I am lost

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Hi, I am feeling lost on what to do in my current situation. I was offered a job and accepted it at a hospital out of the state that is currently half way across the country from me. It pays much better than my current job and I get way less patients.

My current problem is staying at my job in a SNF. I really hate my current job and I dread going into work every day. I am a new nurse and I feel completely and totally incompetent. I was only given a week and a half of training. I feel like there is no help and a lack of support and anytime I ask for help my supervisor gets angry. I just feel so overwhelmed with all my patients. I have anywhere from 15- 20 patients. I just don't know when the right time to quit is. I want to quit once I have all the money I need saved up. I start my new job in late October. I feel like I am constantly forgetting to do something.

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Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

You need to give your current employer a 2 week notice, find a home in your new city, get utilities turned on, and be there, ready to start your new job on the agreed-upon date. If that is in late October, you need to get moving.

Have you found housing yet? Can you do a few weeks at an AirBnB while you look for housing after you get there? How much money do you need saved up? You really should be putting in your notice asap because you have a lot to do to move across the country. Do you have a nursing license in your new state? They'll want to see that on your first day, if you haven't shown them one already.

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Along with everything TriciaJ advised. If you have not started minimizing your belongings start now. Take care of your mail situation. If you are driving your personal car get a tune up. If possible give yourself a couple of weeks in the new city before starting the new job.

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I have a compact license and my new job is located in a compact state. Thank you I never thought of using Airbnb but I think I will do that until I find a place to live.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Geriatrics, Wound Care.

Compact states are only compact if you are a resident of the state. If you move, you'll need to get a new one in your new state.

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5 hours ago, CalicoKitty said:

Compact states are only compact if you are a resident of the state. If you move, you'll need to get a new one in your new state.

Okay. I live in florida and my new job is in new Mexico. I asked the recruiter about that today thank you for telling me.

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Your current job sounds miserable. Like the others stated, get everything ready, on this end now. Give your notice then mark off your calendar, with a nice bright sharpie, at the end of each day that you complete in this hell hole. A few weeks may seem like an eternity, but it will be here before you know it. Best of luck!

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Specializes in ER OR LTC Code Blue Trauma Dog.
On 9/12/2019 at 12:26 AM, apmarquez said:

I am a new nurse and I feel completely and totally incompetent.

It's not you.

You're being setup to fail.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Women's Health, LTC.
23 hours ago, apmarquez said:

I have a compact license and my new job is located in a compact state. Thank you I never thought of using Airbnb but I think I will do that until I find a place to live.

This is the absolute BEST way to see if you will be happy in a certain neighborhood, side of town, etc. VRBO or AirBNB is short term and you can check out what the neighborhood has to offer.

I have known many people who move to a new city/state, etc and sign a lease without ever checking out the neighborhood. They find themselves miserable. Maybe there are no good grocery stores, pharmacies, places to eat, etc. A short term stay will allow you to really explore!

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

Stop focusing on your current job. You aren't going to be there, so just do what you need to do to stay safe and be ready to move on. Your new opportunity sounds exciting!

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I second the suggestions you've received. I relocated for my 1st job. I begun calling up apartments 2 months before the start date. However, approx 6 weeks prior, I actually visited twice (excluding when I went for the interview) to seek housing. Even that wasn't enough. Again, demography place a big part, as this was a fairly small town, with a big university population. Ended up choosing a place that wasn't near preference. The apartment wasn't ready until the first day of my orientation ?. I AirB&B for 2 days to avoid possible delays from traveling the morning of ... At the end of day one orientation, I went to my apartment ; & of course, there was some cleaning up I had to do before unpacking even the basic things. As with any move, unpacking everything happens over time.

My long post is just to say, 'get moving' ASAP.

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This suggestion is hit or miss, but you might also try Craigslist for sublets. Some of them can be short-term (1 or 2 months). Again, it's Craigslist so use at your own risk.

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