Does dating get easier as a male nurse in his 30s?

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I am late 20s been out of a relationship for about 6 months now. Not going to the lie but the thought that I will be forever alone creeps in. Most of my friends my age are in long term relationships or married with a family. My brother married and my much younger sister is in a long term relationship. I go on facebook and everyone getting engaged and starting a family. I miss the emotional companion cause I feel like I am all alone. As a male nurse I feel the ratio helps us out, so does dating get much better as a nurse? Is it easier to pick up women at work and such? I am not someone who go on dates very much nor go out.

Do not look for love at work. I am not saying it couldn't happen, but be very careful.

You are a college educated male, and professionally employed. If you maintain your hygiene, don't forget teeth, and are not obese, and don't have a drug or alcohol problem, your odds with women are excellent.

That being said, if you are a "4" and you are trying to date "9" girls, you will have problems.

When in doubt, ask an honest friend.

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Specializes in Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation.
On 7/18/2019 at 2:50 PM, gere7404 said:

^^^ screen name of the dude above sounds like he figured it out, women don’t like male nurses, they like doctors!

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and to the guy asking if you can date patients... no dude super crossing boundaries there.

I guess it can be considered a boundary, but I personally don't have a problem if a female/male nurse ended up dating a patient/family of a patient later down the road.


As for dating in the work place. Yeah, lots of friends at work say not to, but it happens. The friends that I've had that dealt with that was nurses across units, but so far nothing within the same unit. I too don't personally have a problem with this; however, I can understand why this is not a good idea (drama, gossip, talking behind people's back, etc). But sometimes you can't help it. At least for me, my closest friends nowadays are my coworkers. They're the ones that can really understand you at times.

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Specializes in ER OR LTC Code Blue Trauma Dog.

Dating gets worse because you never have any time to do anything due to your school studies. Then after you get a job you start working lifting patients out of beds and wheelchairs all day for all the staff who can't lift anything. Then you go home physically exhausted and die in bed, remaining there in a coma for several hours while all your friends are going out to the club.

Then your girlfriend wakes you up very early Sunday morning which is your only day off, to break up with you because you're not paying enough attention to her. Then you ask if she wouldn't mind taking out the trash on the way out the door while she leaves and you never see her again.

Then you find a new girlfriend and the cycle keeps repeating itself all over again, and then after going through 40, 50, 80 or even more girlfriends, you start to realize the situation is hopeless and will never change.

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Specializes in Prior military RN/current ICU RN..

Dude if you are getting into nursing to date you are in for a rough ride. Also you better be aware that many female nurses do not play around and if you are hitting on them at work and they notify the HN you will be fired so fast your head will spin. I would focus on a career you want not on a way to meet females.

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On 6/24/2019 at 10:09 AM, Kahalaukane said:

If you want a good confidence booster wear your scrubs out on a Friday night and watch the girls flock!! Works pretty well. Keep your head up! My grandmother always told me that when your not looking and focused on what your supposed to be doing, it will happen.

Just curious (I'm married), how does this work? I'm assuming they think you're a surgeon?

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Specializes in ICU.

Unless you want kids, stop fretting about age. Every single one of my friends who got married in their 20s also got a divorce in their 30s. The younger you are, the more you tend to rush things like you're running out of time. Ironic, isn't it?

Anyway, I would probably shy away from trying to date coworkers. A) You're going to develop the reputation of that "creepy guy who hits on everyone." B) Don't you want someone with whom you can talk about something besides healthcare?

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i wanna throw my two cents in...

Dating as nurse or nursing student within the nursing/medical community is a fat zero.

my experiences in nursing school..

All the girls that were in their 20''s were young and dating or living with thier boyfriends.

if they were in thier 30's they were married with 2-3 kids..

2 in my class were pregnant and one gave birth the last part of the last semster.

by the time you get your job you are tired of women or your coworkers. my friend was all happy because i was in nursing school. i was like the novelty being around women wears off pretty quick especiallly after the first test that people fail and the girls are catty. I stayed out of the drama. I had to tell my friend its not the playboy mansion

last comment.. women are bad pickers of men. I can count the times when we are waiting for check offs or sims lab where the girls are complaining about their boyfriends or how their boyfriends are lame or unemployed.

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Does dating get easier as a male nurse? Yes and no.

  1. Yes because no one wants to date a financially insecure male.?
  2. No because now you don't have the time for it.?
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Specializes in Former NP now Internal medicine PGY-3.

Lol one np I used to work with ended up marrying a patient. She was sorta trampy tho

On 6/24/2019 at 10:09 AM, Kahalaukane said:

If you want a good confidence booster wear your scrubs out on a Friday night and watch the girls flock!! Works pretty well. Keep your head up! My grandmother always told me that when your not looking and focused on what your supposed to be doing, it will happen.

Lol lame. Don’t be that guy.

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On 2/23/2020 at 11:04 AM, Tegridy said:

LOL one np I used to work with ended up marrying a patient. She was sorta trampy tho

LOL lame. Don’t be that guy.

Exactly. Unless you also have your stethoscope, nobody can tell if those are scrubs for being a nurse, or scrubs for working in dietery. It's going to be too confusing.

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On 2/20/2020 at 3:08 PM, juniper222 said:

Does dating get easier as a male nurse? Yes and no.

  1. No because now you don't have the time for it.?

Recently swapped to PT nights, 2 nights a week. In FT NP school right now. I workout 4-5x per week (just got my squat rack and a bunch of plates so I can workout during this quarantine!). I still have time to play computer games too. There's always "time" to do things. If I had a gf or someone to date right now, I'd make sure I'd make time for them ?

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Specializes in Nursing.

LOL just know there are tons of guys in similar positions as you. As long as you're somewhat decent looking, the fact that you are goal oriented and smart will attract quality mates. Good luck and have some more faith in yourself man! I am literally in the same exact boat as you and am still in love with my ex but know that that chapter is over! Women are out there no reason to be alone forever man.

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