Getting Thrown Under the Bus

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I'm heart-broken. I gave up a lot for this job, hoping that it would be my stepping stone in the department I wanted only to find out that I'm surrounded by a bunch of people who throw their co-workers under the bus. I have been at this job for two months, and after six months, I have the opportunity to transfer, perhaps to a sister unit.

I just don't get it. I'm not the kind of person who goes around throwing people under the bus. I work hard. I just don't understand how people can be this way.

How do you cope with toxic environments, power-hungry managers, and inflexible supervisors who couldn't give a rat's butt about your dilemma? Would I be burning a bridge if I transferred?

Why are women so cruel to each other? I just want to cry.

Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Care to elaborate? If you have nothing constructive to add, then please stay out of my thread. I'm not in the mood.

I's a thread you started but not your thread exclusively anymore.

It is prudent to be keep your schedule concerns to the proper people.

Honestly, if your issues are all over the unit and the manager hears about it multiple times, well there is going to be fall out.

Best wishes.

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Specializes in operating room, dialysis.

The nursing world is a throw u under the bus type of world. It sucks.... I hate nursing for that reason. Put it like this.... I am a graduate of 2011, 5 jobs in.... I finally found happiness in the operating room, but only because I don't talk to anyone, 7months on the job and I still have a lot of trouble with names.....lol. I don't include them in my business and I keep everything strictly work related. I don't even hang out in the staff lounge.... People are evil......

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
I's a thread you started but not your thread exclusively anymore.

It is prudent to be keep your schedule concerns to the proper people.

Honestly, if your issues are all over the unit and the manager hears about it multiple times, well there is going to be fall out.

Best wishes.

Thing is that I hear people complain all the time, but I'm not the type to run to management about every single little detail. It almost seems like in order to survive in nursing, you have to step on some toes and throw people under the bus. I could easily tell management about the conversations I've heard, people sleeping on the job, etc. But I'm not the "teacher's pet" I guess. I'm not a threat to anyone, so why do people feel like they need to "report" me to management? It just makes them look catty, and this manager, having less than a year of experience, doesn't seem to be able to see right through that bull.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
The nursing world is a throw u under the bus type of world. It sucks.... I hate nursing for that reason. Put it like this.... I am a graduate of 2011, 5 jobs in.... I finally found happiness in the operating room, but only because I don't talk to anyone, 7months on the job and I still have a lot of trouble with names.....lol. I don't include them in my business and I keep everything strictly work related. I don't even hang out in the staff lounge.... People are evil......

That is true!

And it saddens me to say this, but if this were a floor with mostly male nurses and male management, I don't think this would be so much an issue. For some reason, women are their own worst enemy, quick to tear each other down just to bring themselves back up. Even though there are some male nurses who are like that, I just don't see the lateral and horizontal violence being as prevalent in male populations as with females. I could be wrong, but now I know from now until I graduate (oh May 2015 can't come any sooner!) that I won't make any friends and I will consider anyone from here on out to be unworthy of my trust.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.

You've posted a few posts recently about dissatisfaction with the hospital you work at, as well as "whistleblowers" so perhaps your coworkers and management sense your discontent, or it's coming through in your attitude at your work. Or perhaps they understand, as you've made very clear here, that this job is not where you really want to be, but rather is simply a way of getting your foot in the door to the job you *really* want.

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Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
now I know from now until I graduate (oh May 2015 can't come any sooner!) that I won't make any friends and I will consider anyone from here on out to be unworthy of my trust.

It's an unfortunate attitude, and I can almost guarantee that with that attitude, you will likely have a negative experience at every job you hold.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
It's an unfortunate attitude, and I can almost guarantee that with that attitude, you will likely have a negative experience at every job you hold.

Not really. I like my job, but I don't like the way I am being treated. I've also been doing this kind of work for awhile, and I'm ready to move forward into a RN position. As a student, I don't get any benefits, so management can walk all over me and there is nothing that I can do.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
You've posted a few posts recently about dissatisfaction with the hospital you work at, as well as "whistleblowers" so perhaps your coworkers and management sense your discontent, or it's coming through in your attitude at your work. Or perhaps they understand, as you've made very clear here, that this job is not where you really want to be, but rather is simply a way of getting your foot in the door to the job you *really* want.

Thing is, I work very hard. I'm very pleasant with the patients and I do like my job. However, this isn't something I plan on doing long-term as I am in nursing school. So you are right when you say that this IS a way to get the foot in the door, because it is a stepping stone, being an aide has never been part of the long term plan.

That being said, I was very pleasant until I got the nasty shock that was my schedule a couple of weeks ago. I had interviewed the job and left with the impression that I would get a certain number hours during the week at certain shifts. My schedule was horrific, and I wasn't the only one upset about the scheduling. Yes, I was vocal about it, and I admit I shouldn't have.

No, I don't want to work at this unit after graduation, but can you blame me? I just don't get how it is okay for the coworkers to get away with all sort of crap, but I make a word of dissatisfaction, someone goes running to management. I want to work in a unit that promotes trust, teamwork and honesty, and how can that be fostered in a unit where one has to watch her back constantly?

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Specializes in Critical Care.

Sounds like your problem is really with the manager who failed to deliver on the hours you were promised. If you have been lied to and mislead by management it sounds like the lack of trust begins at the top! I would stick to my guns and remind the manager you were promised hours you were not given and then I would look for a different job!

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Specializes in Med/surg, Quality & Risk.
Care to elaborate? If you have nothing constructive to add, then please stay out of my thread. I'm not in the mood.

Not much of an optimist, is she?

(Sorry, the_optimist, I couldn't help myself. :) )

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

If you have only been there two months, the ONLY person who should have been hearing your concerns is the manager. Two months isn't enough time to make anything but a bad impression.

I hope things go better.

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Specializes in Pedi.
Thing is, I work very hard. I'm very pleasant with the patients and I do like my job. However, this isn't something I plan on doing long-term as I am in nursing school. So you are right when you say that this IS a way to get the foot in the door, because it is a stepping stone, being an aide has never been part of the long term plan.

That being said, I was very pleasant until I got the nasty shock that was my schedule a couple of weeks ago. I had interviewed the job and left with the impression that I would get a certain number hours during the week at certain shifts. My schedule was horrific, and I wasn't the only one upset about the scheduling. Yes, I was vocal about it, and I admit I shouldn't have.

No, I don't want to work at this unit after graduation, but can you blame me? I just don't get how it is okay for the coworkers to get away with all sort of crap, but I make a word of dissatisfaction, someone goes running to management. I want to work in a unit that promotes trust, teamwork and honesty, and how can that be fostered in a unit where one has to watch her back constantly?

To be honest, the new person coming in and complaining about her bad schedule is going to rub the staff who've been around for a while the wrong way. Unless you have a signed contract guaranteeing you certain hours, they're not bound to any schedule, regardless of what you discussed in the interview.

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