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    Don't You Just Love It?

    I love it about as much as I love the pretense of "Articles" on allnurses. Seriously, this feature is ridiculous on an anonymous internet forum. All that separates articles from regular posts is the citation which is I guess supposed to lend a sense of legitimacy and credibility to them? I just don't get it.
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    A nurse who doesn't breastfeed

    And re #5... it's not a reason not to but it's a reason why some women give up or don't try. If support for breastfeeding wasn't important, we wouldn't need lactation consultants. I think it's important to take some of the responsibility and blame for low breastfeeding rates away from mothers as individuals and place it on a society that isn't really organized in a way that promotes breastfeeding.
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    A nurse who doesn't breastfeed

    This is what I did. Logistically, it's the work of breast feeding and bottle feeding and the benefits of neither. I made it work and I know a lot of women do but there were weeks where I was fueled in this task exclusively by guilt and sadness at not being able to breastfeed. So yes, there is always that. But I think there's a reason it's not a more common choice and why it's almost always (ime) a second choice and not a first choice.
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    A nurse who doesn't breastfeed

    On another board I post on, we call this HIPPOing: Happily Ignoring Previous Posters' Opinions.
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    Should I be worried?

    ...two years ago.
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    Nurses selling at work?

    I'd have mentioned something to the doctor but I don't think it's a patient's place to remove things from the walls. That's a boundary overstep, IMO.
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    Nurses selling at work?

    My waistline IS fuller. Thin mints mmmmm
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    A nurse who doesn't breastfeed

    I was able to pump at work for a year. Initially I pumped 3 times a shift but was quickly able to drop down to 2 pumps a shift. My unit was slow enough that it wasn't a problem although there was some resentment about all my breaks. Apparently I was complained about in the same breath people complained about the excessive breaks smokers take. It was more of a challenge when I was pulled to busier units but I made it work. And I went back to work pretty early too. If pumping at work doesn't work out for you there is still the option of breastfeeding until you go back to work and switching to formula when you need to. You may only need to supplement too- I work with a breastfeeding mom who stopped pumping at work but continued to breastfeed at home when she was with her baby. Her baby got formula when she was at work and she nursed enough when they were together to maintain her supply. There are a lot of options available to you and you never know what is going to happen after you have your baby. I planned to breastfeed and to breastfeed for a couple years at least. My daughter was born with a soft palate cleft and was not only unable to latch and suck effectively, but couldn't get milk from a regular bottle either and needed special bottles to drink. I suppose the natural thing to do would have been to let her starve to death, but instead I pumped for her for a year, only needing to supplement with formula for the last couple of months. That experience put me in touch with many other mothers who had problems with breastfeeding for various reasons and made me much more sensitive and compassionate about the decisions women make regarding breastfeeding. I'd encourage you to keep an open mind about your plans about breastfeeding. You might be one of those women for whom it is magically easy. You might find you enjoy it, and that it fits in your life better than you thought it would. Or not, and that's OK. I've really only ever encountered judgment about feeding babies online.
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    A nurse who doesn't breastfeed

    Not all formulas use corn syrup. Do you find your communication tactics are effective in encouraging breastfeeding? Because I find your language especially judgmental and inflammatory as well.
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    Nurses selling at work?

    I didn't select any of those answers. I don't mind a catalogue out I can browse and buy or not buy from but any active selling really irritates me. I might be more inclined to buy something if it's a fundraiser. I think recruiting is inappropriate. Active selling or high pressure marketing is bad too.
  11. I have coworkers who advised the same thing, that with PRN you get more money in your pocket, but the government is actually pretty smart and will get its money from you whether you earn it at one job or two. A financial advisor might be helpful to work out tax scenarios SPECIFICALLY based on your info. But again, when I worked more I did in fact make more. Working overtime I earned more with fewer extra hours than working a per diem. For me, the big benefit to working per diem somewhere else is having your foot in the door at another place for possible future job moves and spending too much time at one place made me SUPER sick of that job. Getting a tax return means you gave the government an interest free loan. It's nice to get a chunk of money at the end of the year but that's money that didn't earn you interest or improve your quality of life of go towards paying down any debt. If you get no tax return it means that you calculated your tax withholding correctly the entire year. I've been told that ideally, you work out to OWE the max without having to pay a penalty every year and pay that out of savings you've been accruing interest on, but that's not something that would work for me.
  12. 403b/401k roll over to your new employer when you leave. The amount of money that you put in from your paycheck is always yours (plus or minus market change but don't get hung up on that especially early on). The employer match takes a certain amount of time to become yours. This is called vesting. At my current employer, you vest 33% every year so after 3 years of working 100% of the employer contribution belongs to me. If I leave before then I get a prorated percentage. Using fake numbers: I contribute $100. My employer matches $100. I have $200 in my retirement account. If I leave after a year, I keep my $100 and $33 from the employer. If I leave after two years, I keep my $100 and $66 from the employer. If I stay until I'm fully vested, or three years in this example, I keep $100 I put in plus $100 employer puts in. So even if I leave before fully vesting, I have money from they employer that I wouldn't have otherwise had. It's the best "return" you'll get on your money. And when you contribute more younger, compound interest has much longer to work it's magic and your money grows to much more. Google retirement calculators and look at the difference in contributing a set amount starting now versus in 10 and 15 years. Starting young means you don't have to play a ton of catch up later. This is a good quick intro with visual aids that I think explains it more clearly than I do: I’m only 22. Should I contribute to my company’s 401k? | NerdWallet Investing
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    why nursing is a mess. three simple facts

    There are a lot of things that frustrate me about nursing as a profession. But...fees? For licensure? That wouldn't even *make* my list let alone top it. I think the bickering over education makes nursing "a mess." Not having PhD nurses. I think care plans are as useful/useless as you make them. What would make my list is the push to turn nursing and healthcare in general in to customer service professions. I don't work in a spa and the red button is not the waitress button. Hospitals that expect us to fill out surveys about how much say we have in the running of the hospital and how happy we are so that they can get a certification and then give us as little real power as possible. Nursing colleagues who will complain about the poor benefits, poor working conditions, poor treatment by administration and management but then can't see how unionizing just might give us power to address some of those issues.
  14. Just a note of caution about per diem and prn jobs. My first year working prn on top of my regular job I got screwed on taxes because the prn job withheld based on how much I was making at the prn only and I MASSIVELY under-withheld. I ended up owing $5k on taxes when I filed which sucked. Now I make sure that my per diem takes out extra taxes beyong what filing single 0 deduction takes (I'm married with 1 dependent but do not withhold based on that anymore). I found the best way to make more money was simply to work overtime. None of the local places offer a higher rate for per diem so making 1.5x my hourly rate beats making my hourly rate somewhere else. And when I worked a lot of overtime, yes I paid more taxes, but my paychecks were still noticeably bigger. Work weekends, work nights, pick up on holidays. And do your 401k/403b at least to the company match or you're throwing away money. You can't afford not to think far ahead like that.
  15. Yes. I get asked for juice and ice and extra pillows constantly when I'm out in public.
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    About That Avatar...

    I've figured out people I know in the real world WITHOUT names and pics (and been discovered as well). I think people really underestimate how much their sentence structure and wording can give away, not to mention sharing their nursing school plus the type of nursing they do. But without the real name and a picture at least there's some basis for denial when someone figures you out.