No, I never would assault anybody! Especially not a co-worker! I am not that type of person.
A little about me: I am very laid-back and easy going. I get along with everybody! I jump to help people anytime I can. If I see someone struggling, I offer assistance. I do not sit at the nurse's station playing on my cell phone when there is work that needs done.
Anyway, for the past few weeks, one of my co-workers has been "picking" at me in very subtle ways here and there. But yesterday morning, she acted like a childish brat. And I let her. I didn't acknowledge her behavior because I was busy, I am nonconfrontational and I did not want to get into a shouting match at the nurse's station. She was sitting at the desk with a chart open, I don't know if she was looking through a chart, or writing something. I think she was looking through it. Anyway, the top cover of the chart was lying on top of the mouse and part of the chart was covering the keyboard. She was not on the computer. I needed to log onto the computer to look up some labwork for a patient. I thought I approached her nicely and asked her if I could gain access to the computer for a moment. SHE DID NOT MOVE. AND I KNOW SHE HEARD ME. There was nobody seated beside her, so there was no reason that she could not physically move the chart six inches out of my way. Since she didn't move, I reached under the chart and took the mouse, and gently moved the chart myself so I could gain access to the key board so I could look up my labs. After I put in my passwords and finally was able to gain access, she informs me that the computer across the way is capable of providing me the information I need. I thanked her for the information, because I did not know that.
I finished my work on the computer, which took me three minutes or less. But inside I was fuming. I have been upset this whole weekend because I allowed her to treat me this way. I have always valued and respected this person as a nurse. When I first started here, I was amazed at the report she gave. Thorough, knows her patients, very smart, knows her business. A wonderful nurse. But I no longer have respect for her as a person.
I cannot understand why she would treat me like this. The next time she behaves like this towards me, I WILL pull her aside and ask her what her problem is towards me and how we can squash it. But she will not treat me (or anyone else) like this. Honestly, I do not have time for people like this and I do not have time to feel uncomfortable in the workplace.
I must admit I am afraid if I say something, it will make waves and make things even more uncomfortable for me. I'm afraid she will refuse to witness insulin with me and refuse to witness narcotic wastes with me. If she's childish enough to refuse to move six inches so I can gain access to a computer, she's probably childish enough to do that. She has alot of seniority in the work place over me. I have only been there about 6 months. This workplace is a newer environment for me, and I know she has way more critical care experience than I do. I don't go to work to make friends, but if I make friends at work...it's all good. She probably has friends here. I do not want to talk about her behind her back; I need to tell her to her face that her attitude towards me lately is insulting. And she acted like a brat that day.
Alright, I gather some of you think that I am the cockadoodee dirty bird in the workplace. Well we will see what happens this weekend when she and I work together again. I will update weather or not she continues to mess with me or not and what I did about it- if anything!
Seriously, I am NOT like Annie Wilkes, RN in MISERY. Darn near totally the opposite in fact. I just liked the movie!
My first thought was surely there was more than one computer available for all the nurses, doctors, etc to use. If not that is a serious problem!
While you claim you're not an angry person, the title sounds pretty scary, like you have an anger management problem. If someone recognized your post on here they could take that as a threat and I think you would be in hot water.
OH! And another thing: I am NOT "contantly offended." In fact, I am rarely offended. I do not want to be labeled an easy target who will not fight back, therefore giving certain people a tendency to -dare I say it- BULLY me.
I just cannot seem to understand why this woman would not move six inches away from the cockadoodee computer! If I were in that position, I would have moved STAT. But I guess some people are stubborn. I try to treat others how I would want to be treated. I try to anticipate the needs of the next shift and do as much as I can to help them out. And they appreciate it. I appreciate it when they treat me the same. I have never disrespected this person, and I do not understand why she would disrespect me.
I realize as I re-read this thread where I can see that I may look like the dirty bird. But seriously, it was different in person. I am not psychic, but I can feel negative energy radiating from people. And I can feel it radiating from this woman. And I want to ask her what I can do to help her tolerate me in a more productive manner.
Yes, I guess the title of this thread may be a little misleading. I could never physically assault someone. But sometimes I enjoy the fantasy.
At least you posted an original topic, so thanks for that.
Maybe it's just me, but I can not read another post about how nurses eat their young, bullies, or why MAs call themselves nurses, or students who expect the staff nurses to arrange their clinical experience and make teach skills the top priority.
Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).
OH GOD! After re-reading this, it appears that I am the damn brat! If that is the case, then why does this woman make me feel uncomfortable in the workplace? Why do I let her?
I learned a log time ago not to let people rent space in my head If yare basing your assessment of her n the situation you described really think you are over reacting. Why oh why would you let that ruin your weekend. Maybe she was having a bad day or is going through something at home in her personal life etc.... I would not make this a hill die on!
OH! And another thing: I am NOT "contantly offended." In fact, I am rarely offended. I do not want to be labeled an easy target who will not fight back, therefore giving certain people a tendency to -dare I say it- BULLY me.
I just cannot seem to understand why this woman would not move six inches away from the cockadoodee computer! If I were in that position, I would have moved STAT. But I guess some people are stubborn. I try to treat others how I would want to be treated. I try to anticipate the needs of the next shift and do as much as I can to help them out. And they appreciate it. I appreciate it when they treat me the same. I have never disrespected this person, and I do not understand why she would disrespect me.
I realize as I re-read this thread where I can see that I may look like the dirty bird. But seriously, it was different in person. I am not psychic, but I can feel negative energy radiating from people. And I can feel it radiating from this woman. And I want to ask her what I can do to help her tolerate me in a more productive manner.
You are acting in a passive-aggressive manner.
There could be a million reasons why this nurse was not hearing what you were saying. Negative energy radiating is the least of your concerns. Instead of going into work "seeing what she's gonna do" stuff, again, you are a 19 year in critical care nurse.
Do critical care units give the time or energy to bait each other, watch for reactions, and post them on sites under the heading regarding "throat punching"? SERIOUSLY?!!?!
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