Do women find male nurses attractive?

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Hi

So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).

Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.

I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.

Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?

Regards - Sykadia

I believe a lot of you ladies have taught this young man a valuable lesson.

But it's not the one you think.

Wait what is it? I don't understand, I am pretty dense with these things!

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Specializes in ED, psych.
I believe a lot of you ladies have taught this young man a valuable lesson.

But it's not the one you think.

Well, I for one am *exhausted* from throwing myself and my panties at the hot, hunky physicians today. I couldn't bother myself with the male nurses because, you knowwwwwwww.....

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sorry, you have a beard and you're "100% female?" Just clarifying your statement. Do you "identify" as female or are you born female?

Like it or not, we DO live in a world of gender stereotypes. Specifically nursing. Or teaching. Even doctors. A male nurse or tech walks into a room, the patient or family will say "oh, are you the doctor? " This is the world we live in. Don't get bent over it. Don't take personal issue with it. Correct it in the moment and move on.

Your questions are gross. Were you not aware that both males and females have a wide variety of naturally occurring hair growth patterns? Because that was covered in my education a number of times.

My point is that OP seems to be seeking to exaggerate & validate his own masculinity instead of being comfortable in who he is, what he does, and who he likes. I'm saying that's not healthy but I do believe it's a product of the culture we live in.

"Don't get bent over gender stereotypes *asks invasive personal questions based on gender stereotypes*" Sure. :D

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Your questions are gross. Were you not aware that both males and females have a wide variety of naturally occurring hair growth patterns? Because that was covered in my education a number of times.

My point is that OP seems to be seeking to exaggerate & validate his own masculinity instead of being comfortable in who he is, what he does, and who he likes. I'm saying that's not healthy but I do believe it's a product of the culture we live in.

"Don't get bent over gender stereotypes *asks invasive personal questions based on gender stereotypes*" Sure. :D

I did not write "don't get bent over gender stereotypes." Let's not distort what is actually written.

And how are my questions "gross?" I suppose the thing about writing is that one may perceive something entirely different than what is intended. I am a literal person. I suppose some people really read meaning that is not there.

What's so great about this country is the First Amendment and for us to say what we think. Carry on.

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I did not write "don't get bent over gender stereotypes." Let's not distort what is actually written.

And how are my questions "gross?" I suppose the thing about writing is that one may perceive something entirely different than what is intended. I am a literal person. I suppose some people really read meaning that is not there.

What's so great about this country is the First Amendment and for us to say what we think. Carry on.

Not what you said, eh?

sorry, you have a beard and you're "100% female?" Just clarifying your statement. Do you "identify" as female or are you born female?

Like it or not, we DO live in a world of gender stereotypes. Specifically nursing. Or teaching. Even doctors. A male nurse or tech walks into a room, the patient or family will say "oh, are you the doctor? " This is the world we live in. Don't get bent over it. Don't take personal issue with it. Correct it in the moment and move on.

I did not, as you quoted, say I was "100% female," though in both cases I think the "quotes" were reasonable extrapolations of the meaning in the original text. Unless you were telling me not to get bent when you see male nurses/tech get called doctor. Because I promise, I don't.

If you're being "literal" as you say, a woman is an adult human female, and female has specific biological (scientific, not social) definitions which have nothing to do with gender identity. So I have already identified myself. Even if I were a trans woman, it's literally irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

You may also want to read up on The First Amendment. I said asking a woman if she's genetically male because she admits to having facial hair is gross, and I stand by that. I am neither Congress nor trying to restrict your right to speak, so we're 0 for 2 on what that amendment covers. I disagree with what you said, which literally has nothing to do with the first amendment.

I shan't engage this discussion further, as it has literally nothing to do with OP's concerns. Cheers.

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It's curious to me that you're so nervous about coming across as gay, if you aren't gay.

Im assuming it's because he's attracted to women and wants them to be attracted to him, which they won't if they assume he's gay. He's wrong in his assumption that most male nurses are gay, but I don't think his worry is coming from a homophobic place.

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Im assuming it's because he's attracted to women and wants them to be attracted to him, which they won't if they assume he's gay. He's wrong in his assumption that most male nurses are gay, but I don't think his worry is coming from a homophobic place.

My experience is that the males who worry most about their public presentation have the most reason to worry about/defend their image. Just my experience, but this theory has prevailed in the public sector. State senators who vote for rigid anti-LGBT measures, then are outed for male restroom solicitation. Rabid anti-gay Legislators who are subsequently arrested for a "wide stance" in male bathrooms. (Google wide stance.)

So, say what you will, you may or may not be correct.

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Specializes in Home Health, Mental/Behavioral Health.

I think that someone, male or female, who comes on here with a genuine concern/insecurity asking for guidance deserves the same amount of compassion we would give to a patient. After all nursing is not just a job. It's a lifestyle. My opinion of course. Simply put, you can't let other people's stereotypes bring your self confidence and self worth down. I don't know you. But as you stated, you are a Man's man. You know what you like. You're probably a hard worker. It's true that other female nurses might steer clear because that's just not good for balance. But like a few on here have stated already, the right woman is going to look at you as a whole. And yea, get your confidence up. Even when walking by a construction worker. Because at the end of the day, it's how you feel about yourself, how you treat others, how supportive you are, how grounded you are.

Confidence=Security

Women need to feel secure

Own all your pros, be proud of em (be an employed health professional is a pro!)and know what you need to improve. That's with anyone

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Your questions are gross. Were you not aware that both males and females have a wide variety of naturally occurring hair growth patterns? Because that was covered in my education a number of times.

My point is that OP seems to be seeking to exaggerate & validate his own masculinity instead of being comfortable in who he is, what he does, and who he likes. I'm saying that's not healthy but I do believe it's a product of the culture we live in.

"Don't get bent over gender stereotypes *asks invasive personal questions based on gender stereotypes*" Sure. :D

I am going to have to stand with Mass ED on this one. You did say that you have a beard, which is generally associated with being male, and being 100% woman which is generally associated with being female. Obviously both genders have facial hair, but what is generally considered a beard is pretty much a guy thing.

Given heightened awareness of the variety of ways an individual might identify, your having a beard and being 100% woman can be confusing. There are plenty of people have memberes and identify as 100% woman.

OP- As a mountaineering bearded man with an F250 I work on myself, a CDL, my own oxy/acetylene torches and a .357, I'll answer your question. (Honestly, the list of my manly attributes is much longer.)

AFAIK, nobody thinks I am gay. If I ever encounter anybody who thinks I am gay, and it bothers them, I'll probably tell them I am gay. Why on God's earth would I care if somebody thinks I am gay?

As far as women finding me attractive: I know for absolute certain at least one does. I have some suspicions about a couple others. Also, I must not be giving off any gay vibes, as guys never hit on me or even try to flirt with me.

And now a question for you: Would you be attracted to a woman who finds a man unattractive because he is a nurse?

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing.

Seriously?

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When talking about potentially gay people, ya'll know what a beard is, right? I just couldn't read the beard talk without a smirk on my face.

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I am a nurse as well as a retired Army Ranger. The profession doesn't make the man. It's how people perceive you. Be confident. I am proud to be a nurse. I have never had anyone give me crap about being a nurse. They usually ask what type or nursing I do.

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