Getting Thrown Under the Bus

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.

I'm heart-broken. I gave up a lot for this job, hoping that it would be my stepping stone in the department I wanted only to find out that I'm surrounded by a bunch of people who throw their co-workers under the bus. I have been at this job for two months, and after six months, I have the opportunity to transfer, perhaps to a sister unit.

I just don't get it. I'm not the kind of person who goes around throwing people under the bus. I work hard. I just don't understand how people can be this way.

How do you cope with toxic environments, power-hungry managers, and inflexible supervisors who couldn't give a rat's butt about your dilemma? Would I be burning a bridge if I transferred?

Why are women so cruel to each other? I just want to cry.

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Specializes in ICU.

What happened? :/

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

((HUGS)) lay low...bide your time and leave.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
((HUGS)) lay low...bide your time and leave.

Thank you. I have four months to go before I can put in a transfer. I just didn't want to job hop so soon, you know? I was hoping to stick it out for the long haul. I have three semesters left until I graduate, but it just doesn't seem like a viable option.

Will having three transfers in three years look bad? First job was fifteen months, got a promotion after a nice annual performance evaluation, then stuck with my first aide job for nine months, also nice annual performance evaluation, and then transferred because this job was closer to the specialty I love.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
What happened? :/

So much. :( It is awful.

I now know that I have to watch my back and keep my mouth shut; no one can be trusted.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

Sharing with co-workers in never a good thing...I'm sorry.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
Sharing with co-workers in never a good thing...I'm sorry.

And the thing that gets me was that it was about scheduling problems. It wasn't anything about other coworkers, and yeah, I admit that I made a mistake of sharing my woes with my coworkers. The manager even accused me of being a "pot-stirrer", that "everyone" could tell her "my business" and someone who is unhappy about everything. All I wanted was the hours that I had been promised during the interview. Had I known that people would be going to management and throwing me under the bus like that is crazy.

It almost makes me want to stoop to their level, but I won't.

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.
((HUGS)) lay low...bide your time and leave.

I agree with Esme12. Just do your job, delight in your patients, and learn from this for your future endeavors. Some places are worse than others to work....but they are not all as you describe. Best wishes to you!!

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And the thing that gets me was that it was about scheduling problems. It wasn't anything about other coworkers, and yeah, I admit that I made a mistake of sharing my woes with my coworkers. The manager even accused me of being a "pot-stirrer", that "everyone" could tell her "my business" and someone who is unhappy about everything. All I wanted was the hours that I had been promised during the interview. Had I known that people would be going to management and throwing me under the bus like that is crazy.

It almost makes me want to stoop to their level, but I won't.

I have my misgivings on your post. But live and learn.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
I have my misgivings on your post. But live and learn.

Care to elaborate? If you have nothing constructive to add, then please stay out of my thread. I'm not in the mood.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
I agree with Esme12. Just do your job, delight in your patients, and learn from this for your future endeavors. Some places are worse than others to work....but they are not all as you describe. Best wishes to you!!

I have only come across one nursing floor that I have seen great management, great colleague relations, out of the dozens I have worked on. I hope that I find a good unit one day.

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Honey, hang in. And never believe what you're promised on the interview.

Hugs.

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