I know, I did it. One girl went as far as to say, students can only get accepted "if they know someone" or a minority...which is just not true.

Know this, people go into the field for a variety reasons, some have good grades so don't, some have exp. some don't. And yes some will fail. In the end, run your own race; and be true to yourself.

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Specializes in Telemetry & Obs.
i really suggest that these people who are choosing nursing as a second career option or students who don't even know what nurses do ,butwho are choosing nursing should leave the seats for people who truly love nursing and who know what their duty entails!!! color]

guess what?? i'm the "second career option" person you're talking about. i had to wait to fulfill my lifelong dream because i was busy raising a special needs child. my family and i sacrificed so that i could finally go to school. i was a top student in my class...i was offered several jobs upon graduation, and i love nursing and know exactly what it entails.

if you see that as an "attack" then you really need to look at your own posts before making that judgement.

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i totally agree with you>i went to a community college where people would take like 2 courses per semester and get in just because they took their classes bit by bit:they had more time to devote to each course(prerequsite)!!! i attended full time , but didn't get accepted with a 3.55 gpa.as for your statement, many people who are studying nursing probably don't even know what nurses do! i asked a h.s girl what the duty of nurses were and she said she didn't know!!!she wants to be a rn!!! i really suggest that these people who are choosing nursing as a second career option or students who don't even know what nurses do ,butwho are choosing nursing should leave the seats for people who truly love nursing and who know what their duty entails!!! good luck yo you darling!

you have got to be kidding me. because i want to go into nursing for a second career, i won't love it or have as much heart as you? it's so easy to type things like that anonymously from behind a computer.

many people can have a change of heart in what they want to do. i received my first degree about six years ago. in the last couple of years, i've done a lot of soul-searching, and had a lot of experience with hospitals for my daughter that have made me want to help others. i'm about to start volunteering on weekends to get some initial experience, and take 1 course at a time to get through my 3 pre-requisite courses, but i assure you that i work more than full-time too. like others have stated, just because someone takes only 1-2 courses per semester doesn't mean that they have all this extra time to devote to studying, because they are most likely working and taking care of a family, along with plenty of other responsibilities.

even someone who really doesn't know what the duties of a nurse specifically entail may turn out to be a great rn - they may realize they have a passion for helping people and need to get the experience from school to actually learn the details. they can feel called to be a nurse as well. they may have more of a learning curve than others, but the passion needs to be there first. criticizing everyone around you certainly won't help you get accepted into school. perhaps devoting your time to improving yourself and your attitude would better suit you.

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Specializes in Ortho/Neurosurgical.

I'll probably going to get flamed for this....but I disagree completely. I say, if you need to take a pre-req a few times over to get a better grade, it only shows that much more that you are committed to getting in and want this life badly. Regarding those who take 2 pre-reqs at a time, good for them, full time nursing school may be a challenge, but that is a hill for them to climb and you to be supportive of, these are your future coworkers. **I might add, I've always gone to school full time, and only taken my pre-reqs once and am awaiting acceptance**Good luck to all you future nurses!!! p.s. the lottery system does kind of suck though.

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Specializes in Med/Surg <1; Epic Certified <1.

I was very fortunate that the school I will be attending is "first-come, first-served" so once you complete the prereqs, you're on a list and just wait. I only waited 2 semesters which was plenty of time to complete A & P II and Micro (1 per semester since I work full-time and have 3 kids and 2 grandkids). However, due to other circumstances in my life I had to defer and will finally start in the fall. I, too, will be pursuing this as a second career. You see, I got a business degree 7 years ago and HATE this occupation. The nursing field isn't the only one where people change their minds or realize they want something else.

I had never heard of repeating classes 2 or 3 or more times to better your grade until I started looking in to RN schools. In cases where the higher GPAs are required for weight purposes, I guess I can see where it's a necessity, but I have to say that I am horrified to think these people can sit through the SAME professor each of these times when repeating a class. To me, it seems a bit like cheating. The OP is right; there is something very wrong with THAT system!!

I hear your frustration and wish you, and all the others, a speedy acceptance and successful careers!

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Well said! Not everyone goes into nursing because they have a "higher calling"

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