Getting Thrown Under the Bus

[ThePrincessBride]

I'm heart-broken. I gave up a lot for this job, hoping that it would be my stepping stone in the department I wanted only to find out that I'm surrounded by a bunch of people who throw their co-workers under the bus. I have been at this job for two months, and after six months, I have the opportunity to transfer, perhaps to a sister unit.

I just don't get it. I'm not the kind of person who goes around throwing people under the bus. I work hard. I just don't understand how people can be this way.

How do you cope with toxic environments, power-hungry managers, and inflexible supervisors who couldn't give a rat's butt about your dilemma? Would I be burning a bridge if I transferred?

Why are women so cruel to each other? I just want to cry.

[ThePrincessBride, MSN, RN, NP]

I'd rather have them come to me about it than run behind my back to management about it. In fact, I would have taken it much better if a veteran nurse had pulled me aside and told me about it.

But I get what you are saying completely. I'm just of the mindset that if you have a problem with someone, the mature thing to do is go to them first before getting management involved. But now I will forever be thinking about who is could have been.

I don't know you, so I'm generalizing here. But often when we experienced nurses have a problem with a student or a new nurse or a new employee and we go to talk to them about it, they don't receive it well. Some people get offended at the slightest hint of negative feedback. Others will hear the negative feedback as positive in some way, even to the point of signing performance improvement plans and STILL not getting it. Please look inside yourself and do some long, hard thinking about whether this could apply to you.

[ThePrincessBride, MSN, RN, NP]

There are so many things wrong with this snarky post, but again you're demonstrating a lack of maturity and calling into question whether you'd take constructive criticism well. If you behave like this at work, you probably aren't making friends among your colleagues, and rather than "throwing you under the bus," they're communicating with management about a potential problem employee while there's still time to do something about it.

I didn't mean for it to be snarky but I am not in the mood for bs posts. My hours have been screwed, finals are on the way and worse, I found out that my grandmother has c.diff, sepsis and three types of cancer, so my tolerance for backhanded posts from that poster was at a low.

[Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN]

....((HUGS)) ...I'm sorry....you are going to come across this kind of environment off and on in nursing....recently it seems more on than off...many facilities are cutting hours...and they can promise you the moon and not deliver a single promise and do-workers that will toss you under the bus.

I never had this expereince in the beginging of my career so when I married and moved it was a shock to me that people behaved this way AND it was tolerated.

My prayers for you G'ma......((HUGS))

[shermrn]

You seem like someone who likes to complain, you have an inflated sense of self worth and feel everyone is out to get you. Sometimes life sucks, buck up and deal with it.

[Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN]

thread closed for staff review.