My husband died Nov 8th

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Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o

Specializes in CVOR,CNOR,NEURO,TRAUMA,TRANSPLANTS.

Dearest Linda,

My heart goes out to you in so many ways. They say the hardest things in life are those that are taken away from you. Which I believe. But know that in the comfort and the time you were allowed to spend with each other is a blessing upon itself. There are many things in this world that you gather strength from, and you were fortunate enough to know and love and to marry the person inwhich you gained the most from. Im sure you stood by the side and witnessed all the good bad and the ugly that life can and will dish out to you. You were blessed when you met this man and you were even more blessed to marry this man , and it maybe difficult to see but you were the most blessed when you were allowed to be with him when he passed.

My prayers are with you, for you are strong and an angel that was allowed the gift of love and to love another.

Zoe

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Thanks for sharing. My sincere condolences. Take care.

(((((Linda))))))))

My condoleances first. But what a strong, beautiful woman you are! No wonder your Brent could pass away so peaceful.

Now do take care of yourself!

And I wish you a spiritual Christmas, it will be different, but remembering your years together is very important on days like these. And Linda, let it out!!!

Renee

(((((linda)))))) so sorry to hear about your loss. you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Specializes in MS Home Health.

I am so sorry you have had to go through all this. I am also sorry your husband had to leave so early. It was wonderful you could care for him.

God bless you and hugs,

renerian

Specializes in LDRP; Education.

((((Linda))))))

So sorry.

Specializes in Clinical Risk Management.

(((((((Linda)))))))

My prayers are with you.

Joy

((((((Linda)))))))) Thank you for sharing your story with us. May you be filled with Gods peace and His love.

How wonderful that you were truly loved and were able to find that one person who you connected so perfectly with. I know Brian continues to hold you in his embrace.

Linda,

I am very sorry for your loss, but my heart is happy that you found him and had five wonderful years. I just became a hospice nurse and find solace that you were able to be with him. Thank you for sharing your story and yourself with us here.

Blessings,

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU,.

my sincere deepest sympathy to you. (((((linda))).

Linda you have my sincerest wishes and prayers .

When I die, I hope I go the same sweet way your Brent did...with the love of my life holding me close. (((HUGS)))

Specializes in Med-Surg.

What a wonderful description of your relationship. My prayers are with you.

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