In mourning and trying to study for boards...

[JNogueira95]

One week ago today my little brother was killed in a motorcycle accident. He was 29 and leaves behind a 20 month old baby girl. I was his oldest sister and we were very close. The last time we were all together for a family celebration was my graduation from nursing school this past May and my party in June. I am in absolute shock and disbelief and on the day of his funeral, my NCLEX exam got scheduled. I am going on August 6 and I feel like I will never stop crying and Ill never be able to focus in order to successfully get through this test. Id appreciate any words of advice on this as I feel like Im running in circles. I worked very hard as a single mom to get through nursing school and Id hate to fail. But Im at a loss....please help...

Jodi

[danissa, LPN, LVN]

Jodi honey, I am so sorry for the loss of your darling brother. Please give yourself some time to just be, and to try to get to a place in your head where you can find some peace, it may be a way off yet, but I'm sure that with such a profound loss, these exam folks will be understanding. Sending big cuddles to you and your family, it wont help much, but just know other people around the world are thinking of you tonite babe. XC

[Buttercup]

Jodi, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Please consider rescheduling your test. I can understand why you feel you should take it as soon as possible but I think it would be best for you to take time to process this tragedy and mourn for your dear brother.

I've said a little prayer for you...

[Jules A, MSN]

((Jodi)) I'm so sorry for your loss.

[aegirl]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother unexpectedly in November and my brother unexpectedly in April. You'll pull through this. If you need to reschedule, there is nothing wrong with that. You do what you need to do during this time. My prayers are with you.

[Little Panda RN, ASN, RN]

I am so sorry about your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

I lost my dad June 8, 2006 and took my nclex-pn on June 26th. It was very difficult to study and I do not recommend it.

Reschedule the exam and take some time to mourn the loss of your brother.

Sending many hugs your way!!!!

[Keepstanding, ASN, RN]

oh sweetie, i am so sorry for your loss. give yourself enough time and then get right back up on that horse. you are strong. hang in there.

[whodatnurse]

Hi. You have my deepest sympathies. I can imagine how absolutely wretched you must feel, while also having to summon the energy to carry out the tasks of daily living to provide for those to whom you're a single mom. Ugh!

As miserable as it sounds, feeling that wretchedness in all its intensity is an essential part of working through the pain of loss. Would it be possible for you to schedule 1-2 days...where someone could watch your kids...and you could just weep, lay in bed, stare at the ceiling, sob as needed, etc. Sometimes when life deals us blows when we're least prepared for it, it's natural to try to keep occupied so as not to experience such pain. But I don't think we get to ever avoid it...maybe we postpone it for awhile. I think taking time, if possible, to process your loss could be very therapeutic. After letting out some of that grief you could see how you're feeling energywise. I think you might have greater clarity on whether you definitely need more time to regroup or you could find yourself with renewed strength to soldier on and knock out this one remaining task.

May you find much comfort as you mourn the loss of your beloved sibling. :icon_hug:

[MzMouse]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[Hands and Heart]

My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. Take some time to grieve for your brother. But know he would not want you to wallow in misery. Remember all the good times you had together. When you are ready, get back to studying and know you will pass with him looking over your shoulder. He would want you to move forward with your life, dreams, and success and not remain stagnant because you miss him.:icon_hug::icon_hug::icon_hug:

[HM2VikingRN, RN]

I agree taking time to feel and grieve is far more important than giving yourself another reason to grieve.

I am sorry for the loss of your brother I wish you peace and healing.

[locolorenzo22, BSN, RN]

Wishing you peace and my sorrow for a tragic...senseless loss.

The will of one does not matter for the will of THE one...regardless of our understanding.

Please reschedule your exam...we need a good/caring nurse there for when we should have to hear such news. I am thankful that he got to see your accomplishment, and KNOW that he is around you and you will always have a spirit to guide you.

blessings upon you.

[Kim O'Therapy, BSN, RN]

I am sorry for your loss. Within 8 months my mother died and my husband was diagnosed with cancer, so I can empathize with your stress. Give yourself time if you can afford to. You will need it. We are here for you.