Do women find male nurses attractive?

Rbeck911, BSN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

Dude, I ride my Harley Davidson with my scrubs on past construction workers and give them the bird! Bahaha, well, I don't give them the bird, but it doesn't bother me at all. They probably just think your a doctor. Don't worry about it.

It doesn't matter that you are a nurse when talking to a new lady friend. All that matters is how you present it. If you say "I'm a nurse" look all sad they are going to think that you are a sissy ashamed of what you do. That means you don't like your job but are scared to step away from it. Girls read into that stuff, man. If you say "I'm a nurse" and you are proud and smile and engage the conversation, it works to your advantage because, generally, people are genuinely interested in what we do.

As someone else said, your projecting. If your proud of being a nurse, than scream it from the rooftops. Who cares? If people think your gay, so what? As long as your getting tail, does it matter? Man up and stop worrying about what other people think. My wife (also a nurse) would tell you the same thing.

Regardless of that, there is no place for this discussion in my opinion. It makes no difference to the nurses on here if people find you attractive, nor does it affect quality nursing care.

PS. get a job in occupation health or be an industrial nurse. I have great acceptance as a male nurse in that field.

RiskManager · Aug 18, 2016

Nothing affects the heartbeat of a woman like a middle-aged bald white male risk manager. Cynics would say it is arrhythmia but I know better. #ILookLikeARiskManager #DistractinglySexy

Sage611 · Aug 18, 2016

I am actually just beginning my nursing career, but I've always been female. Nursing, in general terms, is a caring profession. I equate your situation to walking in the park. Some men are there with strollers and dogs, and some are in a pack playing basketball. Nothing charms me more than seeing a man show vulnerability, unconditional love, and the ability to nurture. It demonstrates that you are comfortable being in your own skin. You don't cower to societal norms. Don't question your masculinity due to your chosen profession. Like I tell my kids, if the person can't see your worth, they're not worthy.

NotAllWhoWandeRN, ASN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

I wasn't gay until I began meeting female nurses.
Still more research to be done, but I'm working on a theory here.

:roflmao:

CanadianAbroad · Aug 18, 2016

I work with four male nurses and have two male family members that are nurses. ALL are heterosexual. This post has to be one of the most absurd posts on here. Stop projecting your insecurities and blaming your lack of female attention to you, on the fact they think you are gay for being a male nurse. You are also sexualizing the nursing profession. Why the hell would you want a female patient to "like" you anyways? That thought, is predatory in nature; I say this, because you shouldn't give a crap in what your patient thinks of you....as you shouldn't even be questioning dating them. Coworkers won't date you, as we won't mix business with pleasure. If you want to be a nurse, be one because you love the field and not a potential for scoring with the women! This post is really disheartening to see, and you are the classic example of why men find it difficult to break the stigma in nursing.

MassED, BSN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

Are you seriously asking females if they "like" a man taking care of them?? As in being attracted to a manly nurse? (Which, by the way, has no place in the discussion of appropriate nursing care.)
In my opinion, male nurses put way too much thought into their gender/genitalia.

well what about society and the role

of the "sexy nurse?" Have you seen the Halloween costumes related to this? That has been a stereootype forever.... so whether one likes it or not, that is relevant. It may not be "appropriate" in our PC society, but I hear this daily of "oh you nurses and doctors are so attractive" as though that is even relevant to our practice. Of course would an individual say "oh you all are so unattractive" but I digress...

MassED, BSN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

It makes me so angry and frustrated that we live in a world where people think they have to make a show of gender stereotypes to prove themselves, especially with the idea that it relates in ANY way to sexual orientation. Like OP, I have a beard (though probably not as luxurious as his) and I climb mountains. I'm still 100% woman.
I'd say about 1/3 of the male nurses & techs I've worked with have been gay (and the only 2 men in my nursing class were) but I certainly don't meet a male healthcare professional and think "You must be gay."
I agree that the question about whether we like men taking care of us is gross, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt for the moment that it was bad wording that did not convey his intent. For the record, I will be a women-caregivers-only patient, but it's a personal choice and for most patients I've encountered, it's not a big deal.

sorry, you have a beard and you're "100% female?" Just clarifying your statement. Do you "identify" as female or are you born female?

Like it or not, we DO live in a world of gender stereotypes. Specifically nursing. Or teaching. Even doctors. A male nurse or tech walks into a room, the patient or family will say "oh, are you the doctor? " This is the world we live in. Don't get bent over it. Don't take personal issue with it. Correct it in the moment and move on.

MassED, BSN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

OP, not really a question to ask in an "allnurses" forum, because you will get a lot of backlash...like you did. Being male nurse myself, I was married before even going to nursing school, so I can't answer your questions but I do tend to notice younger men concerned about these things. Based on experience most men who get into nursing are either married to woman or to close one, who is NOT in the nursing profession, so it's really a bad idea to ask a bunch of female nurses. But in general though, women would prefer a guy not to ask that question because it brings out insecurities and lack of confidence...not qualities they look for. So you kinda shot yourself in the foot. Please do yourself a favor, get out there meet different girls and never date where you work.

I can see your point, but people can feel free to post whatever they want.

Everyone has their journey and however they choose to share about it should be allowed, just as we female nurses can post about our issues. I don't fault him. Working in a mostly female environment sucks, even for me, as I have worked in other fields male dominated and it is far less dramatic.

PsychoSocial RN · Aug 18, 2016

After going through the nursing program with some great guys, one who is pretty damn hot, I think it's awesome and attractive! I find it attractive because it shows that you have an awesome personality to do what we do as nurses and to go through all the "dirty" work to get there. I also feel that health care is only truly understood by other members in health care. Perhaps you will find a nice nurse or someone else in the HC field. There are areas of concern when it comes to male nurses in my opinion. I think men may have a tough time in labor/delivery, post partum, etc. However, the men in my class were more embarrassed themselves then turned away from any female patients. You worked hard to get to where you are, embrace it and be proud! NOT everyone, male or female can be a nurse.

Wile E Coyote, ASN, RN · Aug 18, 2016

I married a male nurse. It was lust at first site... so I could tell he was not gay
Male nurses are like all nurses, educated, intelligent, and hard working.... that is attractive.
By the way, lying is NOT attractive. Best of luck in your search.

I think you should check again, ya know, for science.

We'll wait here.

dangerous1 · Aug 18, 2016

Hi
So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).
Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.
I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.
Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?
Regards - Sykadia

I'm married. But, my husband, is a nurse. I don't think of him less of a man because he works as a nurse. I think that stereotype is really dated. I haven't met any nurse who wouldn't date a male nurse because of their profession.

Krzysztof · Aug 18, 2016

I believe a lot of you ladies have taught this young man a valuable lesson.

But it's not the one you think.