How Often Have You Changed Your Mind!!!!

  1. hi guys,

    havnt been on in a while have been quite unwell. hope everyone is doing ok. wanted to throw this question out there, im sure everyone has moments when they are not sure whether they are doing the right thing by moving to the US:uhoh21:, however its nice to know you're not alone in that thinking!!!! maybe people could tell of their experiences doubts and fears and give others some solace in the fact they are not alone???:spin:

    thanks in advance
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  3. by   suzanne7575
    I'm only just starting the process and have so far had no change of mind, however i first decided I wanted to do this back in 1999 and have decided against it several times, but it has usually been becuase of having children etc. Now i am done with having babies i am commited to going to the USA. My only issue is deciding which state to move to as so many of them appeal and have good points and bad points
  4. by   Silverdragon102
    yes on a few occassions have thought about changing our minds and at one stage (Jan 06) did cancel the process due to hubby getting up with all the delays, was initially told process would take less than 12 months and started the process march 2003, now caught up with the retrogression but this time we are not even thinking about giving up
  5. by   Tanvi Tusti
    Too many times to mention! We are in Oz at the minute and loving every minute of it, the works great, the people are great, the weathers great and we are happy here. Still miss the UK, but the way I deal with it is knowing that nothing is permanent, we float back and forth across the continents and probably always will. We more than likely will not go to the US to work permanantly. Hubby for one doesn't want to go back and I've always been undecided anyway. I guess a lot of it has to do with the fact that, because he is American, we spend a lot of time over there with family and friends anyway, he has a lot of negatives about the place and financially we would be worse off. I never say never though!:trout:
  6. by   RGN1
    I don't think you'd be human if you didn't have doubts at some point. We worry if we're making the right decision for our children - we worry about just HOW LONG it's gonna take to sort out the stupid Visa situation, we worry about what we'd do if it all went wrong (although we've decided Canada or Oz but definitely not back here).

    However, I was just looking at pics of my lovely US home & the area & then I've looked at my London garden & home & there's NO comparison!

    I think Madwife once said on a thread a long time ago that we have to be more than a little stubborn to go through this process & I think she's right! stubborn people, by their nature, put their doubts aside in the end.
  7. by   english_nurse
    Quote from curlysin
    hi guys,

    havnt been on in a while have been quite unwell. hope everyone is doing ok. wanted to throw this question out there, im sure everyone has moments when they are not sure whether they are doing the right thing by moving to the US:uhoh21:, however its nice to know you're not alone in that thinking!!!! maybe people could tell of their experiences doubts and fears and give others some solace in the fact they are not alone???:spin:

    thanks in advance
    this strikes a chord with me as i didnt go to bed last night until 1am as me and hubby were arguing about guess what? blooming USA move!!! even wrote an email to poopy agency telling them to shove it where the sun doesnt shine and i dont mean Iceland!!! thank god i didnt send it.
    so yes is the answer here, sometimes i wish i had never even visited the darned place

    today however, all is calm again in the household of EN, but i ate a McDonalds
    ah well....
    Last edit by english_nurse on Mar 16, '07
  8. by   RGN1
    Awwww glad it's all calm again for you EN - now you can re-start your diet In our household have definitely upped our wine consumption since retrogression hit & that includes the kids!!
  9. by   cariad
    never changed my mind, but never gave up wondering when things were going to happen. when we came here we didnt know where we were going until 4 weeks before we flew. but it didnt bother us as it didnt matter to us, but it all worked out for the best., and to our benefit.
  10. by   english_nurse
    Quote from RGN1
    Awwww glad it's all calm again for you EN - now you can re-start your diet In our household have definitely upped our wine consumption since retrogression hit & that includes the kids!!
    ate chips for my tea, ah well back to it tomorrow
  11. by   madwife2002
    I first decided to make the move back in 1997 and changed my mind in 1998 1999. I forgot about it again until 2003 and then then we made our minds up once and for all in 2004 and we said we had to do or else we were going to go crazy if we didn't. My only regret is i wish we had done it when it first crossed our minds then we could have got all the BS over sooner lol
  12. by   suzanne7575
    Quote from madwife2002
    I first decided to make the move back in 1997 and changed my mind in 1998 1999. I forgot about it again until 2003 and then then we made our minds up once and for all in 2004 and we said we had to do or else we were going to go crazy if we didn't. My only regret is i wish we had done it when it first crossed our minds then we could have got all the BS over sooner lol
    I was the same, i decided to do it as soon as I had qualified, but by the time i had a couple years experience it was out of our mind due to getting married, then it was the kids that came along, and then i think because they were still so little i put it off again. I wish i had done it sooner too as it has become harder now
  13. by   suehp
    Once we had made the decision to go for it (after 10 years of Hubby nagging to go for it!!!) we never changed our minds while we were in the UK BUT we did wonder on numerous occassions wonder whether we were doing the right thing - right up until we said good bye to everyone and on the plane.

    When we got here and moved to our house (which had been empty for 6 months) everything in the house seemed to go worng and we spent $$$ on getting it right - it did cross our minds a couple of times that we maybe shouldnt have come here -but to be honest that didnt last long and we now dont regret it for a minute.....
  14. by   apriljan
    Hi everyone,:spin:

    Haven't been on the forum for a while! Never actually changed my mind in the UK but had feelings of doubt sometimes. Especially the week leading up to coming over here. I remember the removal guys packing our things and then it really hit me. The house looked bare after, and it was only personal items, ornaments, photos etc but I thought OMG what are we doing. I cried for a few days leading up to coming, it was hard saying goodbye to work mates, family and friends. It was then that it really hit me. Leaving our 20yr old daughter behind at uni, 17yr old son constantly telling us he didn't know whether he really wanted to come! It was very stressful and very emotional.
    Here I am now almost 6 months down the line, still on my own here, as my husband went back after a month until the house is sold, our son went back with him as couldn't settle! But ask me if I would go back, the answer is no, even though I miss my family so much, Some days are very hard emotionally, and I've had a few of those this week, and yes when I'm feeling a bit low I do question why I'm here, what's it all about, and I do feel like I want to go home, but that feeling doesn't last long. I'm now just feeling a bit more settled in my job, even though I'm working harder here than I did back home, I like the area I'm living in, I'm right near the beach, just over an hour from NYC. Even so I miss my family and just hope that we will all be together soon.
    My husband has been back twice and coming again in april, we have a buyer for the house but it's going through very slowly. Our daughter came at christmas with her boyfriend, she celebrated her 21st a couple of weeks ago, and all the family got together. That was very hard for me emotionally, not being there, I miss her so much. Our son is coming back when my husband sells the house, he's just usung this time now to spend with his friends etc. But I wish he had made more of a try when he first came over. So it's difficult for my husband back home holding everything together. We've sacrificed a lot to do this, but at the moment feel it's ultimately what we want, and have no regrets. It's been the toughest thing we've ever had to do, and I think about the times when we were waiting on immigration, interviews, medicals, Nclex etc etc and how much we wanted this to happen.

    So no, if you offered me a one way ticket home now, I wouldn't go. It's a tough ride, and not easy on your own especially, but hopefully this time next year we can look back on all this.

    Good luck to all of you out there.

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