I got into a debate with a high school friend on FB (I have since hidden his posts since I can't see his politics without raising my blood pressure) about this last summer.
I posted a link to an article about a girl sent home because she was wearing a sundress with spaghetti straps. Yes, she was out of dress code, but my point was that the dress code is overly restrictive and leads to body shaming for young women.
His argument was that men are biologically hard wired to look at women's bodies.
My argument was that why are we teaching our young women that they need to cover up instead of teaching our young men not to ogle.
I lost him when I asked "At what point does the man assume responsibility? When a young woman is on the stand being asked what she was wearing and if she'd been drinking?" He didn't see the connection.
I attended Catholic schools. Some has uniforms, some had dress codes. The idea was that school is a kid's job. Play clothes were for playtime, and club clothes belonged at the club. My high school's dress code was business casual, though the term didn't exist at the time: no jeans, collared shirts, skirts knee-length or longer, ties for boys.
When I worked at a public high school, the dress code applied to both sexes: no tank tops, no pajamas, no visible underwear, no pictures of drugs, alcohol, or weapons, fingertip rule for skirts or shorts, no shorts October to May.
I'm very tired of the argument that having standards for dress in school is automatically "body shaming". Is a dress code for boys automatically "playa hating"? They're not allowed to wear tank tops either. Like it or not, people are judged by the way they dreas. One day they will be in the working world, with a dress code or even a uniform. Their employer is not likelu to be swayed by cries of "oppression!" because they can't wear flip flops or leggings.
The biggest problem we had with school uniforms was the expense. The schools chose one exclusive provider, who charged as much as they could get away with. My sister's junior high class had a gym class crisis; the uniforms were so expensive many parents refused to buy them. School uniforms should include clothes that can be bought at any store, with pants for girls, and no wool in June (or at all for kids who are allergic) or thin cotton skirts in January.
No that would be too off topic, but I'm always tempted to ask that when I see things in my FB feed saying "We need God back in school!" since it seems to come with the connotation that we need a Christian God in school.
No that would be too off topic, but I'm always tempted to ask that when I see things in my FB feed saying "We need God back in school!" since it seems to come with the connotation that we need a Christian God in school.
I'm tempted to bring the flying spaghetti monster to schools. I'm pretty sure it would like spaghetti strap shirts!
Growing up I went to uniform schools for elementary and Highschool, Middle school we had a dress code but I've always been the odd one out. hoodies were my best friend and so were Jeans. Most schools around here have uniforms. and if there isn't a full uniform there is a mandated Polo the kids wear. takes out more than half the frustration in dealing with a dress code. I've worked and different schools , all grade levels over the past 5 years and all have the same sort of uniform system. So I'm a definite supporter of uniforms. Partly because dress code can be subjective at times and partly because it takes away the stress of always worrying if your wearing what "in". Majority of the time there was more issues with stress and cattyness among girls than we had issues with boy's oggling girls to start.
As for the comments about teaching boy's to be respectful vs telling girls to cover up it is a bit of a balancing act. I agree with the OP to an extent, It should be equal honesty. Girl's shouldn't dress like its beach day or they are in a club and boys told to stop oggling. One thing I absolutely hate is how sexualized everything is. Maybe this is because I've been training to be a nurse since I was a teen but they are just body parts! All girls have boobs and everyone has a butt. They exist, get over it. I live in south Florida where it is beach weather 95% of the year. and humid 100%. I wont fault any one who wears a tank top and shorts in this weather, skinny, fat, busty, flat chested, male or female, But! only if it's not in school. The point of school is to learn academically and on some level how to be professional. Especially when many work places do have a uniform or strict dress code.
Amusing side note: My high school was a career tech school So I was in clinicals to be a nurse my junior and senor year. Most frustrating thing about that was the mandatory white scrub we had to wear. There were so many times where even the guys got in trouble for wearing the wrong kind of boxers. XD
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i agree but what is the uniform.