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I actually suggested to a pre req nursing student to find another profession and fast

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~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN

Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics. Has 6 years experience.

I agree! I hated that poem too! I currently work full time and the conditions of that household are pretty much like mine are now being we are always going so much. So not much will change when school starts for me. It's not like everybody who goes to nursing school was a stay at home mom before who just decided to take up nursing school. Why isn't the dad helping? Why aren't the kids doing chores? My husband isn't forking over money for me to go to school, I didn't have to nag him into letting me go. We are working through this together as we always have...

What a great way to make moms who have to be away from home so much feel even that much more guilty for it. Ugh! The auther of this poem can kiss my butt!

I am guessing the poem was written by a disgruntled spouse that was used to having someone cater to their every needs and then they had to buck up and start helping out and was unhappy until the end when the spouse was done with school and bringing in decent money, then they were grateful lol

I have to agree with most of the posts on here. I'm a pre-nursing student. I'm already so stressed out about getting accepted, scared that I'm never going to see my husband or kids, worried about childcare, that my marriage will suffer....I could be pursuing any other major right now and be almost done, work half as hard and make just as much. You don't think that thought appeals to me???? But I feeling like nursing is my calling and I know that if I don't do it, I will regret it. I know how hard it is going to be, and Im ready for that, but when people tell me that I am going to be abused, never see my kids, no social life...it makes me want to run and hide! I don't need to hear that. What I need to hear is encouraging words....

Soon2BNurse3, ADN, RN

Specializes in M/S, Tele, Sub (stepdown), Hospice. Has 11 years experience.

I didn't feel offended by that poem. I think it's meant as a joke & I laughed because my laundry & dishes have piled up too! I think it's pointing more at the fact that in nursing school, there is NO time for anything that isn't related to nursing, careplans, clinicals, etc.

I dunno....I thought it was cute.

nursel56

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty. Has 45 years experience.

I have to agree with most of the posts on here. I'm a pre-nursing student. I'm already so stressed out about getting accepted, scared that I'm never going to see my husband or kids, worried about childcare, that my marriage will suffer....I could be pursuing any other major right now and be almost done, work half as hard and make just as much. You don't think that thought appeals to me???? But I feeling like nursing is my calling and I know that if I don't do it, I will regret it. I know how hard it is going to be, and Im ready for that, but when people tell me that I am going to be abused, never see my kids, no social life...it makes me want to run and hide! I don't need to hear that. What I need to hear is encouraging words....

Absolutely follow your dreams! You wouldn't believe how many posts I've seen from people who are in their forties and beyond who say "I always wanted to be a nurse but I let people talk me out of it, life got in the way, etc etc-- now I am finally going back to school to achieve my lifelong dream"!

Student nurses are going to really need to hang on to their dedication in the next few years. That conventional wisdom about always being a demand for nurses isn't true anymore. An economic downturn isn't a good enough reason in my opinion to chuck the whole idea of being a nurse, just be aware that there is a lot more negativity floating around these days. Best wishes to you! :nurse:

~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN

Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics. Has 6 years experience.

I didn't feel offended by that poem. I think it's meant as a joke & I laughed because my laundry & dishes have piled up too! I think it's pointing more at the fact that in nursing school, there is NO time for anything that isn't related to nursing, careplans, clinicals, etc.

I dunno....I thought it was cute.

It wasn't even so much the laundry and dishes part of the poem that irked me.

I also disagree with it about their being no time for anything. My life is not only nursing school, I have time for other things as well.

Ok, that poem was just STUPID. Didn't make me feel ANY better right now. Considering I had an argument with my husband last night over the LACK OF SUPPORT that I'm feeling at times. That he can make his life go on, and oh well- it's just school- she just breezed right through prerequisites- so this is nothing, if "I" want to do something I can. And she just has to deal with it. And take up the slack. Yeah RIGHT.

And this is SO NOT TRUE. I have never worked so hard for a darn "C" in my entire life. Not to mention that I'm in Fundamentals- they stuck our clinical group on an ONCOLOGY floor b/c there was no other place to stick us- and it has been the HARDEST clinical experience I've ever had.

This was my wonderful experience in clinical yesterday. Keep in mind that I have been in a clinical setting for 7 WEEKS.

How on earth do you deal with a patient who's mad at the world b/c he's got terminal cancer- and just decided that morning after talking to the doctor "I'm just going to die, let me die in peace" and then every time you walk into the room with a smile on your face that patient says NOTHING to you and NOTHING you can say will help (at least that's what I felt).And everything I did to provide care felt like it was done WRONG (even though I know it wasn't. But that's how it felt). And has had NO VISTIORS at all since he's gotten into the hospital. UGGGGHHH

I had someone help me clean him up (he was a mess) and SHE even said that he was "compliant" but not exactly friendly.

