Does dating get easier as a male nurse in his 30s?

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I am late 20s been out of a relationship for about 6 months now. Not going to the lie but the thought that I will be forever alone creeps in. Most of my friends my age are in long term relationships or married with a family. My brother married and my much younger sister is in a long term relationship. I go on facebook and everyone getting engaged and starting a family. I miss the emotional companion cause I feel like I am all alone. As a male nurse I feel the ratio helps us out, so does dating get much better as a nurse? Is it easier to pick up women at work and such? I am not someone who go on dates very much nor go out.

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NICU Guy, BSN, RN

Specializes in NICU. Has 7 years experience. 4,083 Posts

I would advise against dating a co-worker. If that doesn't work out, you will still need to work together. Ask your co-workers to set you up with friends that do not work on your unit (ideally not in the hospital). You can also try match.com.

DavidASmithRN2B

DavidASmithRN2B

11 Posts

I will be honest man. I started dating a co-worker. It actually worked out great for us. I actually left the job (better opportunity) but now she and I are married and have two kids together. We have been together for 7 years. Marrying her was a great decision. We mesh really well and we get each other. We even worked together great. (Even when I was a manager and she was a floor nurse). To each their own though, as someone else mentioned if it doesn’t work out great end it on good terms as you still have to work together professionally.

stockmanjr

stockmanjr, BSN

131 Posts

3 hours ago, DavidASmithRN2B said:

I will be honest man. I started dating a co-worker. It actually worked out great for us. I actually left the job (better opportunity) but now she and I are married and have two kids together. We have been together for 7 years. Marrying her was a great decision. We mesh really well and we get each other. We even worked together great. (Even when I was a manager and she was a floor nurse). To each their own though, as someone else mentioned if it doesn’t work out great end it on good terms as you still have to work together professionally.

Working as someones superior and dating them is a horrible idea. If someone snitched that could be a huge problem.

DavidASmithRN2B

DavidASmithRN2B

11 Posts

1 hour ago, stockmanjr said:

Working as someones superior and dating them is a horrible idea. If someone snitched that could be a huge problem.

Ultimately I agree with you, the company we worked for was aware that we were dating. I became the manager on a different floor than she worked, per my superiors to prevent nepotism and favoritism. There were times that I had to be her manager though (the company knew) but I treated her no differently than anyone else. I think I may have actually put more work on her because I knew she could handle it.

tenjuna

tenjuna, MSN

Specializes in Informatics, Orthopaedics. Has 5 years experience. 1 Article; 153 Posts

Before I became a nurse my dating options were practically nil. Since I became a nurse they have been practically nil with the option of dating from the workplace, and that option comes with an enormously high risk profile. I finally found someone (another nurse) but we have agreed to completely separate work and personal lives. We do not have any interactions at work other than the few necessary times that come up (I am an Informatics Nurse, she works on Med/Surg). This has been a very good compromise but I am definitely lucky. I would not generally recommend dating someone at work.

Kahalaukane

Kahalaukane, MSN, RN, NP

Specializes in Family. 19 Posts

If you want a good confidence booster wear your scrubs out on a Friday night and watch the girls flock!! Works pretty well. Keep your head up! My grandmother always told me that when your not looking and focused on what your supposed to be doing, it will happen.

Rionoir, ADN, RN

Specializes in Mental Health. 638 Posts

A lot of people get married young and a lot of them get divorced or just live completely boring lives. Don't be too jealous of them. Learn to be happy with yourself and everything else falls in place.

Mix1990

Mix1990

15 Posts

Anyone every date a patient, or family of a patient??? I mean obviously youd have to wait till discharge, and she probably cant be your direct PT, but she could just be a PT on the floor right?

Sciencedude1, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Thinking-Critical Care. Has 1 years experience. 211 Posts

People always say dont date people you work with. The reality is a lot of people date each other at the work place. I guess primitive instincts are sometimes stronger than logic. Heres an interesting statistics article on dating in the work place.

http://press.careerbuilder.com/2018-02-01-Office-Romance-Hits-10-Year-Low-According-to-CareerBuilders-Annual-Valentines-Day-Survey

BSN2MD

BSN2MD, BSN, RN

Specializes in ER, CARDIO DIAGNOSTICS. Has 11 years experience. 5 Posts

1...you gotta stop trying to compare your love life to everybody elses. Its gonna work out for you when it's time. I wouldnt advise dating a coworker....especially as a male...you gotta be careful and protect your license as much as possible...you dont want to do anything that could jeopardize that....live...have fun...and it will happen....plus you've only been out of the relationship for 6 months..dont know how long that relationship was...but if your looking for something serious...everything is probably gonna be a rebound at this point...have fun...relax...stop comparing...then find out what u really want...keep yourself busy as well...

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gere7404

gere7404, BSN, RN

Specializes in Emergency Room, CEN, TCRN. Has 5 years experience. 658 Posts

^^^ screen name of the dude above sounds like he figured it out, women don’t like male nurses, they like doctors!

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and to the guy asking if you can date patients... no dude super crossing boundaries there.