In mourning and trying to study for boards...

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One week ago today my little brother was killed in a motorcycle accident. He was 29 and leaves behind a 20 month old baby girl. I was his oldest sister and we were very close. The last time we were all together for a family celebration was my graduation from nursing school this past May and my party in June. I am in absolute shock and disbelief and on the day of his funeral, my NCLEX exam got scheduled. I am going on August 6 and I feel like I will never stop crying and Ill never be able to focus in order to successfully get through this test. Id appreciate any words of advice on this as I feel like Im running in circles. I worked very hard as a single mom to get through nursing school and Id hate to fail. But Im at a loss....please help...

Jodi

Specializes in long term care Alzheimers Patients.

Jodi

I am so sorry for your loss. Please give yourself time to grieve before taking your NCLEX . My prayers are with you and your family

Debi

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Specializes in ccu cardiovascular.

I am so sorry for your loss and can only imagine the grief you are feeling. What a loss. I remember taking my finals in my first year and I had just lost my father, we buried him on the day of one of my finals and I was beside myself. I could have skipped the final and took it later but thought my father would not wanted me to and to do the best I could. I amazing did okay but I remember how difficult it was to study when you are grieving. Good luck to you and prayers to you and your family.

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Dear Jodi,

I am so sorry to hear about your families lost. I can relate to your loss and the sense of timing. I graduated this past May, and last April during my final exams, my mother passed away from ALS. We buried her on Sunday and I had to return back to school on Monday to take my final exam. I did alot of praying, and God's grace was suffient. His word promises that in our weaknesses he is strong. Somedays you may only be able to get by one hour at a time and other's one minute at a time. Please allow yourself time to grieve. I was not able to grieve my loss until that summer, when I was able to go to the beach and just cry. I still today have to allow my self to grieve. It will take time. I will keep your family in my prayers..:sniff:

Sincerly,

April

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Oh Jodi, I am so sorry for your loss. Sometimes it seems that just when things are going your way, Life jumps up and just slaps you in the face.

Go easy on yourself, girl. It's hard work to grieve. Your entire body is in pain, your mind is constantly running, you can't eat or sleep and it takes every ounce of strength you have to just get up in the morning. It takes time, that's all. Give yourself that time.

I lost my 19 y/o son two years ago and I can tell you that it does get better, I promise. Hang in there.

~Chris

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I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear brother. I am sending hugs your way. I am also praying that you will find the strength you need to get through this difficult time. I agree with the other posters, you should take time to grieve for your brother, and worry about NCLEX later. I lost my dear father on May 4 2007 and he was my everything. My world shut down at first, all I did for the first few days was lay around and cry. But no matter how bad I felt, I did get a sense of peace knowing that my dad met the person he worshipped his whole life, Jesus. I knew that he was rejoicing in the presence of Jesus, and giving my mother the largest hug anyone has ever received. I know that Heaven is beautiful, serene, and free from any pain or grief. It helped me to know that he was so safe in the presence of the Lord. When things get really bad for you, just think that your brother is also there, with Jesus, safe,rejoicing, and watching down over you and his baby. He protects you and he will be with you when the time is right for you to take the NCLEX. Take care of you. You have a lot of people praying for you here at Allnurses.

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Specializes in critical care; community health; psych.

Oh my. NCLEX can wait. Wishing you peace.

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I'm so sorry for your lost. I know that a tragedy such as this is hard to cope with, I can only imagine. Your brother loves you and he is proud of you. Just know he is always in your heart and a part of your spirit. May GOD continue to bless you and your family during this time in mourning.

Do what you need to do, but just know whether you take your NCLEX now or a month later your brother is with you and he wants the best for you. Many blessings. :saint:

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Specializes in Triage, MedSurg, MomBaby, Peds, HH.

I'm so sorry for your loss; my sisters are my best friends, I don't know how I could live without them. Please take care of yourself as best you can before you worry about NCLEX. It'll be there when you're ready.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Tele, Peri-op, Home health.

I am very sorry for your loss.

My father passed away on May 5, exactly 2 weeks before graduation. I know how overwhelmed you must feel.

I started my nursing job June 3 and am taking the boards July 28. Sometimes I am absolutely overwhelmed, but I think being focused on other things is helping me get through losing my dad. If I didn' have other things to concentrate on I probably wouldn't even get out of bed in the morning.

Do things in your own time. Everyone is different. As for me, I need the distraction of studying for the boards to get my mind off losing my dad. It's been over 2 months and I still cry. Every day. You will do what works for you. And whatever that is, it is right, for YOU. Give yourelf time, the boards will always be there.

I wish you comfort and am so very sorry.

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