I did get to chat with my skills lab instructor. Briefly- but I did explain a bit about the frustration I've been feeling. He did make me feel a little better- maybe seeing it through the eyes of someone else that's not even involved is good. And I vented briefly to my group about the day at post-clinical yesterday.

Thanks for listening if you got that far.

Cheryl

I hear ya summerscent. But, we have more control than many of us realize. Fight the good fight.

What. The. ********? What a horrible poem! Was this written in the 60's or something when dads couldn't figure out laundry and were in the position of "indulging" their wives' nagging to go to school as though it was some whim? She's not a model mother anymore because she's in school? I can understand that school puts stress on a family, but that poem is just sexist.

Gah.

Even at my age (48) I never stop being amazed at how different we all are. I found this poem to be hilarious. I am looking around my house at the biggest dust bunnies I have ever seen rolling around the floor. My kitchen floor is shameful. My house is dirty, and I don't see my kids as much as I'd like because I'm a p/t nursing student who also works a full-time job. My husband works in a different state, so he isn't around to help. Not that he would if he were here, but that's a different issue. To me, this poem sums up a lot of what I have experienced over the last 3 years, in a funny way.

And for the original OP - everything is in the presentation. I may be reading between the lines, but I got the impression you were just feeling the pressure of school which was reflected in your answer. Not that you would rather be in a different field. I wouldn't trade my dirty house or all the time I lost with my kids because I was studying for any other profession.

That poem is fun and true for a lot of working/studying moms. If you don't laugh, you're gonna cry. And even if it was from the 60s 70s 80s 90s so what. Still true today. Hidden cat, what world are you living in? We haven't fixed it yet, it's still sexist. Look at your work environment? Ever see any female co-workers picking up the slack for the male counterparts? Co-dependency trives in nursing. Ever see Male nurses catapulted to management over equally competent female counterparts. I'm single and let my house go to hell while in nursing school. My dear little boy sacrificed too. Young, sheltered women...the road has been paved for you by women such as aluded to in this poem.

Music in My Heart

Specializes in being a Credible Source. Has 11 years experience.

I just didn't think nursing school was that big a deal. It did require consistent attention and good time-management skills but honestly, it just wasn't that big a deal. I've certainly done much harder and much more stressful things in my life.

I have a hard time identifying with the OP.

That poem is fun and true for a lot of working/studying moms. If you don't laugh, you're gonna cry. And even if it was from the 60s 70s 80s 90s so what. Still true today. Hidden cat, what world are you living in? We haven't fixed it yet, it's still sexist. Look at your work environment? Ever see any female co-workers picking up the slack for the male counterparts? Co-dependency trives in nursing. Ever see Male nurses catapulted to management over equally competent female counterparts. I'm single and let my house go to hell while in nursing school. My dear little boy sacrificed too. Young, sheltered women...the road has been paved for you by women such as aluded to in this poem.

I'm living in a world where my marriage is an equitable partnership. We support each other and my going to nursing school isn't seen as my husband indulging my desire (and raising my allowance to accommodate for it) but a project that will benefit us both in the long run.

I'll refrain from making any assumptive comments about you based your age. I appreciate the struggles of women who have gone before me, and I think it's more fitting to honor them by continuing to fight for equality than by accepting sexism with a laugh and a cute poem.

~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN

Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics. Has 6 years experience.

That poem is fun and true for a lot of working/studying moms. If you don't laugh, you're gonna cry. And even if it was from the 60s 70s 80s 90s so what. Still true today. Hidden cat, what world are you living in? We haven't fixed it yet, it's still sexist. Look at your work environment? Ever see any female co-workers picking up the slack for the male counterparts? Co-dependency trives in nursing. Ever see Male nurses catapulted to management over equally competent female counterparts. I'm single and let my house go to hell while in nursing school. My dear little boy sacrificed too. Young, sheltered women...the road has been paved for you by women such as aluded to in this poem.

Wow quiet the assumptions!

I know your post wasn't directed at me but to another poster, but I did not enjoy the poem, I am only 2 years older then the person you replied to, I am far from sheltered. Not even in the same country as sheltered yet I didn't find this poem funny nor did I cry nor has my house gone to hell or my children neglected.

Seriously this notion that something was hard and unbearable for one person then it MUST be the same for all people is getting old.

~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN

Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics. Has 6 years experience.

I just didn't think nursing school was that big a deal. It did require consistent attention and good time-management skills but honestly, it just wasn't that big a deal. I've certainly done much harder and much more stressful things in my life.

I have a hard time identifying with the OP.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!

I am not done yet, I know it will get harder, but compared to the things I have gone through and still go through in my life it doesn't compare.

