I have a classmate who I get the feeling doesn't like me and I'm not sure way. I try to rise above it but the only thing is she is friends with my friends so not do I only have class and labs with her everyday, I eat lunch with her, go on walk breaks with her, all because we are with the entire group of friends that we share.
I asked if I could partner with her and another classmate one day, and she was just like "yeah, sure" and didn't look at me. She ignored me and then when I asked if we could use the teacher's dual stethescope for BP so we could listen at the same time, she said no, I just want to do it by myself. Really? Especially since are test will use the teacher's BP. I tried adding her on facebook but she didn't accept so I canceled it. When we are in groups she never talks to me directly, when we were doing critiques of our videos between the 6 of us, she gave everyone positive comments verbally, and stayed mum when it came to me.
I have tried to be nice, and I tried to rise above it all so I gave her a postiive comment that I like about her video. I'm too old for this, I"m a second degree student. Is this highschool all over again. I hated high school. I feel like I should confront her and discuss it, but I've never done that before. Or should I continue to ignore it and just let it go?
hey,i was just about to make a post similar to yours.
We were asked in class if we had used SBAR (situation,background,assessment and recommendation-to be used when making a phone call regarding a patient)I said that i had come across it on the wards. Other classmates said that they hadnt come across it. The lecturer asked me where i had seen it, i said that it was on a poster next to the majority of phones on the wards and on ward walls.
A classmate said 'oh i havent seen them' and another class 'mate' said 'oh at least we know who is doing all the work on the wards then' (this person isnt even based at the same hospital that i am so ive never worked with her)
I was furious, but now almost a week later ive had enough. I dont have the time,effort or energy to be dealing with people like her.If someone has something to say to me, then id rather they say it to my face rather than making snide comments in class.
Specializes in cardiac (CCU/Heart Transplant, cath lab).
I think you should approach her in private about it. Sounds like she has no good reason to act this way towards you...so it also wouldn't surprise me that a person like this may deny there is any problem. But at least you took the mature step.
I am generally a non-confrontational person when it comes to issues with people I have to work with. However, from my few years in nursing, I have found that avoidance is not the best way to deal. You may encounter other situations when you start your career...especially with nursing being a female-dominated profession. Some women can just be b****es. I find ignoring them just makes me more angry at them and then I am the unhappy one at work. And you don't deserve to feel that way. So squash it now!
Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.
hey,i was just about to make a post similar to yours.
We were asked in class if we had used SBAR (situation,background,assessment and recommendation-to be used when making a phone call regarding a patient)I said that i had come across it on the wards. Other classmates said that they hadnt come across it. The lecturer asked me where i had seen it, i said that it was on a poster next to the majority of phones on the wards and on ward walls.
A classmate said 'oh i havent seen them' and another class 'mate' said 'oh at least we know who is doing all the work on the wards then' (this person isnt even based at the same hospital that i am so ive never worked with her)
I was furious, but now almost a week later ive had enough. I dont have the time,effort or energy to be dealing with people like her.If someone has something to say to me, then id rather they say it to my face rather than making snide comments in class.
Your classmates are dizzy. The SBAR form is widely used at hospitals and is alive and well in mine. Good for you for paying attention to your surroundings during clinical and filing that piece of information in your memory. You will be an outstanding nurse!
Does it really matter that this one person doesn't like you? Does she pay your bills? Does she light up your life? I have a feeling that the answer to all of those questions are no. So don't worry about her. There are some people you can't make happy no matter what you do...so don't try to make them happy. Be polite, but don't go out of your way to be friendly. If you want to, you could just ask her outright if she has a problem with you b/c a real woman would answer that question, but from how it sounds...it's high school all over again. You're an adult...enough of these childish games. I'm sure there are plenty of other people who like you just fine. We like you on allnurses.com
Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.
OP, this girl is SOOO not worth another thought from your mind. She obviously has issues and I would just ignore her. You can be polite and professional, but stop trying so hard to befriend her. Honestly, do you really want someone like that to know your business? Hmmm....no, this isn't high school. Ignore her.
Refuse to deal with this drama, your in school, just focus. Use her as a way to strengthen yourself. She is just a distraction, a test, to see how much you can take. It isn't that different when you graduate and start working as a nurse. You will still have to deal with annoying people like her. I am not trying to sound unsympathetic but you really have to find a way to deal with her. "Kill her with kindness", and keep your focus all at the same time. You will graduate and she will be a thing of the past, unless you end up working with her, lol, when you graduate.That would suck of course. Just be strong in your approach and proffessional, you will be fine. Deep down she is probably jealous of you and would love to see you fail. Don't let it happen, just meditate before you go around her. Don't get into a discussion about if she likes you or anything, act like all is ok, unless she goes overboard. If you can shake it off till you don't have to deal with her, you will come out stronger and better and the next time you deal with someone like her you will know just how to handle it.
I would rather a neutral than an enemy. She may be just tucking her head in shell to make it through nursing school. I say remain semi-friendly back but distant. Heck you may just set off her trouble radar for no reason.
Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.
Trust me on this. You need to take her aside in private and talk to her one:one about what ever is going on with her. And you need to be direct and up front. I had a fellow nurse basically harass me at work on an ongoing basis and she was getting very personal. And loud. I finally took her aside in one of the patient rooms one day and told her up front that the only conversation we needed to have was in regard to patients. It was not her business what I did on my own time. She was not signing my paycheck and she was not in charge of me. Did she have any questions? She left me alone after that.
Trust me on this. You need to take her aside in private and talk to her one:one about what ever is going on with her. And you need to be direct and up front. I had a fellow nurse basically harass me at work on an ongoing basis and she was getting very personal. And loud. I finally took her aside in one of the patient rooms one day and told her up front that the only conversation we needed to have was in regard to patients. It was not her business what I did on my own time. She was not signing my paycheck and she was not in charge of me. Did she have any questions? She left me alone after that.
Yeah but this nurse isn't doing anything like that. She's just not engaging the OP. In fact, I think she's being rather adult about it. She doesn't like the OP so she is being civil but distant. Perhaps she didn't comment on the video because she realized that her personal opinion would taint her objectivity. We won't be liked by everyone. At least she's not saying nasty things behind her back and alienating the OP from the entire group.
If she says something rude to you again, I would ask her what her problem is. But if she just seems to ignore you, then I would do the same to her. Don't let her get under your skin, she's not worth it.
Chixie
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hey,i was just about to make a post similar to yours.
We were asked in class if we had used SBAR (situation,background,assessment and recommendation-to be used when making a phone call regarding a patient)I said that i had come across it on the wards. Other classmates said that they hadnt come across it. The lecturer asked me where i had seen it, i said that it was on a poster next to the majority of phones on the wards and on ward walls.
A classmate said 'oh i havent seen them' and another class 'mate' said 'oh at least we know who is doing all the work on the wards then' (this person isnt even based at the same hospital that i am so ive never worked with her)
I was furious, but now almost a week later ive had enough. I dont have the time,effort or energy to be dealing with people like her.If someone has something to say to me, then id rather they say it to my face rather than making snide comments in class.