No, I never would assault anybody! Especially not a co-worker! I am not that type of person.
A little about me: I am very laid-back and easy going. I get along with everybody! I jump to help people anytime I can. If I see someone struggling, I offer assistance. I do not sit at the nurse's station playing on my cell phone when there is work that needs done.
Anyway, for the past few weeks, one of my co-workers has been "picking" at me in very subtle ways here and there. But yesterday morning, she acted like a childish brat. And I let her. I didn't acknowledge her behavior because I was busy, I am nonconfrontational and I did not want to get into a shouting match at the nurse's station. She was sitting at the desk with a chart open, I don't know if she was looking through a chart, or writing something. I think she was looking through it. Anyway, the top cover of the chart was lying on top of the mouse and part of the chart was covering the keyboard. She was not on the computer. I needed to log onto the computer to look up some labwork for a patient. I thought I approached her nicely and asked her if I could gain access to the computer for a moment. SHE DID NOT MOVE. AND I KNOW SHE HEARD ME. There was nobody seated beside her, so there was no reason that she could not physically move the chart six inches out of my way. Since she didn't move, I reached under the chart and took the mouse, and gently moved the chart myself so I could gain access to the key board so I could look up my labs. After I put in my passwords and finally was able to gain access, she informs me that the computer across the way is capable of providing me the information I need. I thanked her for the information, because I did not know that.
I finished my work on the computer, which took me three minutes or less. But inside I was fuming. I have been upset this whole weekend because I allowed her to treat me this way. I have always valued and respected this person as a nurse. When I first started here, I was amazed at the report she gave. Thorough, knows her patients, very smart, knows her business. A wonderful nurse. But I no longer have respect for her as a person.
I cannot understand why she would treat me like this. The next time she behaves like this towards me, I WILL pull her aside and ask her what her problem is towards me and how we can squash it. But she will not treat me (or anyone else) like this. Honestly, I do not have time for people like this and I do not have time to feel uncomfortable in the workplace.
I must admit I am afraid if I say something, it will make waves and make things even more uncomfortable for me. I'm afraid she will refuse to witness insulin with me and refuse to witness narcotic wastes with me. If she's childish enough to refuse to move six inches so I can gain access to a computer, she's probably childish enough to do that. She has alot of seniority in the work place over me. I have only been there about 6 months. This workplace is a newer environment for me, and I know she has way more critical care experience than I do. I don't go to work to make friends, but if I make friends at work...it's all good. She probably has friends here. I do not want to talk about her behind her back; I need to tell her to her face that her attitude towards me lately is insulting. And she acted like a brat that day.
First, I love the movie Misery... I'm a big reader, but I've found I always think Stephen King movies are better than the books/stories they were based on. It's one of the few cases where I think that's true. (Misery, Carrie, Stand By Me, Shawshank...)
Second, there've been a lot of mentions of who knows what else was going on with your co-worker, and you asked yourself (nice self-realization, by the way) why, if you were the "brat", this co-worker bothers you so much. Is there something else mostly unrelated going on? If I'm upset or sad about something and don't want to admit it to myself, I start sobbing at Hallmark or Nivea lip balm commercials. Once I called my mother to tell her I watched an episode of The Wonder Years and OMG it was so sad it made me sob and can we please talk about the late 60s. What was I really sad about? My grandmother's death, which I insisted to myself was only a blessing and nothing to be sad about.
It can work the same for irritation. And I don't want to be negative by going into examples. But sometimes I'll rant about some small thing and my kind listener will be, like, huh? Naturally, I'm already on edge because of something I don't actually have control over or don't want to admit is a problem. The irritation comes out in something small and controllable.
Or if it's really just with this co-worker... once when I was a young adult working at summer camp, I had continual issues with another counselor who I technically supervised. One day I overheard her discussing me with someone else who was backing me up, and the counselor said "I guess it's just that on the first day I saw her and she looked so much like my cousin, and I hate my cousin, and I've never liked her since then. I'm never going to get along with her." Oh, okay. Basically after that I avoided interacting much with her unless absolutely necessary and didn't bother trying to be "friends". By that point she annoyed me as much as I annoyed her.
So maybe she reminds you of someone without you having thought about it, or you remind her of someone and she's not friendly to you because of it.
But I really hate this subject title and cringe when I see it in the topics. I finally read it to reassure myself that the person posting was not actually violent, but yuck.
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Salem's Lot - danny glick knocking at the window.
The stand - any section with randy flagg.
You heard they're redoing the on-screen adaptation of The Stand (which is my very favorite book in the world)? They're planning on a motion picture trilogy! And they're looking at Matthew McConaughey as Flagg! Can't...control...excitement!!
Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I realize as I re-read this thread where I can see that I may look like the dirty bird. But seriously, it was different in person. I am not psychic, but I can feel negative energy radiating from people. And I can feel it radiating from this woman. And I want to ask her what I can do to help her tolerate me in a more productive manner.
OP, I get you. There is a nurse who I work with on very rare occasions who decided 2 years ago when I started that she does not like me. Two years later, she is still quite passive-aggressive and apparently has not gotten over it. And whenever I see her, I totally stew about it. I don't like knowing that someone doesn't like me, particularly if it's for a really stupid non-reason. But I haven't gotten up the gumption to have that Difficult Conversation with her yet. Luckily, I only really see her about once every couple months.
OP this happened to me once. I said to the secretary "excuse me" there was no 'distractions' she heard me. I wanted her to move her cup. I was RIGHT next to her and we were the only 2 there at the time. I waited and she didn't move it. I politely moved the cup and she blew up on me! Told me not to touch her stuff and moved the cup right back to where it was. Talk about wanting to throat punch somebody! I avoided her ever since that day. Apparently she's like that and ppl stay out of her way. I would just be polite no matter what she does. Sometimes it kills the tension and sometimes it doesn't. But don't change your ways because of her.
You heard they're redoing the on-screen adaptation of The Stand (which is my very favorite book in the world)? They're planning on a motion picture trilogy! And they're looking at Matthew McConaughey as Flagg! Can't...control...excitement!!
Officially hijacking the thread now...yes!!! I can't wait for this to happen. The Stand is one of my all time faves and I have yet to see a decent film adapdation.
Officially hijacking the thread now...yes!!! I can't wait for this to happen. The Stand is one of my all time faves and I have yet to see a decent film adapdation.
I thought there was only that one with Gary Sinese.
First, I love the movie Misery... I'm a big reader, but I've found I always think Stephen King movies are better than the books/stories they were based on. It's one of the few cases where I think that's true. (Misery, Carrie, Stand By Me, Shawshank...)
I thought there was only that one with Gary Sinese.
I thought Randall Flagg was hot. Until he wasn't.
I think it was just that one. A miniseries from the mid '90's? That book is so massive even with a miniseries format they manged to miss a lot. I only watched it at the original airing and thought it was pretty disappointing. If I remember right Stephen King played some bit part though, so that was kind of cool. Now I have to go look it up and see who all was in it.
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