Soon2BNurse3, ADN, RN

Specializes in M/S, Tele, Sub (stepdown), Hospice. Has 11 years experience.

Ok....about the poem. Let's just agree to disagree. Some found it funny & some found it sexist. We all come from different genders, ages, generations, & cultures. It's also off topic from the OP.

That poem is fun and true for a lot of working/studying moms. If you don't laugh, you're gonna cry. And even if it was from the 60s 70s 80s 90s so what. Still true today. Hidden cat, what world are you living in? We haven't fixed it yet, it's still sexist. Look at your work environment? Ever see any female co-workers picking up the slack for the male counterparts? Co-dependency trives in nursing. Ever see Male nurses catapulted to management over equally competent female counterparts. I'm single and let my house go to hell while in nursing school. My dear little boy sacrificed too. Young, sheltered women...the road has been paved for you by women such as aluded to in this poem.

I can't understand where you are coming from. You say this poem is true for a lot of working and studying moms. If that's the case (which I know it is) then how in the world could you find this FUN?! I agree that we haven't fixed sexism. I don't think any of the other posters who didn't like the poem feel that way either. In fact I think that we are probably more aware and sensitive to sexism than those of you who think the truth of this poem is funny. You call us "young, sheltered women?" Why? Because we don't think it's funny that women are treated as if they are the only ones who can care for a home and that women have to beg their hard working husbands to put them through school and he "suffers" so much for it!? You call us "young and sheltered" because we don't put up with that kind of B.S.? What road are you referring to that you have paved for us young sheltered women? The road where we are still supposed to be the ones taking care of the house and children, yet we also must work full time jobs with no help from the husband at home? Because that's what this poem is suggesting. Those poor, poor souls at home lost without the woman there to help them find their socks or make dinner or mop the floor or be at every becking call to their hard working husband!! Sorry, but I just don't feel sympathy or think it's funny that this is what's to be expected of us! It's sad that you do.

NeoNurseTX, RN

Specializes in NICU Level III.

The best thing about nursing school is that it ENDS!! And after that it's worth all the frustration.

I remember how excited I was that I was going to be starting nursing school, especially as long as I waited. I don't think I would kill another person excitement like that. So far I am rounding the end of my first semester (just took Fundamentals final today) and I am still excited and look forward to next semester and am excited about clinicals next semester. I get stopped all the time when I am at school and in my scrubs by people thinking about getting into the program or are about to start and I can't help but share in their excitement. I am realistic with them and just as excited for them as I remember feeling when I got my acceptance. I do make sure though that my life isn't only school.

Don't get me wrong, I will be happy when it's all over, but thus far I am enjoying it for the most part.

Thanks for the positive words Mi Vida Loca. I will be a 1st semester nursing student in the spring and I am so tired of hearing the negative. It's great to hear someone being positive.

Ok Wow! This has been a very intense thread to read especially about the poem. I agree with who ever said let's agree to disagree. I find some of the parts funny in the poem and I can see how it is insulting to some of you. Those who are insulted that's great that you will never be in that situation (hopefully) but you do need to realize that some women are in that situation, it may not have started out that way but it is the way it is. Some of us are single mothers so there is no husband at home to even try and help even if it's poorly. So that is why I found some of the parts funny bcs. my children are still young(10, 8 & 1 yrs. old) and unless I can afford to hire a nanny/housekeeper/cook (which I can't) some of those things will happen to me and they happen now sometimes. My children know that I love them and that mommy is going to be a nurse and they are just as excited as I am. I am doing the best that I can for my children and with my children. Sometimes the laundry needs caught up and sometimes we just have sandwiches for dinner, we don't always have time to do a lot of extra fun stuff, but over all I think my children are well taken care of and happy. There I gave my :twocents: on the poem. I wanted to address the original post. I am starting my school's nursing program in January! I am way excited to finally be at this point. I am sorry that you are having such a negative time in nursing school most programs are very competitive and I just feel that if it is something you really want you should have had some idea of what you were getting into. I am sure that there are plenty of people that would have loved to have gotten your spot. I know that you said you were only venting. I hope thats true, but you sound like to me that you already have regrets about choosing nursing. If you feel that strongly negative about school I don't know what you expect when you are done. I hope things get better for you and I am sorry that you tried to quash someones excitement. I think you should have remembered the rule. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I would hope that you will go back to the cna you talked to and share something positive with her or at the very least apologize for your negative comment about school to her. She came to you with excitement and looking for information about the program. I am sure the last thing she expected is what you said to her. It is ok to be honest about the not so great things but you should have been more objective over all. If you really can't think of anything more objective to say and you truely feel this negatively about your school maybe you should re think your career choice or school choice.......Good luck I hope you find what you are looking for.