I can't believe co-worker took my venting complaints to boss!

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I'm curious as to how it went the next time you saw Ms. Backstabber. I'll bet a paycheck she never gets a chance to repeat her act of good will.

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Specializes in 12 years exp in corporate healthcare.

I learned to Never have a better house than your boss.:cool:

Hmmm..that is a new one to me but its also a good one. Can someone explain what this means?...I'm going to start using this one! :D

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Spit in her coffee

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Specializes in 12 years exp in corporate healthcare.

:rotfl:

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this sucks. i'm a new grad and haven't found work yet. however, i was excited to make friends with my co-workers and have fun get togethers with them! sad to think that i can't let my hair down at all.. ugh.

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I think most of us can relate to being stabbed in the back by someone who we initially trusted. When the gossip fest at work starts, I'll get busy and walk away. All of a sudden getting a bag of ice for whatever room becomes my top priority.

It sickens me how my coworkers will tear apart a person, turn around, and smile so sweetly when said person comes around. If someone doesn't have the cojones to say it to my face, I have no time for them.

My motto: If they gossip to you, they'll gossip of you. I work, I shut up, and when my shift is up, I cannot get out of there fast enough.

P.S. If my post sounds grumpy, it is because I have been in your shoes. Your coworkers are not your friends. End of story.

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Specializes in Leadership, Psych, HomeCare, Amb. Care.
this sucks. i'm a new grad and haven't found work yet. however, i was excited to make friends with my co-workers and have fun get togethers with them! sad to think that i can't let my hair down at all.. ugh.

The OP wrote, I work in a medical facility and I complained to my coworker about work, patients and my boss.

You can let your hair down, but need to realize you will be a professional in the workplace, and you need to be mindful of what you say, and who you say it to. If it's something you wouldn't want your boss or a co-worker to know about, then best to keep it zipped

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Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.
i think most of us can relate to being stabbed in the back by someone who we initially trusted. when the gossip fest at work starts, i'll get busy and walk away.

i do this as well. i don't want to know about gossip, and don't feel the need to be 'in the loop'. i. don't. care.

it sickens me how my coworkers will tear apart a person, turn around, and smile so sweetly when said person comes around. if someone doesn't have the cojones to say it to my face, i have no time for them.

i was friends (only through work, never outside of work) with a co-worker and we each shared some personal things, challenges, ideas, etc. we had known each other for about 2 years. one day my boss called the front desk and asked the charge nurse to cover my pts while i talked to her about a project we were doing together. turns out the charge nurse asked my friend to cover me, without explaining the reason. imagine my surprise when my boss gets a text page from my friend stating that i have already taken 45 minutes for lunch, and that i should be written up for taking more time than was allotted. i was sitting with my boss when this page came through.

my motto: if they gossip to you, they'll gossip of you. i work, i shut up, and when my shift is up, i cannot get out of there fast enough.

there is so much truth to your motto, which is something my mother taught me when i was a very small girl. she was so right.

p.s. if my post sounds grumpy, it is because i have been in your shoes. your coworkers are not your friends. end of story.

i have to disagree with you here. two of my best friends are co-workers, and i have gone to the ends of the earth for them, and they have done so for me. it is difficult for me to trust someone (on a personal level) that i work with. hell, it is difficult for me to trust damned near anyone at all. i slowly developed a friendship with a nurse who sparked my interest when we compared written notes one day after a difficult surgery, and we found that our notes were identical. we are still very close, and i treasure her friendship. the only caveat here is that i realize how rare this kind of friendship is.

i am also close friends with a surgeon who has been dating my best friend of 11 years. when my best friend was describing his new girlfriend to me one day over lunch 4 years ago, i had no idea that she and i worked together. my bff, his girl, my husband and i take vacations together 2 times a year. they are regular dinner guests at our house. it is refreshing to be able to vent to her and get her perspective knowing that it stays between us. as i mentioned, i realize that this is rare.

it takes a lot of time to develop a friendship of any kind, and i realize that i was lucky in gaining two stellar friends such as these through work.

the bottom line is that you can develop friendships with people that you work with. my advice is to do so slowly and with caution. i didn't become close to my nursing peer until we had worked together for many years. we each hold each other in high regard and trust each other implicitly. we both understand that what happens at work stays at work.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Hmmm..that is a new one to me but its also a good one. Can someone explain what this means?...I'm going to start using this one! :D

YOur boss comes over for dinner....you have a great house, five times bigger, in ground pool, nice things. They see you have a boat, 3 cars and plenty of toys to play with for both grown ups and children alike. They Are so consumed with envy and hatred that you have something nicer than them and they dump you in a heart beat. Kind of like never show your boss your resume if it's better than theirs.....it threatens the insecure..:smokin:

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You are welcome to come vent here. I won't tell.

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Specializes in Med/Surg.
lol wow that must have been awkward , dont trust women or gay men, not all the time but most of the time

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Um...what? How completely and utterly inappropriate.

You have a right to talk about working conditions, as long as you're not slamming other people which you could be sued for slander. A union will back you up on that. If you don't have a union, you do still have rights, unles you work in a right to work state, at which point your comments probably will get you fired. But if it was union you have just cause on your side. But in the future, becareful, unless you work in a facility that has strong union support and solidarity, people generally do tend to back stab you.

I don't think venting about coworkers (which you KNOW means it wasn't good) falls under "talking about working conditions." If you make comments bad enough to get you fired in a right-to-work (or at-will) state, they should not be backed up by a union, either. Is the point of a union to let people get away with bad behavior?

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Specializes in Operating Room.

I believe it but I also make the gossip rich environment work for me sometimes. Sometimes there are things you kind of want to get around to the boss(about yourself not other people) and telling it to the unit motormouth is often the best way to accomplish this. My last raise was a product of this.

But in general, you have to be careful about being too open at work.

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